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Hi! My name is Kayla.. I'm 21. Through out life, I've had quite a bit of rocky roads and difficult dilemmas. They sucked at the time, but now I've become a call for help.I do it because I enjoy it.
If you send question in my inbox, you'll be answered FIRST.
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heyy i was wondering if you know anything about green tea and diet plans, i wanted to start a diet to lose close to 10 lbs in a month. and I heard green tea was a good way to burn fat.
Do you know a good diet plan? and Im 16f and a vegetarian.
YES.
Green Tea is wonderful to lose weight, and it's strange that you're asking me, because I'm on the Green Tea Diet right now!!
Okay.. here's the rules to obey by. NO soda, juice, or regular ice teas.
Go get Lipton Green Tea with citrus. (80 calories and really good)
Also, go to CVS or Rite Aid. There are pill supplements as low as $7, but as high as $20. Make sure the one you chose is all natural, and SAFE. The one I use is GREEN T.
Diets are like animals.. the more legs the animal has, the worse it is for you. Stay clear of the pigs and cows, and stick with the fish and turkey.. though you don't have to worry about that too much being a vegetarian.
Down a bottle of water before EVERY meal. It fills your stomach so that you eat less.
No snacks after 8pm. You stomach shuts down with the calories left over from the day.
Also, Crystal light makes these powdered packets that you drop into regular water. They have hardly any calories in them and they're really, really good.
I am 14/f and my bf is 16/m. We were both in a relationship, we both broke up around the same time, and we started dating axpromiately three months after the break ups. So there was a gap. But the exes are whats causing some problems. His ex... Lets call her S and well call my boyfriend B. Alright so before I even knew B or liked him or anything, I've hated S. I reeeally don't want to go in to the details of why all that hatred is there but yeah... And my ex, isn't exactly important except that he really screwed me up. He was sixteen while we were dating and I was fourteen. After about a month he tried to have sex with me. I told him no, I wasn't ready, I'm too young. And he broke up with me. He told me that he was only dating me because he liked making out with me andd he thought it would be easy to get in my pants. I was heart broken. To know that someone only wants to use you for something like that and then drop you just makes you feel like shit, and I told myself I would never get involved with a boy like that again. So when I met B I was so happy. He's a good boy, really. We've been dating for like four months. And we haven't gone past making out. Well... the other night I got taken a little off guard when he told me that he had gone preeetty far with S. Not sex, but third base things that I am NOT ready for. I was so shocked... and really upset even though I had no right to be. They were dating and I didn't even like him like that then. I don't know why I got so upset. Some of it has to do with my hatred of S and it honestly makes me sick to know that B would do something like that with her. I love B and it actually makes me stomach hurt to think about it. But I also think most of it has to do with the fact that I don't want things expected from me. And I was scared. Here B had gone with this experineced pretty and willing girl and I... I felt like a little kid. I didn't KNOW that B had this experience. I talked to B about this and he told me I was beautiful and smart and that I actually cared about HIM and his personality which S never had. That I was more than he could want and he if he could take back what he did with her he would have never done it in the first place. That it was stupid of him. And he told me that I don't have to do those things with him. That he values being with me more than anything. That should make me feel better right? Well it did... Until I realized that Iiiii am the problem here. HE might not expect me to do those things but in my mind I raise this bar that I think I have to meet. HE might not compare me to her, but I do. I'm scared it will turn out like my ex. That he could leave me because I'm not ready for the things he is... B said he would never do that. I believe him. I trust him. But why do I still feel like crap? And why am I doing all this damage to myself? Why can't I think the same way B does? And what if I ammmm ready for those things??? Help?
You're mixing all the wrong things, instead of embracing what you have. You've comparing relationships that you both USED to have to what you have now. It comes down to this..
1. Not all guys are dating you to have sex with you.
Is it something they might hope for.. YES. But when a guy says that he'll honestly wait, don't doubt him.
2. He wouldn't waste his time. If all he wanted was to hit base or run home, he would have dropped the ball and bailed the game the second you told him you weren't ready.
3. Don't beat yourself up for what you're not ready for.. ever. A girl only gets a body once. I'm 22, and just recently had sex with a guy I've been with for 2 years. I went through all the pressure, and read the signs of jerks. DO NOT SETTLE. If you're not ready, YOU'RE NOT.
4. This guy, B.. he seems great from what you're saying. He cares about you, but furthermore, RESPECTS you. If you continue beating yourself up over what he did with her, or what isn't being done with you, it could be bad for your relationship.
5. When you're ready, you'll know. But don't do it because you feel like shit. Do it because you love or care for him deeply.
Please keep me updated.
Ever since 7th grade ,I've had a best friend ..Carly. We're in 11th grade now ,so we've come a long way.We both have never really had serious relationships or boys that have caused us to not be close until just recently. A few months ago,she got a boyfriend .Im actually really good friends with him and he's a good guy and he's definitely the one who i'd want carly to be with. Lately,everytime i hangout with her she either talks about him or is with him ,so i can never spend any time alone with her.I used to be okay with hanging out with them together and we all got along good until the last couple of weeks ,shes been different and seems to only pay attention to him and not me..even when we are together.She still tries to talk to me and hangout,but HE'S ALWAYS THERE or shes texting him or talking about him if he's not there.As of the last couple of days,i've been acting a little different toward her and not paying as much attention to her so she can realize what shes doing. She really has been a wonderful friend and I don't want our friendship to die out because of this guy. I've also been talking to a guy too,as of the last 2 weeks so i'm gonna make sure i don't blow my friends off since it's happening to me.Any suggestions on what i should do?
Ahh.. the honeymoon stage can suck for the best friend.
It sounds to me like you are above else trying to be the bigger person by not displaying how she is hurting you. This is both good and bad. You obviously respect her, and cherish her friendship, but you also shouldn't be neglected, especially after all the year you've shared as best friends.
You need to talk to her. Ask her as casually as possibly for a girl's night in. Also, make a point that you're seeing someone, but that you would never drop a friendship or ignore someone because he is in your life.
There's no reason why you guys shouldn't be able to work this out. Wanting a friend to be a friend is a simple request. She can't however read your mind, and you need to tell her in a calm, comforting way that while you love the friendship you have with her, you're missing all the pieces that have gone missing since the new guy.
I think everything will be fine, but good luck!
Hey
So in 2009 there were several instances(no more than 3 or 4) where Id have this strong odor down there. Last sunday it happened again and now, a week later its still the same. Well i have sex a lot, safe to say everyday if not every other. (yes with the same person lol) What could this be? I was never really concerned before because I just accepted the fact that its probably just something it does every now and then. The odor never lasts more than 2 weeks or anything so i dont know exactly what it could be. If anyone knows what it could be please let me know.
There's no simple solution to this. Unless someone on this site has a PHD, then advice coming from anyone could possibly be errelavent.
However, in any instance where you're having an odor down there, you should have it looked at. Do not be nervous about this, as it could be something as simple as a bacterial, or yeast infection, or a urinary tract infection(UNI)-- something that all women (sexually active or not) go through.. but also, could mean you might have a sexually transmitted disease (not to scare you).
I advise that you do make an appointment with either your gyno, or a normal doctor could be of help, too. Do this quickly, and I say this only because if it is UTI.. it can spread to your kidneys, and cause a whole lot of problems.
Make sure that when you do go, you know vital information to share with your physician, such as if it smells when you pee..after sex.. before your period, what your diet is like..even if you are allergic to laundry detergent.
Good luck.
hey guys! So i had this pimple looking thing on my chin in feburary.Ive gotten cases before where i had things that were pimple liek and ended up being an infection under the skin.Well,it popped in the end of feburary and now its been nothing but a red spot on my chin like something is gonan come up but nothing is.My mom things its scar tissue and something bite me there and its gonna stay like that.I told her i wanted to go to the dermotologist and have them check it out but she said insurance isnt gonna cover it and its gonna be alot of money.So its upsetting me i dont like my face enough as it is because i have alot of sun spots on them that my mom wont have bleached.So my questions are if anyone knows what it could be and is there anyway to lighten it up or have it go away altogether? Please dont say covering it up with make up though,ive been doing that thanks.Oh and sorry if it was a bit disgusting to read hope you guys can help! :)
Hey there!
First off, I have a license in cosmetology. Second, if money is an issue, I would look around for other options... Examples:
Technical Institutes/hair academies: Have any high schools around the area? Licensed cosmetologist have to know the ins and outs of skin. They do facials, and are bombarded with different issues that the skin endures. If you find a local school, go in, request a facial, and while you're there as the teacher her personal opinion. Explain your financial situation to her.
Nurse: School, college, work.. wherever you are, see if there's a nurse that you can speak to. I'm sure they'd be willing to suggest different possibilities to you, without requiring pay.
Either way, if someone who has experience with facial disproportions, can take a look and identify what's going on. When you get a possible diagnosis, tell your mom. Explain to her what you learned from professional opinions, and that even if it means you'll pay the money back someday, you're willing to do it.
As for what I can help you with here.. it definitely sounds like scar tissue. Unfortunately, I can't say more then that without further physical description, or photos. If you can get back to me, responding with as much description as possible, I can read into this further.. and help you out as much as I can without seeing it for myself. I'd like to help you with this, so please take some time to write out a detailed explanation of this red spot. Shape/size/what it feels like/if it's flat, surfacing out.. anything you can say!
Thanks!
Sorry it's a bit long :P ...
So I've been talking to this guy just before Spring Break (Which was about a month ago), and we talked on Msn like EVERYDAY. Not one day we would not talk to eachother. But I recently started liking him a few days before Spring Break too... And now I really like him and don't know what to do ... Aboutt , 2 days before Spring Break I think, he asked me what his ringtone should be between these 2 songs. I picked one and like a minute later he goes, ohkay that ringtone it is. He asked me about my ex, and lots of things. But the thing is... I only have one class with him, and we sometimes talk there. And all of a sudden a few days AFTER Spring break, we stopped talking. Like, the conversations "die". Although I wanted to tell him I like him, and I got some of my friends advice too, but then they said that I should wait a little longer. Now I really don't know what to do so we can "bond" more and become a bit more closer. And also, I had other boyfriends, but its never been this hard to tell them I like them for some reason. The problem, is that I don't want our friendship to end with him ignoring me. And I just really don't know what to do now, what can I do so we can be a bit more closer..? All advice appreciated. :) Thanks.
First things first. Do not talk to the kid about abortion. No disrespect.
So what do you do now? You wait. I don't think you messed anything up, because he was obviously talking to you because he wanted to. Now what he needs, is a LITTLE space. Let him see what it's like to not have you around for a few days, maybe a week. I'm not talking about being rude to him. You should still wave and say hi to him whenever you see him in the hallways and stuff. I'm saying that you should leave him wanting a little bit more from you. The mysterious type, ya know? =)
I'm 22, and I've dealt with a lot of boys just like this. If you use this trick for just a little while, until he approaches you again, it should work in your favor. Just keep it simple, friendly, and always look and feel as confident as possible.
Don't let it discourage you if he takes him a while. Some guys are very different then others. Maybe he's shy about expressing what he feels for you? You need to give him a little while to figure out what exactly is going through his mind. Then when he starts talking to you again, I wouldn't hold back for a second. Tell him everything that you've been feeling.
Good luck!
Thanks in advance for those helped in my former quetions & this one!
Also sorry about it being so long it's the full story!
Kyle crushing him for a year now.
Back in Dec '08 he said “I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I don't like you that way, I'm sorry I only wanna be friends. Are we okay?” those were his exsact words! They still bother me a little. Me & everyone I know are home-schooled we all get together for bowling on Wensdays & other advents. Last Wensday me & my bff Sara agreed we'd "make" each other talk to your crushs next Wensday(22nd) I've kinda night-mares since we agreed to this about him not wanting near me ever again. Since late Feb '09 he starting acting more polite(opening doors, pulling out chairs,HUGS & ect.) I would really hate to lose his friendship, but at the time I wanna know if this year I've know him (invisable to center of attention) means he finally wants something more! I'll see him practally all day(11am-7pm) 'school advents' are the cause for the time. Do I really wanna take a gamble at this AGAIN? But if I don't Sara won't talk to her crush! For both me & Sara are friends say that are guys like us. Well how do I make this work? >< Bonus the Formal/Prom is next month!
-lily
Hey there!!
Time limits never, ever apply to the heart. That goes for all sorts of love. The aftermath of love gone wrong, and the before love, where things start to come together.
There is no rush for these things, because they will happen if they are meant to happen. You don't want to approach him again now, after he told you it wouldn't work. Think about the refreshing though of rejection. You don't want to go through all that again, do you???
If this has turned around and now believes that you and him would be good together, then he knows what to do. Just like you told him how you felt, he should be able to tell you how he feels.
When he told you he wasn't interested in being anything but your friend that day, you dropped a ball and left it in his court. Let him be the one to pick it up and try and throw it to you now.. if the case is that he wants to pursue things. =)
As for your friend.. although you two made an agreement, your situation already sounds different. You would be repeating yourself to a guy who didn't want to take that step just yet. She should tell this other guy how she feels anyway, and you should just be supportive if he says no, and excited if he says yes. =) But you.. don't need to do anything else as far as her. Just worry about making this guy see you in a different light. Let him see who you are. Thank him for opening doors and being well-mannered. Those are great characteristics for a guy to have!
Maybe this upcoming extra closeness with him will help even more. I can't see how it could hurt your situation!
Have fun at your formal, and good luck!
*Edit: I put a lot into answering that question. I spent a really long time coming up with a plausible answer. Your feedback was not deserved after the way I helped you. And I'm not talking about the grade. I really was trying to help the best way I knew how. Sorry if my advice offended you.
I'm writing thriller and my characters have to break into a medical records room to steal their records before they get into the wrong hands.
The problem is I don't know a thing about how hospitals operate. I was wondering if anyone could explain to me how emergency room records are filed, and how one would go about acquiring them. And some of the difficulties they would have.
Any knowledge you have on the subject would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
Hey there..
On Advicenators, it may be hard to capture such information. But I do suggest that you go to a local hospital, and ask.
I'm sure that since you have a legit reason as to why you need to information, they wouldn't mind telling you things that may help you write your book.
Trust me, I'm in the process of writing a book myself, and without plausible research, and hands on experience.. it's very difficult.
Try going to a library too.. you may be surprise by how much information you'd be able to obtain there. Also, any nurses or doctors in the family? Ask them too! They much know something.
Good luck with the book! =)
I have this guy. I fell in love with him the first day i meet him. I was dating his cousin then but coudlnt get him off my mind. we have only been dating a week now. but see he has a rough past couple kids. he dont know about you. you know? well he had a daughter. never meet her or anything because the mother wouldnt let him see her. his daughter was two got killed in a car accident yesterday and was killed by a drunk driver. we are "taking a break" i was raped a few weeks ago and a car accident a few days ago.. our break started after his cousin was lieing to him about me because he found out we were dating and didnt like it then he found out about his daughter. it hit all at once. well this morning we meet up and it was akward i gave him a hug and i started crying. i cryed the whole way home. his uncle told me he cried to. i had also wrote him a note telling him about why i liked him and how i feel him love with him the day i meet him. and how i would always be here for him no matter what. he cried to. i went with him tonight just driving dirt roads. and had a good time. i keep asking him whhat he was thinking about he told me he was thinking about something he and i had done a few nights ago and i got upset because i didnt expect him to say that. we didnt really talk after that he got mad because i chewed a piece of gum (im allergic to gum) but i need to chew it to relax me. i spit it out before my throat closes. any ways i really love him and i just dont know how to help him through this. and i dont want to lose him.
Hey there!
First, and by far more importantly.. I know that it's your decision to report a rape, but I highly suggest that you do. I've heard it from many friends, and even my mother.. and they all regret keeping it to themselves. But it's a shame that happened to you.. and I am so sorry.
Next..
Four years ago, my uncle died. Not only was it tragic for my mom, his children and wife.. but the majority of the pain I saw, was in the eyes of his mother. Nobody should ever have to bury their own child. Ever. Unfortunately, it happens everyday, and there's not much we can do to prevent it. It was hard watching my grandmother.. crying every single day and night. And to this day, I could swear that she doesn't hurt a bit less then the day she got the phone call.
Point being, there is never a right about of time to give him about his situation. He is bearing the hardest kind of pain there is right now. And although it may be hard for you to understand completely, listening to him right now it's the best thing you can do. Even if you don't have much to say back. And even if you did, words can't cure his loss.
Allow yourself to be the shoulder he needs. Pick up when he calls, offer your hand when he needs it. These are things we do for the people we love. But he's going to need time. He's going to be scared. Not only has he just lost his daughter, but he's probably worried about losing the friendship with his cousin as well.
Give him his break.. but remind him of your comfort. Tell him that you'll give him the space he needs, but that you love him, and want to be there for him. It may take a while, but if he realizes how much you care for him by doing this, you may find that your reward is exactly what you want.
Good luck.
i have this guy i go to school with that i have liked for a really long time. he has a girlfriend that goes to a different school not that far away. he and i have been friends for a long time but lately he has been very flirtatious and i can tell he likes me. i don't know what to do. i would like to have a relationship with him but i don't want to hurt this "other girl" or seem like i expect him to dump her for me. what do i do? should i tell him how i feel or let things go on the way they are? i am a 15 year old girl and he is also 15 and so is his girlfriend
Stay mysterious. Don't return any kind of affection back to him at all.. other then being a friendly girl. This will give him satisfaction, knowing he can have a girlfriend, and keep you on the side in case his relationship fails.
Wait for them to break up.. naturally. If he's seeing interest in other girls while he has a girlfriend-- it's not a good thing. And it shows that either he doesn't like her that much, or he's just not a good boyfriend to have at all.
Although it's very lady like and respectful,you don't need to feel bad for this other girl so long as you don't flirt back with him, or try and take him. Let him make this decision all on his own, and stay clear of any conversation with him which includes his girlfriend.
If they break up, take your shot then, if you still even want it.
I asked someone to homecoming yesterday morning and got a "maybe" because he was already going to ask another girl... so I said alright, just let me know.
But homecoming is next week! (I know, I procrastinated...) So how long should I wait for him to get back to me?? I want a date so if he says no then I want to have time to ask someone else. So should I just ask someone else if he doesn't tell me in time?
A girl should NEVER settle for a guy's "Plan B".. his "maybe", was his way of being too scared of hurting your feelings. He's caught between being considerate for not shutting you down, and rude, for leaving you to wait on him.
Ditch this guy, and go with someone who doesn't need to think about it.
Times up.. NEXTTT boy =).
Good luck. =)
Okay, so a few days ago I was hanging out with my bff, one of my other really good friends and her bf, then a day later I was talking to my bff and she told me that she thought my friends bf liked me A LOT and that we were flirting bigtime, but I didn't even notice.and I guess my friend noticed it and was kinda getting mad...so were all hanging out again this weekend and I don't want her to get mad at me for me and her bf flirting...but the problem is I don't even notice when I'm flirting with a guy! Any helpp?
First things first-- talk to your friend. Tell her that you're sorry if you misunderstood your actions with her boyfriend. You didn't mean for it to look like flirting, you were only being friendly and interactive with him because obviously, you and him have built a genuine friendship with one another. And besides, it's better that you and him get along, as opposed to a situation where you and him completely dislike each other.
When you all hang out this weekend, base your decisions on what might hurt you if you were in her shoes. Touch-contact with him should begin and end with a friendly hug, and nothing further in between. Don't let it get awkward. Don't let this get in the way of being yourself, and having a great time.
Your friend should trust that you wouldn't intentionally try to flirt with her boyfriend. This needs to be addressed, so that it's not built into something worse, because I'm sure that you don't want your friendship with her to dissolve.
She must really mean something to you, considering that you're trying to acknowledge and fix what exactly is going on.
I wish you the best of luck.
I went to Subway today in my town and had some sweet onion sauce on my sub sandwich. The Subway sweet onion sauce has a very nice flavor to it and I was pleasantly surprised by it. Subway's sweet onion sauce only has like 40 calories in it and 9g of carbs(carbohydrates) for a 6 inch sub if I recall correctly. Subway is great about keeping fairly "healthy" things in their places so it was nice to have something this sweet but not be full of fat.
I'm now wondering what the Subway sweet onion sauce recipe is. I would really love to have the recipe for sweet onion sauce from Subway so I could make my own to keep/use at home.
Could anyone tell me how to make Subway's sweet onion sauce by supplying me the real recipe for this special sauce? What is the Subway sweet onion recipe? Please and thank you!
I googled it for ya.
1/2 cup light corn syrup
1 tbsp minced white onions
1 tbsp red wine vinegar
2 tsp white vinegar
1 tsp balsamic vinegar
1 tsp brown sugar
1 tsp buttermilk baking mix
1/4 tsp lemon juice
1/8 tsp poppy seeds
1/8 tsp salt
1 pinch cracked black pepper
1 pinch garlic powder
I have been prescribed propanolol (20 mg) to deal with test anxiety, probably more on a short term basis. I have heard that taking even 10 mg would be okay, but am not sure if I should do that, or take the whole 20 mg.
I am 24, F, weigh about 120 pounds (approx. 54.5 kg)..so you have an idea of my weight/age range.
Also, for anyone who has taken propanolol, how has it helped you deal with anxiety (test anxiety, stage fright, etc)? And how long does it stay in your system? Thanks
Hey there!
I was on Lexepro, which helped but made me sick. i was recommended to webmd.com to help make a decision on the best anxiety pill.
Since you are looking for client responses, this web-site carries a whole bunch.
http://www.webmd.com/drugs/drugreview-6840-Inderal+Oral.aspx?drugid=6840&drugname=Inderal+Oral
what is another reason why pee would smell other than eating asparagus
What you eat.. what you drink.. you're dehydrated.
Also, UTI's.. and other vaginal infections.
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/you/healthy/sex/u/urine-strong-odor
well lately i have just been having a tough time. dont tell me not to do this or to tell someone or get help or shit. i just wanna know, is cutting your wrists/arms with a knife, and not having blood come really cutting? because i dont want to let everyone see i just want to do it...i need to. its the first time, and just tell me, if i cut my wrists but not deep enough to have blood, is it still slitting my wrists? thanks
The idea of "cutting"... is not that you draw blood. Cutting, pinching, pulling, burning, and many other personal actions.. are called "self-mutilation".
You do not need to draw blood.. but I'm assuming that differs among cutters. They all do it differently for different reasons.
I'm not going to tell you it's bad, or that you shouldn't do it. But I'm only a college student. Therefore, this website will offer all the information you want about cutting, and self-mutilation.
http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/common/standard/transform.jsp?requestURI=/healthatoz/Atoz/ency/self-mutilation.jsp
I have blackheads around my nose and whiteheads like, by my eyes. They're making me so self-conscious lately, i also have small bumps on my forehead which i cover with my bangs.
Anybody know a good way to get rid of this nasty things?
Hello there!
I'm got a few web-sites for you.
http://www.skinid.com/econsumer/clearskin/index.view
That's a wonderful web-site because it actually has you fill out qurestions that relate directly to your skin condition.
http://www.acnetreatment.com/
Another skin analysis.
http://www.acnetreatmentcream.com/bestnaturalacnetreatment/
http://www.consumersearch.com/www/family/acne-treatments/
Scroll all the way to the bottom, and you'll find tons of over the counter, cheap.. but effective treatments!
Good luck.
This is all natural.
So, I'm going out with this guy and I don't really see him a lot because of our schedules at the moment but hes always saying stuff, like he misses me and he thinks about me a lot.. but he never calls or texts or anything. Another thing he does is sometimes when we're talking on aim, he'll just all of a sudden leave without saying bye or anything. Is all of this normal? Its my first relationship and idk, my friend and her boyfriend are always talking and texting all the time, but this guy dosen't seem to want to. Anyway, if anyone has any advice, let me know. Thanks :)
Guys are very different from girls. They don't take as much offense to certain things, and they don't look into things as hard as us girls do. Sucks, I know. But it doesn't always mean that they care any less.
But it is bothering you.. and it should be addressed to him in a nice, and calm way. Tell him that you wish he would just put in a little bit more of an effort to show you how much he misses you. Explain that you like him, but you want to hear from him more often-- you want to know how he's doing and what he's up do.
Also, you could try texting him and asking about hit day. Mention that you miss him and he'll get the picture. If you start doing it, I'm sure he'll start too. The relationship will also improve in time. When my boyfriend and I first started to date, he wouldn't call me sometimes until the early morning. He'd tell me before he left where he was going and I could call-- but I didn't want to interupt. Once school started, the late night phone calls had to end, so I told him. Now he not only calls and texts a few times in the day-- but our relationship feels so much more powerful. And until he explained it, I was just like you. A bit confused and scared. But, it turned out that he didn't want to talk me because he HAD to-- but because he WANTED TO. A lot of people in relationships start to get into a mode where it feels more like a job then a fun relationship.
My advice is that you speak to him. And in the mean time.. shoot him a text saying "Heyyy..I miss my boyfriend =)"
Okay, so I'm not saying I hate my best friend "Nora?" It's just that she can be really mean to me and to our other friends.
Ex.) On this one site were I posted a story she also did and my story was more successful than hers and she wrote a bad comment about me in my guestbook ,but it was annomonsye[sp?] well i found it was her because her IP addresses matched. Well I was upset about this ,but I got over it.
Ex.) She constantly says she "hates" me and she knows that upsets me. Even thought she might or might not mean it.
Ex.) She constatly offendes me.
Ex.) We both had this friend named "Laura" but one day "Nora" decided to not like and hate "Laura" so she turned on "Laura" while I didn't .
Ex.) She talks about our friend "Michelle" behind her back and tells me how much she hates "Michelle" while I sit there an listen.
Ex.)She tells me she'll never like my type of music/style and then like it. Hiprocritic[sp?] Which strangly makes me mad.
And we are slowely drifting away. I don't know if I should go with the flow considering she's been mean. Or try to remain bestfriends with her [and try to get over all this]
So please tell me what you think of the situation. Sorry it's alot and that it whatever else I could be sorry for.
Thanks in advance. :)
My advice, is to take a good hard look at that list you wrote. How upset do these things make you? Is there more you could have typed, but didn't? What is your reaction to her when she does these things?
Best friends will come and go your entire life. This girl sounds jealous, insecure, selfish, and aggressive. What part of you deserves one bit of that?
Don't be passive about any of this. If you think there's any redemption here, then talk to her. Tell her everything you here. That she makes you feel like crap and obviously doesn't appreciate you. The fact that she fell low enough to anonymously insult something you were proud of, is NOT friend.
Was she ever a good friend to you? If so, is there a chance she'll return to that person? If not, then why take one more day of your life and put it to waste?
Know that if confronting her doesn't work, and your friendship fails.. that your friendship was drifting because a good person and a bad person will never stay together.
If you do stay friends, make sure you don't get caught in the same rut. EX: Agreeing when she makes these rude comments about friends.. or backing down when she insult your interests.
And PLEASE remember.. if she's talking about other people, she's probably talking about you.
Ditch the chick.
Good luck.
14 girl.
overweight.
I feel like I'm dying :/
My chest hurts....
I've dealt with this since I was like 12 and I've never been to the doctor for it.
Its not an everyday thing though... It happens every few months.. But lately its been like almost everyday for the past week..
I told my mom and she says theres nothing wrong with me since I seem fine and I'm not coughing weird shit up or anything like that.
And she thinks nothings wrong since me and her both deal with the same issue from time to time.
But I feel like hell.
It feels like a sharp pain in my chest that lasts for a few seconds and goes away. Then after a few minutes it comes back.
What the fuck is wrong with me??? :(
Hey there..
I have the same problem. I've had it since I was 17, and I'm 21. I can't count on all my fingers how many times I've had EKGs and Ultrasounds trying to figure out what exactly causes this.
I finally switched doctors, and they narrowed it down to the following.
Stress.
Gas.
Costochondritis.
Stress, can so more physical pain to your body then you'd ever imagine. And what's so scary, is that sometimes you can't think of the stress that's even causing it. If you have any kind of anxiety or panic disorders, then you should seek help in that type of feield.
Depending on if your pain is located between your breast bone, or the sides, it may just be gas. Sometimes, right under the breast or the side of the breast are the biggest signs that it's just gas.
This is the Mayoclinic definiton of Costochondritis..
the cartilage of your rib cage, particularly the cartilage that joins your ribs to your breastbone, becomes inflamed. The result is chest pain when you push on your sternum or on the ribs near your sternum.
I was diagnosed with Costochondritis.. and it's so much more then painful when touching it. I've gotten those short stabbing of pain that made me want to scream.
I'm sure you are not dying, but see a doctor. They go to school for 8 years for stuff like this, and knowing what exactly is going on will relieve you.
Also, if you think about it, you're not giving it a chance to heal, since your mind knows sub-consciencesly that it's capable of coming back.
Good luck!