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Should I REALLY get involved?
Thanks in advance for those helped in my former quetions & this one!
Also sorry about it being so long it's the full story!
Kyle crushing him for a year now.
Back in Dec '08 he said “I'm not ready for a girlfriend, I don't like you that way, I'm sorry I only wanna be friends. Are we okay?” those were his exsact words! They still bother me a little. Me & everyone I know are home-schooled we all get together for bowling on Wensdays & other advents. Last Wensday me & my bff Sara agreed we'd "make" each other talk to your crushs next Wensday(22nd) I've kinda night-mares since we agreed to this about him not wanting near me ever again. Since late Feb '09 he starting acting more polite(opening doors, pulling out chairs,HUGS & ect.) I would really hate to lose his friendship, but at the time I wanna know if this year I've know him (invisable to center of attention) means he finally wants something more! I'll see him practally all day(11am-7pm) 'school advents' are the cause for the time. Do I really wanna take a gamble at this AGAIN? But if I don't Sara won't talk to her crush! For both me & Sara are friends say that are guys like us. Well how do I make this work? >< Bonus the Formal/Prom is next month!
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Hey there!!
Time limits never, ever apply to the heart. That goes for all sorts of love. The aftermath of love gone wrong, and the before love, where things start to come together.
There is no rush for these things, because they will happen if they are meant to happen. You don't want to approach him again now, after he told you it wouldn't work. Think about the refreshing though of rejection. You don't want to go through all that again, do you???
If this has turned around and now believes that you and him would be good together, then he knows what to do. Just like you told him how you felt, he should be able to tell you how he feels.
When he told you he wasn't interested in being anything but your friend that day, you dropped a ball and left it in his court. Let him be the one to pick it up and try and throw it to you now.. if the case is that he wants to pursue things. =)
As for your friend.. although you two made an agreement, your situation already sounds different. You would be repeating yourself to a guy who didn't want to take that step just yet. She should tell this other guy how she feels anyway, and you should just be supportive if he says no, and excited if he says yes. =) But you.. don't need to do anything else as far as her. Just worry about making this guy see you in a different light. Let him see who you are. Thank him for opening doors and being well-mannered. Those are great characteristics for a guy to have!
Maybe this upcoming extra closeness with him will help even more. I can't see how it could hurt your situation!
Have fun at your formal, and good luck!
*Edit: I put a lot into answering that question. I spent a really long time coming up with a plausible answer. Your feedback was not deserved after the way I helped you. And I'm not talking about the grade. I really was trying to help the best way I knew how. Sorry if my advice offended you.
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