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guy i like has a girlfriend and is a flirt (with me)
i have this guy i go to school with that i have liked for a really long time. he has a girlfriend that goes to a different school not that far away. he and i have been friends for a long time but lately he has been very flirtatious and i can tell he likes me. i don't know what to do. i would like to have a relationship with him but i don't want to hurt this "other girl" or seem like i expect him to dump her for me. what do i do? should i tell him how i feel or let things go on the way they are? i am a 15 year old girl and he is also 15 and so is his girlfriend
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I think that you should talk to him and i think that you should tell him how you feel because if you keep on flirting with him and nothing is happening then i think that you should leave him alone because you said that you do not want the other girl to get hurt so like i said just talk to him
Just keeping it real
Joey
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You should tell him in a way that explains to him that you do have those feelings for you and that if he does have true feelings for this other girl he needs to stop being flirty with you. He needs to know that if he has no intentions of carrying out a romantic relationship with you he shouldn't lead you on in the way that he has. Plus your only 15 and there will be many guys that will do the same thing that he is. Dont be the other woman, but dont worry about her feelings. Its not you that is flirting behind her back its him. Hopefully if he is as good of a friend to you as you say he is he will understand and repect your feelings and make a change in his behavior or his mate choice to benifit you both. Good Luck!
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If you have liked him for a long time, it is possible that he has felt the same way but never said anything. The best thing you cam do is just talk to him about it and be honest about how you feel. You may be suprised at the outcome. Find out I he really has feelings for you or if he is just being a player. It is very important to know the difference. If he does want to be in a realtionship with you, then he will have to prove it by letting the other girl go. DO NOT PLAY THE ROLE OF THE OTHER WOMAN. I can't stress that enough, he won't respect you the same way and you will also find yourself in her shoes down the line if you lead him to think that it is ok to indulge in that type of behavior. So, get to the truth and if it is real, get to making changes. If not, you can keep the friendship. If he is just flirty with lots of girls, you don't want to get your feelings hurt. And don't worry about hurting the other girls feelings if he does choose to be with you. If you are the one he really wants, you're doing her a favor by showing her his true intentions. Then she can find someone who really just wants her. It's difficult at first, but she will bounce back. Good luck!
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Stay mysterious. Don't return any kind of affection back to him at all.. other then being a friendly girl. This will give him satisfaction, knowing he can have a girlfriend, and keep you on the side in case his relationship fails.
Wait for them to break up.. naturally. If he's seeing interest in other girls while he has a girlfriend-- it's not a good thing. And it shows that either he doesn't like her that much, or he's just not a good boyfriend to have at all.
Although it's very lady like and respectful,you don't need to feel bad for this other girl so long as you don't flirt back with him, or try and take him. Let him make this decision all on his own, and stay clear of any conversation with him which includes his girlfriend.
If they break up, take your shot then, if you still even want it.
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