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kind of long. i told a guy i liked him when i don't.
Okay before I start this I'd just like to say that I know this is bad, but I'm looking for advice, not for people to criticize me and tell me what a horrible person I am.
So about a month ago, this guy that I was pretty friendly with told me he liked me. I'd already known this for several months, but I guess I was hoping he'd get over it so when he told me, I panicked and rejected him. After I rejected him, things got weird between us and we basically stopped talking. I hated that because I really liked talking to him since he was nice and understanding and he never judged me, and I missed it. So two days ago I decided enough was enough and I told him that. And then we started talking about when he told me he liked me, and I don't know why I did it but I convinced myself that I liked him, and I told him that. Now I realize that I JUST liked talking to him, not him. But he still likes me, and now he thinks I like him back. And I don't know what to do, because I've already hurt him and I'd really hate to have to do it again, especially since this time he got his hopes up. He's really sweet, and I guess it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world to go out with him, but I don't know. Should I tell him what I did (and break his heart), or should I just try to live with what I did and give us a chance?
By the way, 16/f.
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I would just explain to the guy that you thought he was a very nice sweet guy....and because you are such a caring sweet girl you felt the need to make him happy....so, you kind of jumped the gun and told him that you liked him and actually your feelings for him are more as a friend.
This obviously will not be what he wants to here, but, just be nice to him if you can and introduce him to a friend of yours who needs a boyfriend! ha ha
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Hey it happens! You gotta be honest! Otherwise he could end up poppin out from behind your car naked on rollerblades chasin you down the street screamin "It aint over" He will be upset but give him time and he'll get over it. But you don't do it to yourself! Its a waste of your time and his. There is no point in you being with someone that your not feeling like that. A relationship should be two people growing together and fulfilling eachother. If you continue you nor him will feel fulfilled and you won't move forward because you will continue to be focused on the fact you don't like him. As my homeboy would say walk away and charge it to the game. Much Love!
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i think you should try and see how it ends up in the long run. ive done it a couple of times and ended up really liking the guy. its always worth the shot. if you dont do it you totally might regret it.
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This was my friend about a year ago. She decided to give it a try and they've been going out ever since :D! she didnt even realize she liked him until they started going out! I mean, if you try it and it doesn't work out,you could always say that you just like him as a friend and its not ment to be. But if your that much against not going out,and theres no doubt in your mind that you guys will only EVER be friends-then it'd be best to drop hints that you think of him as only this. things like "*insert name here*, i'm so glad i have a friend like you,you one of my best!" You have to try to get back into the buddy-buddy stage as i call it. You could also try to set him up with one of your friends;which will make him happy,you happy,and your other friend if its a success! All in all,if you dont want to give him a chance,its just hurting him even more if you say that you like him when you dont.If he only likes you, its okay,you won't break his heart. Sure he'll be upset, but its so much better than giving him false hope. Its a tough dicision to make; do you give him a chance? (you could be missing out on a great guy!) Or is he too much of a friend to even consider? Do what makes you happy, because if your not happy,then he most likely won't either!
good luck,hope i helped!
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That happens to me all the time. I think you should tell him the truth unless you just know going out with him is going to turn out like a tiger and rabbit. Which means for the worst because the tiger is going to win while the poor rabbit is killed.
Okay enough confusion, here is what you should do, you don't like him but you like talking to him. So, make yourself to were he doesn't like you anymore but still has the balls to talk to you and have a shoulder to cry on. This may work if it doesn't work and you hurt him again you'll be in that arkward silence. Actually I hate to say it but some people are not meant to talk to each other. Telling him the truth may hurt him and he won't talk to you for a while but he will soon get over it and end up talking to you again if you try to get the conversation going. Truth works if that doesn't work then just for the sake of him go on a date.
Hope I didn't confuse you. Good luck, and no I honestly don't think your a bad person truth hurts and life is hard and if you don't like him he is just going to have to deal with that and move on.
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First. You are not a horrible person ... you let your emotions flip/flop, you caved and convinced yourself you MUST like him because you missed him ... now that the panic and loneliness has passed, your head is clearer and you are regretting your decision.
I am assuming when you say you "don't like him" you mean you "don't like him romantically", but you DO like him as a friend and you want to continue the friendship.
I am also assuming you are willing to BE a friend, and you aren't just keeping him around to feed your own ego - just have someone around that you can talk to. I am also assuming you are there for HIM too.
The worst possible thing you can do is nothing: Don't just keep pretending romantic interest. Don't date him to avoid hurting his feelings. Don't continue to let him think he has a chance to mean more to you than he does. In the end, this approach will crash and burn. But don't be brutal and cruel either.
Tell him honestly you don't know where your feeling are. Sometimes you are interested to see if/where this can go - and other times you want to keep this firmly in the friendship box. Apologize and tell him you KNOW this isn't fair to him but you PROMISE to continue to be honest.
Even though you want to continue to be his friend, he may get tired of waiting on you and move on. He may feel jerked around or have no interest in a platonic relationship with you.
If he does move on, you have to accept it and let him go so he can be happy with someone that IS interested in him.
It will also open up your world for the right guy for you too.
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Go with your hart man if you think you guys have a chance then go ahead give it a try but if not than just tell him how you feel and say I would still like us to be friends or some thing. O and what you did was wrong you are a horrible person!!!! Just kidding
Mr-Fix-It
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