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whats my problem?
okay i dont know how to put this without sounding stuck up.. im a good looking chill girl who can usually get any guy she wants. im great with guys but i never ever like any of them. its rare that i find a guy i have feelings for. well i met this guy that just blows my mind. we clicked the moment we met and we are so much alike. our relationship is perfect. the problem? anytime i finally meet a guy i actually like i get nervous. i cant keep a conversation going and im shy. i went from being this confident cute girl that my boyfriend was soo goo goo over to a girl that doesnt say much. i think the reason im like this is cus my ex really brainwashed me and now i have a hard time opening up to ppl. i am not able to open up to my boyfriend AT ALL. how can i loosen up and not get so nervous around my BOYFRIEND and how can i help open up to him? i think the best way would be to just straight up tell him how i feel about this but idk how.. and i dont have the guts to.. any suggestions??
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I dont think your ex brain washed you. Instead I think he just pushed you away.
As for this new guy
what ever you do dont open yourself up sexual...you know what I mean **raised eyebrow**
I dont think you need to "open up" to him or anyone, I think its more important to communicate.
Its normal for you to feel so thrown off balanced. Im sure he is too its just that he was not dating your ex and has not experienced what you have.
I think you need to accept that this new relationship might be good for you...again I said MIGHT!
What ever you decide to do, do consider this learn from the past and if it ever seems to head towards the same direction your past relationship did...then be brave and strong and get the hell out of the relationship...thats why I say dont open yourself sexually and that also means not doing sexual favors.
If this guy appears clean and is not pressuring into anything or misleading you then dont worry everything life takes time...EVERYTHING
and just like that youll see that it is not as hard ( no punt intended)to communicate BUT!!
Dont tell guys your weakness
NEVER!!
Unless you know for a fact that he will never betray or abuse of your sincerity and will use them (your weakness) against you. Especially sexual weakness dont let him know your weakness and how to get you weak. my opinion is avoid bringing sex into the relationship
and avoid talking about it until you are COMPLETE SURE that this is going to be your husband and the father of your children and youll be happy even if you become pregnant at this stage in your life if not then dont give it up no amount of condoms will prevent you from getting pregnant once your pregant.
take it one step at a time theres no rush.
Theres no point into telling him everything cause you dont know if this will work out
and just think for a moment what happens if it doesnt work out? then what? He will know your past and history and are you really ready to give up that part of yourself that easily?
we change with time and with experiences in life and thats normal thats part of learning so dont feel bad you might be going through early signs of settling down.
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the more you like someone the more nervous you get because now youv admitted to yourself that you really like him and you dont want to screw it up.its who you are.its the type of person you are.
you need to explain to him all of this or else hes going to start thinking you dont like him.be open with him and ask him to just be patient because you really do like him.
a way to loosen up is to not think about loosening up.gpo with the flow.if you think too much inot the situation its going to make you even more nervous.tlak about anything that comes to your mind even if its random and weird.as time goes by youl be more and more open but the main thing is to NOT THINK ABOUT the nervousness k!just like going into and exam
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