I am a level headed 21 year old with lots of wisdom due to watching everyone else in their situations and experiencing a lot of my own. Feel free to ask any questions, If I don't know the answer, I will find a suitable one for you. Best of luck to all.
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I've caught myself waking up fondling myself. I did read in a magazine that women can have wet dreams and I'm sure I've done that. But what bothers me is waking up with my hand in my bra. I've been to so many doctors I don't want to add a shrink to that list, so can someone please help this confused female? (link)
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are you sure you're fondling yourself or just maybe scratching an itch and not removing your hand? bras can get mighty uncomfortable, try taking it off to go to sleep/
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19/F
I've always been very picky about who I would want to date and wanted to make sure it was someone I could really have a real relationship with. I never wanted to date just to date and I never dated anyone until January last year. My boyfriend was the first guy I went on a date with, my first kiss, and various other firsts. We've been together a year now and are absolutely perfect for each other. We're already thinking and planning our future life together and I already know that when the time comes for him to pop the question I will say yes.
I'm not asking for advice really but more of a Poll of sorts. How common is it for someone to marry their first boyfriends? Am I just really lucky that I found the right guy on the first try? Also just out of curiosity how many of you think I'm nuts for marrying my first boyfriend? :P
Anyone's thoughts are great. I was just pondering this and thought I'd ask. (link)
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I'm also not sure as to how many people marry their first boyfriends, and although its good to have past experiences to learn from, marriage is about both of you having the commitment and drive to make it work because you love eachother that much. nothing else matters as long as you both are sure that even though there will be ups and downs, you will work together and make your relationship work through ups and downs. i work at a nursing home and ive met plenty of people in their 80s and 90s who have been with their spouse for like 65 years and they were their first loves. Your life together depends on how much you put into your relationship. I wish the best of luck to you, and do not think you're crazy. Just make sure before you do that you absolutely know that he is the one you want to wake up next to every morning, the one that will take care of you no matter what, that will wipe your tears when your sad, that will understand when you need your time alone, and that he's as committed as you are. With not having any experience dating I would say that your biggest concern would be in a few years or maybe 10 that you will be curious about what its like to be with someone else..because he's the only one you've ever been with. Hope this helps./
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16/f Okay soooo my vagina has been itching for the last id say 3 days. i guess its slightly irritated too but there is no burning or pain or anything and its not swollen. the itching, btw, is like around the entrance to the inside and sort of in the inside, so its not from shaving or hair coming in or anything. i have no change is discharge either. i know itching is related to a yeast infection but i dont have any other symptoms. is it a different type of infection or is this just the beginning of a yeast infection and the other symptoms will probably come later? if so, id like to start on medicine as soon as i could so it goes away! please help! (link)
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Although im not a doctor its very possible that you could have vaginitis, which requires antibiotics i believe. Make sure you when you urinate that you wipe down, NOT UP. infections are spread so easily that way. shower every day, and make sure you don't wear silky underwear or nylon/polyester very much they don't allow you're vag to breathe. Cotton is the best thing you can wear. go to the doc if it doesn't go away, some infections clear up on their own. hope i helped
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i was wondering my ex fingered me and it hurt a lot he kept on doing it for like 5 minutes I mean it felt good and all but it killed like hell, why is this happening? also i have another question why do guys lick their fingers and smell them after fingering? my ex did this to me and it made me freaked out and grossed out (link)
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You should see the things that guys do. For real, you wouldn't believe how many guys are completely and totally okay with having sex with you while you're on your period. Men even lick down there so believe me its more of a turn on to them then anything else. I'm sure he doesn't like the smell, hes just curious as to how it smells. it probably hurts if you're a virgin because you're vaginal hole isn't used to being stretched yet. Tell him to ease up and work into it and use SAFE SEX practices, its very important. hope this helped.
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My wife and I recently can home from out to dinner and found my 14 year old son and his 14 year old girl friend in the family room on the floor having sex. To be honest we did not come in on them for about 5 minutes because we went straight to our room and kept hearing "something" and finally went out and there they were completly naked and had obviously been active for at least all of the time we were there - and for a while before. There were two used condoms on the floor and my son was using a third.
Yes they stopped when we came and. We told them to get dressed and clean up. We called his girl friends parents and discussed the situation with them. They said that they had been having safe sex for six months. She too is on the pill while he uses a condom. I am ashamed to say they are more careful then his mother and I were when we were young. They are good kids and do have a happy healthy relationship together (without the sex). We do not want them having sex at such a young age but we are not sure if putting up an "iron curtain" between the two of them is the answer - the girl friends parents agree too. We can use some advice.
Thanks
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From experience I can tell you that telling your kid they aren't allowed to do something makes them want to do it more, and they're going to do it anyway no matter how much they have to sneak around. It's really a crappy situation knowing that your 14 year old should still be innocent and is not. Really what the girlfriend's parents are right, I mean, the best way to handle the situation as it is, is to make the consequences of sex in a conversation as real as you can to them, and that birth control is SO important because raising a kid is HARD, and almost impossible for someone who is just a kid themselves. Although they feel like they're adults, theyre not and will not realize that until they're much older, how much they didn't know and how much they should have listened. You can give them your opinion, but I feel that its too late to stop it and will only cause a wedge in your relationship with your son. I hope this helps
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If a guy ejaculates near my privates but not inside me can I get pregnant? my bf and me have had sex and this happened to me i got tested right after and I am not pregnant but im worried and I am against abortion so.... (link)
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It is possible, but I wouldn't be too worried about it right away.
First and foremost the most important thing you need to remember is that if you believe that you are responsible enough to have sex, you must also believe you are responsible enough to pay the consequences of having sex. If you don't want to get pregnant, take proper precautions.
You're right about abortion, its completely wrong to kill something you created. Its proven that the fetus can feel pain during the abortion.
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i know that wen people are maturbating they just finger themselves and stuff but ive never really tried it before. id like to give it a go but i dunno what to do. anyone tell me what works for them?
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You have to explore your body and try new things to discover what YOU like. Everyone is different, but penetration isn't always the best thing. Try clitoral stimulation.
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Okay so my boyfriend of a year and 7 months just broke up with me. It feels weird and I feel alone...I talked to him and the reason is for distance..."he wants me a lot closer". Is it okay to still hook up with him? We're both in love with one another and I honestly don't want to move on. I think he maybe be the one. Bad idea? I don't know this just seems weird and I'm not feeling right.
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Hooking up is a bad idea. That gives him the illusion of a relationship without actually having to have one with you. If he truely wanted you, and wanted to be closer to you, than he would make the move. I think he's using a rediculous excuse. You aren't going to feel right, you were together for a year and a half. You have to find yourself again to feel right. If you're both in love than he would want to compromise. This doesn't sound like the case. Nobody wants to move on, but we do. We push forward, and find ourselves a litle bit every day. Best of luck to you.
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Im a virgin but i smell down there.People say to to douche but nothing is going near my vigina. My boyfriend says its because im a virgin i smell like that..what does that mean. I take baths and air dry but i still smell. Its not a horrible smell but i wish there was more of a plesant smell down there
What can I do?
What does this mean? (link)
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Pussies smell. That's the answer. Ignore these people telling you to douche. They're bad for you, can cause Urinary Tract Infections and so can baths. Sitting in a bath tub with your own bacteria and dirty pussy smell leaking into the water is a stupid idea. You clean and scrub and the way it smells at the end is the way your pussy smells. Your boyfriend is wrong, also. Virginity has nothing to do with pussy smell..
Good luck.
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I broke up with my boyfriend last weekend. We decided that we don't want to hate each other and want to be friends and talk but when would be a good time to talk? I'm over him except that I miss talking to him but I'm 90% sure he still loves me. (link)
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That's one of those things you have to deal with when you break up with someone. It hurts but you have to give yourself and the guy time to heal before you can talk about being friends. They say it takes half the time you were together to get over eachother. Either take that, or if you really really want to talk to him, just say I miss talking to you, and that's that. You don't want anything more or less than talking. Good luck
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15/f
I could never trust anyone but my closest relatives.Everyone I knew would betray me.People would always make fun of me for reasons I wasn't familiar with.First there were the ones I went to elementary school with.I'm not exaggerating when I say I had almost no friends at all.Only a few out of hundreds of them could actually understand me.For 8 years it seemed like nothing would ever change.I thought they hated me because I was and still am a straight A's student who doesn't like going out at night and getting into trouble.But that's not all.I had a boyfriend who I was truly in love with.He was with me for 7 months,but then cheated on me with my best friend who ended up not caring about me and went for him.I was destroyed for months.He was my everything and I grew up with her.Luckily,my grades remained the same.The thing is I can't bring myself to trust anyone now.Especially boys.For some weird reason I always think they're kidding me.I'm in first year of high school now,and today a guy from my class who's apparently hitting on me came up to me and said I was the hottest girl in class,and instead of feeling good about it,I wanted to slap him! I did say thanks though,but I have major trust issues!I always think people hate me and make fun of me behind my back... I want to fix it but I'm lost and I don't know how.I hate when some people who are good to me,mostly girls tell me they wish they were me,because they have no idea how I feel and what emotional mess I am.What should I do about this? It's just too much for someone my age to handle.Thanks for taking your time to read this. (link)
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I felt the exact same way at age 14, and the exact same thing happened to me. Honestly, to this day I have a hard time trusting people. You have to let people EARN your trust. You can't just hand it out to them and that's what growing up is all about..learning about life. You've learned this step..good. There will always be people in your life that don't deserve your trust, and there will be some who do. You need to decipher which ones those people are. To this day I still don't enjoy hanging out with new people, it's really not my thing and I don't like to hand out trust like people do with candy on Halloween. But the ones that are worth it will prove themselves to you. People who matter don't mind, and people who mind don't matter. Good luck
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Okayy so my question is quite simple i would say..its 2 actually.
The first one is when you are having sex/masterbating how wet is your vagina supposed to get? Because when i finger myself it is A LOT like its dripping everywhere and i have to keep something under me to absorb it..is that normal? My other question is when you queef (fart from the vagina) is it supposed to last long because mine do..does it last longer when fingering or during sex? Is it even supposed to happen?
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You should see how wet some girls get. They actually spray like fountains..so yes its normal.
2. its air getting into ur vagina. My best guess is that the more air that gets in, the longer your queef will be.
happy masturbating.
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is there a way to get the law peoples (government)to let me not live with my parents,, because my house is like world war 3 and i cant take this anymore. (link)
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No, not really. You have to get them to sign a paper making you legally an adult. So good luck. I tried that when I was a kid too. But really, you need to stay with your parents. I thought my house was bad too...then I got out into the real world. Taking care of yourself sucks, and having to go to work every day sucks. I moved out when I was 16, and I wish i would have stayed home the 2 years I had. It's a really tough world out there and you aren't prepared for it.
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please comment if u hate ur parents. ok so me and my friends nickname EVERYTHING, and so we nicknamed going to utah with her as "getting drunk" as a joke. then my stupid ass mother got on my fb and read our conversation and we were talking about "getting drunk" (going to utah) and then she FREAKED out and i was like wtf? so now she thinks im going down the "wrong rode" (link)
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You may hate your parents now, but trust me in the long run they'll be your everything.When I was growing up, I NEVER got along with my mom. There are a lot of things about my youth that I regret. One, the biggest one, was thinking I hated my mother. Take a step back and think of how your life would be if your parents weren't there for you. Your parents are the only people who will always be there, no matter what. If you didn't want her to freak out, you shouldn't have code named that "getting drunk". You don't see what's wrong with that? Obviously, lol you're young yet. You don't realize what you have until its gone. Cut your parents a break..because someday they won't be able to be there. And you WILL miss them and regret everything you ever did to upset them.
Good luck
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My boyfriend says he wants space, yet he has been calling me and texting me an we used to live together so when he needs something he texts me an calls me to come over my parents house to get it, like the slightest thing like today his trimmer and to show me his new dog, like the whenever i ask him or other people ask him what we arehe says he doesnt know yet he needs time & space, okayyy so why if you need time & space do u keep calling me and texting me an then why would he want me to tell him what i thought of this new dog he got? im so confused please i need advice
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It sounds like he wants his space but still wants to know you're available at any time to take care of his any and every need. Next time he calls, ignore it til the next day. Don't seem too available. Dont let him think you're doing nothing but sitting around and waiting for him, because he will take advantage of it.
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i am usually working a lot so when I am off which is 2 days during the week and every other weekend i stay at my girlfriends house but I went yesterday to go see family for 2 hours and she got upset how can I tell her we need to be able to go see family or other friends without makin her mad? she even got mad because i had to go home before dark once to help my mom with something outside. (link)
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She sounds like she always wants to spend all her time with you, and thats not fair. You have your own seperate life, as well as one with her. You can do what made me learn pretty quick with my one boyfriend, which would be to say "I want you, I DON'T need you. I will live without you,even though I won't want to, so if you don't let me go and do things on my own, I will be permanantly on my own." But then you will have to reassure her that you really do want her, its just you need some time for you friends too, and if she is going to keep getting mad about every little thing than she needs to find someone who will have no problem being stuck up her ass 24/7. As for my boyfriend who told me that, we get a long really great now whether its him going to the bar with his friends, going to his moms, or me going somewhere. She needs to have friends too. A lot of girls give up their friends and stuff to be available for their man all the time, every time. She needs to have her own life too. She has no right to get mad at you for wanting to do stuff without her. For christ's sake, if you were ever going to propose to her, you wouldnt be able to do it without her knowing about it with her head shoved so far up your ass like that. If she doesn't give you space to do things, she will end up losing you completely, leading to A LOT more space than she wanted you to have. If you have never done anything to make her mistrust you, then point that out. She needs to trust you to do whatever.
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is it bad to write my college essay on how i got caught with weed?
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It depends what the essay is supposed to be for. I don't think it would be if you explained what you've done to correct the situation. if you're bragging about it and still doing it, your essay will prolly not end up with a good grade. But if you wrote about what you learned from it, i dont see what the problem is.
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i have so many weird dreams and i dont know what they mean. i had 2 a few weeks ago about a guy i liked(dont anymore he has a gf and i dont wanna mess that up for him) and he proposed and ran off before i could answer him then we were in some forest with my family...then there is this other guy i really really like i have for so long and i had alot of dreams about him but nothing bad or anything just kissing and family stuff. he knows i like him so i know its never going to happen..well we had a dance and i kept seeing him and that whole weekend i dreamed about him and last night i had a dream about one of my ex's friend who is in my class and i dont talk to him or anything..and i really want to know what dreams mean because these dreams confuse me to no end (link)
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Proposal
To dream that you are being proposed to, indicates that you are merging a previously unknown aspect of yourself More directly, the dream suggests you are thinking about marriage or some serious long-term commitment/project/situation. Your reaction to the proposal indicates your true feelings about marriage or commitment.
To see the woods in your dream, represents life, fertility, rejuvenation, and spring. Alternatively, it symbolizes the unknown and unconscious. You need to be more open-minded to discovering your potential and instinctual nature.
Family
To see your own family in your dream, represents security, warmth and love. It could also symbolize bitterness, jealousy, or rivalry, depending on your relationship with your family. Alternatively, it could mean that you are overly dependent on your family, especially if the family members are in your recurring dreams .Consider also the significance of a particular family member or the relationship you have with them.
Crush
To dream that you have a crush on somebody, is a literal reflection of your attraction and fascination for that person. To see your crush in your dream, represents your current infatuation with him or her. If you find yourself thinking about him during the day, then it is understandable that his image will appear in your dream during the night. If you dream of your crush frequently, then your dream maybe be telling you that it is time to let this person know how you feel, especially if you are dreaming of him or her in a good way. Only good things can happen from you telling your crush. Even if he or she is not interested, at least you can move on and stop wasting time on him or her.
If your dream that your crush rejects you, refers to not knowing how he or she really feels about you and whether he likes you or not. Sometimes it is safer and easier to move on if think that they don't like you back.
If you dream that somebody has a crush on you, then it represent you own sense of worthiness and esteem.
To dream about a former crush, refers to that particular period in your life and what you were feeling. The former crush represents a point in time when you first had the crush on that person.
To dream that your crush rejects you or stood you up, represents your feelings of insecurities and anxieties. The idea of not knowing how your crush feels about you is driving you nuts. Assuming that he or she will reject you before you actually know, saves your from getting hurt. You are afraid to find out how he or she feels about you
next time you have a question about dreams, if u can remember everything thats in ur dreams, remember objects in them and stuff, go to www.dreammoods.com
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so there is this boy i really like in the year above me in school he knows i like him, i really wont to tell him exactley how i feel but i dont know how to say it because i was thinking of saying it on msn so the next ime i seehim in school he might tell all his friends an they would just laugh at me thats what im scared off. what shall a say to him next time he cmes online?? (link)
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If you don't want to scare him off, definitely do not tell him you like him online. That's what 12 year olds do. Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. If he says says, and you both hit it off, he might tell you he likes you before you have to tell him straight out. Have him give you a chance to show who you are, and find out who he is before you decide that you ACTUALLY do like him.
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my mom left for an hour so i smoked alone in my room.
i didnt realized it smelled until 30 mins later when i got up to go to the bathroom. i sprayed deodarent and went into bed. just as i was shuttign my light off my mom came home. she came in my room and i was fake sleeping. she asked my why it smelled so i told her i sprayed deodarent bc i didnt shower. (bc i just got a haircut) and she didtn believe me. shes like i know it smells like marijuana.
i denied it and kicked her out. she left and i havnt left my room since. it is 11:30 am and i am so scared to leave my room and face her. what do i do? i already denied it and i dont want to come clean to her because this is the fourth time she caught me!!!! yes i know im an idiot and stupid so spare me the repremanding comments. please just help me out or tell me what to do! my mom thinks weed is like heroin. im scared to even look at her because shell say somehting to me. (link)
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Wow, has your mom ever tried weed? She sounds pretty unknowledgable about it. First off, quit smoking inside the house. GO FOR A WALK and smoke outside, somewhere where other people aren't going to catch you if you insist on keeping smoking pot. Second, tell your mom the truth. Then tell her you're going to quit. If you keep smoking OUTSIDE from now on, she will believe you quit. If you insist on not telling her the truth, you're going to have to figure out how to lie to your poor mother and cause her to distrust you.
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