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Is there anyone I can trust?
15/f
I could never trust anyone but my closest relatives.Everyone I knew would betray me.People would always make fun of me for reasons I wasn't familiar with.First there were the ones I went to elementary school with.I'm not exaggerating when I say I had almost no friends at all.Only a few out of hundreds of them could actually understand me.For 8 years it seemed like nothing would ever change.I thought they hated me because I was and still am a straight A's student who doesn't like going out at night and getting into trouble.But that's not all.I had a boyfriend who I was truly in love with.He was with me for 7 months,but then cheated on me with my best friend who ended up not caring about me and went for him.I was destroyed for months.He was my everything and I grew up with her.Luckily,my grades remained the same.The thing is I can't bring myself to trust anyone now.Especially boys.For some weird reason I always think they're kidding me.I'm in first year of high school now,and today a guy from my class who's apparently hitting on me came up to me and said I was the hottest girl in class,and instead of feeling good about it,I wanted to slap him! I did say thanks though,but I have major trust issues!I always think people hate me and make fun of me behind my back... I want to fix it but I'm lost and I don't know how.I hate when some people who are good to me,mostly girls tell me they wish they were me,because they have no idea how I feel and what emotional mess I am.What should I do about this? It's just too much for someone my age to handle.Thanks for taking your time to read this.
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I'm a freshman too. Out of this world you will be lucky to find one good friend. So don't exspect it to come at one time. My childhood friends and I broke up and we all don't have really true friends at are school. Though you can VCR those friends who are there but you don't have to trust them with everything. The boy might be good and he might be bad but don't let one bad friend and one bad relationship screw up your life. But what ever you do don't screw up your grades. Those are your tickets yo a better future.
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I felt the exact same way at age 14, and the exact same thing happened to me. Honestly, to this day I have a hard time trusting people. You have to let people EARN your trust. You can't just hand it out to them and that's what growing up is all about..learning about life. You've learned this step..good. There will always be people in your life that don't deserve your trust, and there will be some who do. You need to decipher which ones those people are. To this day I still don't enjoy hanging out with new people, it's really not my thing and I don't like to hand out trust like people do with candy on Halloween. But the ones that are worth it will prove themselves to you. People who matter don't mind, and people who mind don't matter. Good luck
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I soemtimes have tht problem.,
The best thing to do it get a notepad with a padlock.
And right all your problems in there. And there and lock them away until you are ready to sovle them.
When i had this problem i wrote my prblems i had that day and then on sunday in my spare time. I would look through them and wrote a solution. Just trust yourself and believe you can get through the problems you got through.
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You said it in your first sentence; when it really comes down to it, family is all you truly have in this world. That's not entirely true, because there are trustworthy people out there, but if you know five of them in your whole life, consider yourself lucky.
But, about the rest of your story. Don't let this one guy ruin it for the next one because you just might push away a really good person because of something he had nothing to do with.
Heartbreak really sucks- I mean REALLY sucks, but you can't be scared to love because of it.
We know when we're getting cheated on, and we know when we're being lied to. I'll be willing to bet that when that jerk was cheating on you, you kind of knew it in the back of your mind-you just chose to ignore it.
The best way to be in a relationship and still keep your sanity is this....Set up boundaries. Have expectations about the way you want to be treated, and if your boyfriend doesn't live up to those expectations, dump him. Don't make excuses for him, or think he will change. Just end it and move on.
Listen to that little voice. It is telling you the truth. So don't push it aside just because you really like the guy.
Don't get angry at people who are nice to you. That's the thing. When we get cheated on it totally destroys our self-esteem. The people who should feel bad, like your friend and that guy, don't even get effected and the person who gets cheated on walks around feeling so down on themselves.
Just remember-the smartest, best, most beautiful people still get cheated on. It wasn't you, it was them. Maybe it's time for you to open up your heart to the rest of the world. It's just so hard, but you're a brave girl if you do!!
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Welll you are to young for this. But I mean it does happen . I mean you can't trust everyone . But you have to really get to know people to call them your friend . I lost a lot of people in my life . And I thought they where my friend but they just use me . So now I am very careful with who I say is my friend . I look at how they treat other people how they treat themselves and etc . And to be honest I only have 3 real female friends. And now for the boys part . Not all boys are the same . You just have to keep looking . Look for the qualties thatb your ex boyfriend had but then try to find better. And try not to make sure your friends and boyfriend get to close . And explain to the new boy you meet. Tel him what your not interested in and tell him you have no time to play games and you have no time for your heart get broken . Try it . And be honest with people let them know from the beginning of what you do and don't like . So then they will make the decision if they wanna be with you or not . And it will cause less pain to you because you told them from the beginning . And there is notthinfg wrong with being smart sweety .
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