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BIG PROBLEM ):
16/f
k this is super complicated.
first off, ive been on birth control for about 3 months.... k so on to the situation!:
so theres this guy who ive known for about 14 years, hes my brothers best friend and his family and my family are REALLY good friends, but anyways, he told me he wanted to have sex with me, hes 20 btw, well me and him ended up having sex. the first time we did it it was october 31st, i got my period after that though. then we didnt have sex untill december 23 ( we didnt use a condom ) then after that we had sex on january 2ed, we also didnt use a condom, but he pulled out before he came. k so now on top of that, my last period was on 12/19 and it only lasted on day (not normal!) but im thinking that was probably because i have just barely began taking birth control pills 3 months ago.. and now i was supposed to get my period a like a week ago, and i still havent gotten it, and im REALLLY scared that im pregnant. im going to take a pregnancy test tomarow. OH and the worst part is that the guy ended up being a jerk even though we basically grew up together and our families are really close, he doesnt talk to me, and told his friend which is my friend also that he didnt wanna mess with me anymore, and i havent talked to him in like a week, so if i am idk how hes gonna react, and i really wouldnt know how to tell my parents, and im scared if i am to tell them cause my parents will FLIP cause this guy wasnt even my bf, =/ ughh i don know what to do. and i don knowww about abortion, thats scary to me, and i don knowww!!!! ughhh helpppppp!!!!?
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My opinion on this is You are pregnant.
But just in case you are not here is some words
Please learn from this mistake, your body is so precious and you make it less valuable when you do not take the time to think twice, triple and even to the point of infinite times before you act on sexual intercorse, girl YOU need to take care of your body its YOURS!! your vaginal, your clit, your breasts, butt, and thighs arent the only thing part of your body...what about your heart?!?! what about your Thought?!?! your spirt?!?! they all get effected when you do not just stop and just analyse before you act. Your First big mistake was he is HELL OF Older than you
Yes Hellah older. 2. He actually told you up front that he wanted to have sex!!?! and you aggreed???!!!?? WHY!!!???!! . You should not worry about your parents....after all you didnt worry about then when you had sex with this guy/jerk...so it would have been ok if he was your boyfriend???!?? it goes to tell that you really do not want to avoid problems. If you are going to go around and have sex like this then accept the consequences.
You are very intellegent and you were very smart in having sex with him 3 or more times and i know you can be smart in moving on and learning and NOT HAVING SEX until you are very mature. If you are not pregnant be honest and caring to yourself Dont have sex. I have said this before but ill say it again you dont have to have sex today, you can always have sex tomorrow.... in other words give it some time. Dont be scared whats done is done you cant take it back and no matter how much you cry the only thing you can now do is wait and be strong and accept the reality and the results
I hate to do be this way with you but it seems this is getting too popular and I think someone needs to be a bit bold and just say this.
I really hope you step up and be a very good mother be responsible, and be happy.
Abortion will not help you, in this state it is illegal for you as a minor to have an abortion and i dont beleive it is allowed for your parents to pressure you into doing it.
Your parents are also to blame they should have kept an eye on you more, you and your brother.
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Well dont tell him until you know for sure. And if you are talk to him, you guys will have to figure this out together. if your going to get an abortion you dont nesisarily have to tell your parents. You can go to your local Plan ParentHood and everything there is confidential. If you guys deicide to keep the baby i would suggest you both sitting down with eachothers parents seperately and talking to them about it... But dont worry about all this yet you period could just be late or messed up from your birth control! Let me know if you need anything else!
Hope i helped =]
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