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How can you tell..
..if a guy actually loves you like he says he does or if he just wants you for the sex?
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Well, it depends what type of guy he is. Like some guys, really love you and other guys just say that to get you into bed with them. Good luck!!! ;)
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Good Question
I wished more would ask this question to themselves or outloud.
Guys have a tendency to giving many many many clues when it comes to sex but its your responsibility to see the signs and avoid the person...say what??!!
What i mean is you really need to do one thing before finding out if a guy wants sex.
1. Decide for yourself am I this kind of girl? do I see myself naked in front of this guy? Opened up? grabbed? squeezed? explored? fonded? can i really see myself naked bent over? penetrated?
all these questions could sound stupid, senseless and even humurous but the reality this is what does occur when you do decide to have sex And only you will have the last say if you do or do not want to do. in other words you will need to make up your mind and stand your ground, be willing to demand respect but be polite and do it with honor You must be willing to prevent things from even getting there and must be willing to walk away from the relationship.
2. don let guys hug you. Alot of guys get a high when they get to feel you up. its really there way of testing waters, if youre willing to let them get close to you then your willing to let them get to the next level.
3. Dont let guys sweet talk you. as soon as you get a sweet talker 1. turn him down or 2. ignore him but most important of all dont encourage him.
4. If you hear a guy talking vulgar you should know that his intentions are the same as yours.
5. Study, study and study him after all he wont be the one getting poked or penetrated ...you will so you need to study what you are going to end up dealing with.
5. You can always have sex tomorrow...today may not be the right time. What this means is think think and think. learn to be patient. do not get overexcited. If you want to feel what it is to be a woman then learn to think,behave and be wise like a mature woman. having sex isnt all of that especially when you end up getting spread open and the guy turns out to be a jerk.
6. Is he a jerk? well is he? if hes a jerk and everyone sees it ..heck even you see it but wont accept it then dont expect him to not be a jerk if hes a genuine jerk then thats whats hes going to do with you...jerk you around.
7. learn his thoughts his goals his plans, his desire for marriage and children....now before you go all headless chicken on me think about it if he sees himself married and settling down wouldnt that be a sign of maturity? yes he can change but were not talking about how or when he will change where talking about avoiding the guys that just want sex. If his mentality is to grow up reach gols and reach them together with that special someone then whats that telling you?
8.How is his relationshiop between him and his family (parents) is there respect? how does his father treat his mother? how does he treat hi mother? how does he treat his bro? hi sis? these are huge signs as to what kind of person he is
9. whats he like at school? work? home? church?
how different is he when hes alone in in front of everyone else. Is he fake? diffrent? or just wearing diffrent masks? if he is a diffrent person then he may just be showing you a mask from his collection of his lies.
10. Does he swear? curse?
look at how he swares does he use the "c" word? (you know the Cu_T) the "P" (puss_) his vocabulary will give you a window to see into his views towards female respects, and the female biology ...if hes willing to use those words he might be willing to use them towards you.
11.dont kiss on the first date or the first year!
say what!!??? ... you want a relationship right? not sex a relationship should never include sex
it should always include respect, support, patience, communication, care, understanding and compassion. sex should not even be in the same picture because if you need to spread your self open for him to be sweet or understanding then where in the world is the compassion?
12. No touchy touchy
that means no grabbing no spanking, no poke, sliding hand over certain areas, no coupling, no fonding, no licking, or heavy deep breathing, no inserting or fingering, no nibbling--> they lead to bites, no french kissing and now grinding, and no sexual physical contact.
13. No pressure. Your not trying to buy something so why the sales pitch and pressure. if his intentions are good he will not bring up sex, unless youre both going out for a long time and everything is fine and even then if everything is fine why intoduce sex?
things you should keep an eye on him
1. sexual gestures
2.touch/grab/fonding
3.licking his lips
4. looking at you up and down
5.staring at your breasts?
6.staring at your rump?
7. staring at you genetilia area?
8. asking you for a kiss?
9. asking your for a hug?
10.talking dirty?
11. Not taking no for an answer
12. Asks you to have sex
13. talks about sex
14.only wants to talk about sex
15. wants to get you alone
16. invites you over to his home to be alone with him
17. wants to spend alot of time with you in dark places
18. does not encourage you
19. does not help you
20. doesnt bring out the best qualities in you
21.doesnt care about your family
22. doesnt care about your dreams and goals
23. doesnt consder your feelings and thoughts
24. only thinks about himself
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You have doubts
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First way to tell. Does he pressure you to have sex? Is he okay with waiting? Is sex and sexual activities all that seems to come out of his mouth?
Does he call you to say hello and talk, or to see if you are ready for sex.
Does the guy want to cuddle, watch a movie, hold hands, or once again is he just pressuring for sexual activity. Does the guy interested in getting to know you, asking questions about you, wanting to hang out at the park, take you out to the movies, public places? Or is he always trying to see you when you two would be alone in hopes of sex?
Analyzing his body language, words, actions, and how he is with you in general is a good tool to read in to his true colors.
Good luck, and if there are warning signs with him, leave him. Dont have sex with him in hopes you two will get closer and have the real deal love. If he is a jerk, he is a jerk and he doesnt deserve you.
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