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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

I've gone through a lot of changes in the past year and have become genuinely stronger and improved as a person, but there's still one thing I really hate about myself.

I'm completely, hopelessly addicted to the internet. I have been for a really long time now. Some times are better than others, but right now is one of the bad spots. I guess it's not as bad as I make it sound. I have a healthy social life; I don't ditch people to hang out on the internet, but it's still bad. I sometimes spend hours doing useless stuff on here when I could be reading a book or doing SOMETHING better.

I never tried to fix this because I never knew where to start. How do I do it? I can't just... shut off the computer. A lot of times I actually need it for school, but then I'll be doing school stuff and be lured into it, and it's not quite that easy, as addictions are never very simple to overcome. I don't want to completely stop going on IM. I just can't seem to have the will power to moderate it like others. I tell myself that I'm not going on the internet but lo and behold an hour later that's where I'll be.

Sorry this was so long, and thanks for the help.

ohhh man you're not alone! you've got to set your priorities, no matter how hard. set a reward for every time you get your homework done before you do "extra stuff online." and if this fails to work-- tell your parents to just kick you off when you disappear for hours on end. i know, ridiculous idea right? but that's the only way it works for me! haha

good luck, and a lot of girls/guys have the same addiction problem (like me..) .. it's unbelievable!

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15/f

heyy! i have a question okay so i met this girl and we hung out one time and we ended up going to the movies ((oh and my cousin came along too shes 15 also) and my friend is like ohh yeah jake and kevin were wondering if they could come too and ive heard of them but just never hung out with them before so im like yeahH! and so yeah they're the ones like like to do stuff with girls haha..yeaaaa..and my friend is very outgoing and not shy around anyone! and im the total opposite sometimes..mostly around boys and so this kid jake put his arm around my friend and they cuddled and held hands and i was on the other side of her and my cousin was next to me..and kevin was on the other side of jake..haha yeah sorry confusing! but i guess when me and my cuzin left kevin is like gosh why didnt u friend cuddle with me haha? but i think im scared to get close to a guy and then im also not outgoing like my friend but i dont want them to think im shy!! i feel like such a loser thoo i wanna go out and meet new people but im soo shy when i first meet them..and i have like no guy friends :( pathetic i know! and everyone says 'flirting' but im not outgoing enough to do that...what do you think i should do?

SORRY SO LONG!!

haha i used to be JUST like you! id always want to be that girl holding that guys hand, or whatever, but i just COULDNT do it. as much as i wanted to -- i couldnt! and it sucks! but what i realized is there's no other way to do except just go for it, and see what happens. who cares if the guy doesnt end up being your boyfriend, or even likes you for whatever reason- you've got to just do it. half the guys you'll try out during your highschool years you probably will never see again at some point or another .. or.. they'll forget, being the boys that they are! do it and you'll have more confidence that it's possible! even if the situation doesnt go in your favor- be proud! you stepped up to the plate! and once things do go your way, by that time, you'll be an expert! i didnt think it would work (as your reading this you may not either) but it worked 100% for me, and now im never shy anymore!

i feel your pain, and i usually dont answer a lot of questions on here, but def. talk to me if you want help on this, cause it's one topic i can truly relate to!

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ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a week now and hes really shy. i highly doubt he's ever going to kiss me so i decided to make the move. but how? how should i kiss him? i rate 5's. hurry with the advice!

well, if he likes you enough to be your boyfriend, he'll kiss you eventually. one week might be too short of a time span for him to make the move. give him a little time and it'll be that much better (all the more suspense). however, if you're absolutely sure he'll NEVER make the move, then just do it when you two are alone.. it really has to be a moment when it would be good for the two of you. such as: movies, hanging out at one of your houses, if you're at a dance (and slow dancing), etc. it'll hit you when the time is right, so dont fret about when or how. as for in the way to kiss him.. it depends on your guy. do just a little kiss at first and if he's into it.. off you go. if you get the hint. haha. but most important, dont rush it. you want it to be a positive experience for both people

-ask_anything

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ok me & my gf has beenin planing to go out for a long time now. i was wondering where a good place to take her would be?


-thanks

in my opinion, because we're getting into summer, these would be my favorite spots-

-beach/pond
-movies/simple dinner
-something silly like roller skating
-more active would be a theme park
-local fair or festival

it all depends on what kind of "going out" you refer to. romantic, fun, exciting, etc. im sure anything you do together she'll love.

-ask_anything

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Hi im 14 and a female, see there are these really mean group of girls at my school and they ised to be all my really good friends until 8th grade they started acting ;ike they were rea;;y cool and stopped talking to me. i asked them what was wrong and the act like everything is just fine. Then they went behind my back a nd told everybody some rumor about that wasnt true. My mom says there just jealous of me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do?

oh, there are girls like these all over the world. ive witnessed so many cases of mean, absolutely horendous girls. i lost many of my friends in elementary school because of girls with no respect. people who are once your friend, can change dramatically in no time. girls like that are no fun to get involved with, and my best advice is to just steer clear from them and make some worthy friends. once you're enjoying life with people you are comfortable with, they'll regret ever letting you go. you dont need them, i promise. the only cool kids in school are the ones that are truly happy with themselves and the people that make them smile. that is pure cool. so dont worry too much about them, and eventually things will all find a way. they did for me, and im sure they will for you too

-ask_anything

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my boyfriend is the type of guy to cheat on his girlfriend. so me and him both have myspace accounts.. we both know the passwords to eachothers and everything. today, i was curious to see who he's been talking to because i don't really trust him. i saw him saying stuff to a couple girls and i'm really pissed. i don't know what to say to him, because i know if he found out i went on his account, he'll be mad at me. so what do i do? i can't just keep this in, and i know that i shouldn't of went on his name but i want to know if he's doing stuff behind my back.. help!

if you dont trust your boyfriend, that's a big clue that you've got a problem in your relationship. you have every right to approach him with your concern, and if he gets angry, then you might as well end it there. you dont deserve to be one of a couple girls he sweet talks. as for the myspace girls.. honestly, i doubt he'll ever actually come in contact with those girls. people will say anything online, and if he knows what's right for himself, he'll know the real thing is much better. dont forget, guys will be guys so they do deserve a break once in a while. but from your scenerio, id say this guy doesnt deserve your time. cheaters are no good my friend.

-ask_anything

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ok i am really scared because i was playing about with my ex bfs school website and i requested a new password for him,Then it came up with my i.p address OMG can he find out it was me??? how can i avoid him thinking it was me?

i doubt your ex knows your IP address, and even if he does.. would he go through all that trouble just to track you down when he can just change his password again? to help you avoid him thinking it was you, dont even act like anything happened, if he just so happens to ask.. casually say you were looking for _____ (insert a clevor excuse). but really, dont worry about it.

-ask_anything

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what are some good qualities you need to have in a friendship? for example ..loyalty. i need at least 3 of them. thanks i rate high for good answers

:D

healthy friendships have tons of good qualities

- respectful
- honest
- caring
- a good listener
- responsible
- fun-loving
- able to count on
- originality
- humor
- trustworthy

i could go on and on.. just think of one of your closest friends, and list everything that you admire about them in general terms.

-ask_anything

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I wanna be more girly. Thats all thats 2 it.

Thanx

well, there are several kinds of girly. dont go overboard on it though or you'll come off as something you dont want. id say to become more girly, it's mostly acting femenine (excuse my spelling), and if necessary, looking the part with the latest fashions. dont think that girly is always the way to go, but if it's what you want, then you go girl..

haha sorry, too cheesey on that last line.

-ask_anything

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How much eyeliner is too much? How can you tell? (I know this sounds really retarded, but I don't know!!!)

too much eyeliner is when it's chunky, makes you look tired/old, or is too thick of a line. every person's make up is done differently, you need to test around and decide what looks best. if you're have trouble, go into a local beauty shop in the mall/store and ask them for their opinions, they'd be glad to help as well!

-ask_anything

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yea so i just have a question. i like a kid but he doesnt know it and we are good friends. should i flirt w. him a little to give him some hints and maybe he will like me or just tell him straight out that i like him?

well flirt first, then see how he responds. if you get good signals back then slowly make it more and more obvious. usually guys will get the hint. if he doesnt want that kind of a relationship, you'll have to accept it. keep being good friends, and if you two were meant to be- you will be.

-ask_anything

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what is a good way of convincing your parents to get you a pet!!!!(((other than puppy eyes or making a deal with them, already tried)))

show them in any way you are the most responsible kid they'll ever meet! do extra chores, basically suck up any way you can. if you have one parent that is harder going than the other - talk to the easy going parent and have them sneak in some good words to the other ! =] -ask_anything

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Ok, this is a pretty basic question, but does anyone have any really good organizational tips for school and also study tips along with that...they kinda go hand in hand! I RATE VERY WELL:)

label all your things, put things in the right spot the FIRST time, lots of folders, extra pens/pencils/highlighters, a well set up locker where you can see what each book is for/each notebook, have a binder, an agenda mate or calander book where you can write your assignments, etc. there are hundreds of things you can do to organize. just look in staples and you'll find all sorts of good organization tools! =] -ask_anything

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I wanna be like the Plastics in Mean Girls..especially like Kadi or Regina...but not so mean, just as powerful. Any tips:)? I RATE VERY WELL!

you shouldnt try to be like them in the movie, the point of the characters was to show how "mean" they are! the only way you can get people to like you truly, is to be very nice to EVERYONE. and make sure you treat everyone the same. no one likes a snob who thinks she's better than everyone. as for being "powerful".. you cant rule the school, but you can be in favor of who people consider to be fun, cool kids. be yourself, not someone in a movie. =] -ask_anything

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So I'm just wondering...if you want to be a model and you are a girl, what are some basic requirements that most agencies want?

basic needs: extremely tall and extremely skinny.

they're awful requirements, but hey - that's a model's job for you. however, different agencies accept different requirements. just ask different agencies what they're looking for, then narrow down to the ones you fit into! =]-ask_anything

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hi im 14 f and i want a boyfriend! where is the best place 2 meet one?
thanks love nicki
xxx

really anywhere, but i think meeting guys your friends know is the best deal. because there are a lot of creeps out there! so ask your friends if they can introduce you to guys, and then from there just go out as a group and meet a bunch! do NOT resort to the internet relationships, those are boogus. best of luck to finding someone. =] -ask_anything

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well you know how jeni and roger were trying to setup john and i ;well all those other times that john and i went out with jeni and roger; john and i really didn't talk that much well i think saturday was the day that john and i had talked the most. but let's start at the beginning of the night.well john and roger pick me and jeni between 745 and 815. We ended up getting there at like 830 so i was the only one that had to get shoes(they were only 2 bucks). the shoes were like half neon yellow and half neon orange. John was like you should wear those to work tomorrow. and i was like yes i would feel real cool in them. But then we started bowling after about a game and a half jeni's friend lilia and her boyfriend stopped by but they didn't feel like bowling but even before lilia and her boyfriend showed up john offered us all a drink i got a soda the first time. so jeni and roger started talking to lilia and her boyfriend a lot more than talking to me and john. So john and i actually talked a lot. we talked about me being in high school, his two job, my one job, war of bowling. Then he offered me another drink cuz he wanted one so i was like ok. So i really wasn't sure because the first time i was up there i got a cherry coke and i was like i dont know and john's like how about a juice. He's like your not allowed to have the same drink you need to be different. but the lady that was getting our drink was like let the lady decide. so i was like ok cranberry juice. we did talk a lot more it was from something to something else totally different. but ok you know i have my right leg crossed over left leg and i was just wiggling my foot and it ended up hitting him leg by accident and he ended hitting with his knee/leg. so we ended up hitting each other by the leg a couple of times. then like a minute or five minutes later i had my ankles crossed and my feet were like a couple of inches away from john's chair but after he came back from bowling he lifted up my top foot by the toes; those things happened when roger and jeni weren't looking

A little later i wasn't really doing good in this bowling game so john like you see that lady in the next lane to us; i think that shaking her butt is helping her get a better game maybe you should do it; i was like with what butt the butt i dont have and he's like everyone has a butt. that was before i was going to bowl my next frame. so i did my turn and after i bowled he's like where's that butt action??? when lilia and her boyfriend left jeni like i see that you and john have been talking and i was like yea. She's like i did that on purpose so that you guys would actually talk with each other. and i totally understood that. It was about 11-1130pm and we were about to leave and pay; well i was just about to pay but then the guy checking us out said something about it was cheaper a hour than per game; and john was like your a pretty cheap date (he paided for my bowling and 2 drinks) and he also said it must be because your so sexy and jeni's like browinie points. and i honesty think that i was blushing;
then we dropped off jeni first then roger and john started singing xmas carols to me. john was like i know i have like five cds in a case and he was driving and trying to feel in back to see if he could find but since i was in the back seat of the passenger seat when he was looking for it he ended up touching my left knee and im not sure if it was by accident or not then they ended up dropping me off. the next day jeni and i had to go to work at 9am and john and roger were going to go shopping so like on our lunch jeni forgot her cellphone so she needed to use mine to see where john and roger were at shopping. we couldn't get a hold of them then jeni called john number but she ended up getting his answering machine and left a message. then jeni asked me if i wanted to save john's number and i was like ok since i didn't have. I'm not sure what she wants me to do with now. But probably after he gets that message jeni gonna tell john that it was my cellphone number.


1. Should i call john even though im leaving town on thursday and wont be back until monday?
2. Should i ask jeni why she asked me if i wanted john's number?
3. Were we flirting?
4. Would you call that a date?
5. Do u think were dating or what is your thoughts on the status of our relationship?
6. Should i call him when i get back from vacation?
7. If yes i should call him what should i say to him?
8. Do you think that things went well?
9. Do you think when he hit my knee in the car was an accident?
10. Do you think he meant to hit me back in the leg when we were in the bowling alley
11. what did jeni mean by brownie points?
Crystal

just so you know, it was rather hard to figure out half the stuff you were talking about.. just for further reference : less detail, more to the point... it was good to hear lots of what happened, but most of it i bet you could figure yourself ;)

ill try to answer based on what i could get out of it though

1.) whether you call john or not is up to you, it might be good to call him before you go away so you dont think about doing it all weekend

2.) it's pretty obvious why jeni asked you if you wanted john's number.. because she assumed it was because you had an interest in him

3.) from what i read, yeah it sounded like you two were flirting

4.) im not really sure if that was an official date, but it definitly would count as a group date- or something close to it. a real one on one date would possibly mean you two were actually "dating"

5.) i think you arent dating quite yet, but if you talk to him more and hang out more, the relationship will build on

6.) if you call him before vacation, see if he calls you - instead of you always calling him (unless he asks you to call)

7.) if you decide to call him just ask what he's up to, casual conversation, plans, etc.

8.) i cant really tell you whether or not things went well, it's really a matter of being there.. if you felt it went well - then i bet it did!

9.) in my opinion, it could go either way - best way to know for sure.. ask him!

10.) most likely he meant to hit you back - kind of a "take that" flirt move

11.) brownie points are somewhat under the lines of good moves, or things you do that give you that extra "like-able-ness" to you. [as seen from john's perspective?]

sorry if your answers werent what you were looking for.. i tried my best! =] -ask_anything

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hey, im having some problems with friends.. i already lost a group of friends and then i finally made more. i met 2 great people and we all used to hang out then they started leaving me out more and more.. and though they say were still best friends i still dont feel like we are. help please.

i used to have friend problems myself, and what i've learned is that no matter what people say, not all can be trusted. no one can promise to keep a great friendship with you forever. i only have one, steady friendship with someone that i know will be constant all through my life. losing a group of friends means you need to figure out why you lost them. im sure it wasnt your fault, but you should figure out what is it that made them fade away from you. it's good you've met more people, because the more variety of friends you have, the better. it's possible these two people left you out because you might have been getting too attached. i know a major friendship problem is that one person gets too attached to others, and causes some people to want separation. you should broaden your friendships, that way you dont always have to rely on two or three people to hang out with. making friends can be hard, but if people became your friends before, there must be something about you that is friendhship material! i hope things get better soon for you =] -ask_anything

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ummm ya hi i have this friend which i have gone out with him 5 TIMES i kno i kno its werid but he is sooo iresitable(cant spell.) but anyways and i still like him but i mean he flirts sooo BAD with me and i dont kno if he is just doing it cause he knows he can or if he is serious....for sum reason i dont think he is serious but i can never get serious with him i dont know buit i REALLY LIKE HIM ....he was my first kiss and ya its hard to get over him :( .....WHAT SHOULD I DO>>>?

well you obviously are attached to this guy. there must be something you keep coming back for. do you know what it is? hopefully it's some quality that is good for a relationship. because of the going out, breaking ups happening so frequently between you two, take a break. there must have been something going wrong between you two that kept making you two break up. if you really still like him, wait it out- make sure you feel the same for a while. some mixed emotions may seem strong, but are only for a short period of time. first kisses are a major mark on a girls life, and it is going to be hard to get over him. but .. think before you make the decision: do you REALLY want to keep going back to him? or should you move on? you should make the decision based on what will make YOU feel better. if he cant be serious with you, that definitly can be a contributing factor to the breaking up. i know i like a guy who can be serious with me about things.. a guy who is all play and no consideration for a real relationship isnt looking to stay with you a long time. think about what he can do for you- and if he is even ready for a real girlfriend. give it some time. it's hard to move on, but maybe moving on is the right choice to a better relationship. stay friends - whether you decide to give him another try or not. plus dont get caught up in the flirtation, anyone can flirt and have meaning to it. i cant make the decision for you- but you can. Look at it all from different perspectives, you'll make the best choice you can! =] -ask_anything

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hey do you know any good recipes for making noodle dishes? specifically the rare and exotic dish, Le Jonoodle Gui Pan. It would be much appreciated in my kitchen. Or in my house for that matter because i love Jonoodle. thanks, i know you are a worldfamous chef; or cookie chef at least *dumps bottle of sprinkles on cookie* so please, help me out!

hahaha... oohh jeez noodle id be glad to give you some recipes! my favorite is Le Jonoodle Gui Pan too ! - ooh so delicate and yet so magnificantly PERFECT. i mean who knew noodles went with orange macadamian nuts? haha i cant wait to make cookies again with noodle because you have to admit- im quite the expert at the topping deal!! anyways - the recipe:

2 LINGUINST BOWLS OF FRIED NOODLES
7.342 SPOONS OF ORANGE MACADAMIAN NUTS
1 LOVING MEMORY
2 NOODLE FANATICS
BAKE AT A BAZILLION DEGREES UNTIL HAZY BROWN
* ADD AS MANY BOTTLES OF SPRINKLES NECESSARY TO FULFILL ONE'S DESIRE

:) love you noodle. =] -ask_anything

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