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SORRY SO LONG GUYS!
15/f
heyy! i have a question okay so i met this girl and we hung out one time and we ended up going to the movies ((oh and my cousin came along too shes 15 also) and my friend is like ohh yeah jake and kevin were wondering if they could come too and ive heard of them but just never hung out with them before so im like yeahH! and so yeah they're the ones like like to do stuff with girls haha..yeaaaa..and my friend is very outgoing and not shy around anyone! and im the total opposite sometimes..mostly around boys and so this kid jake put his arm around my friend and they cuddled and held hands and i was on the other side of her and my cousin was next to me..and kevin was on the other side of jake..haha yeah sorry confusing! but i guess when me and my cuzin left kevin is like gosh why didnt u friend cuddle with me haha? but i think im scared to get close to a guy and then im also not outgoing like my friend but i dont want them to think im shy!! i feel like such a loser thoo i wanna go out and meet new people but im soo shy when i first meet them..and i have like no guy friends :( pathetic i know! and everyone says 'flirting' but im not outgoing enough to do that...what do you think i should do?
SORRY SO LONG!!
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haha i used to be JUST like you! id always want to be that girl holding that guys hand, or whatever, but i just COULDNT do it. as much as i wanted to -- i couldnt! and it sucks! but what i realized is there's no other way to do except just go for it, and see what happens. who cares if the guy doesnt end up being your boyfriend, or even likes you for whatever reason- you've got to just do it. half the guys you'll try out during your highschool years you probably will never see again at some point or another .. or.. they'll forget, being the boys that they are! do it and you'll have more confidence that it's possible! even if the situation doesnt go in your favor- be proud! you stepped up to the plate! and once things do go your way, by that time, you'll be an expert! i didnt think it would work (as your reading this you may not either) but it worked 100% for me, and now im never shy anymore!
i feel your pain, and i usually dont answer a lot of questions on here, but def. talk to me if you want help on this, cause it's one topic i can truly relate to!
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so the question is "what do i do around boys?" something you must remember is THEY ARE BOYS. they're not monsters (some of them are.. but you'll know them when you see them), they're not aliens. They're boys, and boys like girls that are confident. Unless you want to play up the shy girl next-door motif, in which case, continue what you're doing and wait for a boy to ask you out (which is tedious).
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i dont see why your so shy but try t get over your fears maybe thast would help i really dont kno what to say cause im nt shy at all but maybe gradually get yourself to talk to a boy then flirt and them more amore
hopefully i helped
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Well I mean you don't really have to cuddle with them the first time but like talk little conversations with them. Get to know them a little better. Maybe ask something about what he likes to do maybe you'll find something that you guys have in common. Just as long as you talk to them I don't think they will think that your shy. Shy people are the ones that usually don't talk.
~Liza~
Hope I helped.
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plan another 'outing' like that one and just sit boy girl boy girl or whatever so you can sit with by the guy you want or kevin or whoever. kinda make it obvious that you want him to put his arm around you, but not to the point where youre putting yourself out there. like go see a scary movie and on a really scary part hide on his shoulder (if you know what im talking about) so that he can make the first move and know that you are okay with it. dont worry about being outgoing and dont do anything you dont want to. be yourself, relax, and have a good time. keep me 'updated' on what happens! good luck!
XO KALIE
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