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Well my name is Liza. I am 14 years old and I love to give people advice. I currently go to Oakivlle High School.I am a cheerleader there.I am new here at Advicenators. I am about 5'5. I'm athletic. I am very outgoing, I am very sociable and I am very lovable if you get to know me. I love to shop. I am a kind, gentle person. I love to play sports and everything that has something to do with somehting athletic. I guess you can say that I'm smart but like book smart not like common sense smart because I really lack common sense and any of my friends can tell you that. If ever you ask a question about me the first they would say is "she is such a blonde"(I've been told this). It is sad but its who I am and I like being me. The thing that I really don't like is the fact that other people try to be something that there not. Some want to be something that they want to be but the thing that they don't realize is that they are unique in there own way and thats what makes them special. They try there hardest to be something other than them but the only thing that they need to do is to be true to themselves and they would live there lives as wonderful because they will never have the feeling of trying to be something and fail. They are already champions in there heart but they just need to search deep inside. Thats what I did and here I am giving people advice and living my life in the fullest and being the best I can.Well since this is an advice column ask me a question and I will try to answer it as best as I could possibly give you since I'm practically failing English.Ask and I will answer. Some people call me as there therapists. Its awkward when they me that it feels like I'm a freak or something but yeah. I am here to give advice and thats what I will do. Just ask and I will try and answer it the best as my brain can think of something brilliant to say!!
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my friend and i are in a fight right now. she asks me to do everything for her and when i do it all i get is a thanks your my bff. and ive done like 45000000 things for her...goes from doing her xanga to myspace to downloading music for her to getting music for her. ive had it. and the other night me and my other friend got into a fight and she is my friend that iam mad at nows friend and she told her that she was mad at me so my friend said ok i blocked her so that means she blocked me on her own will. so i got all on her case and got pissed at her. is this a good reason to be mad at her or just silly and should become friends again?
-abby
Dear Abby,
Well first of all you really shouldn't do everything, that she could probably do herself. If she trades you like with not even thinking about a second what your reaction would be, then what makes you so sure that she's just not using you for those kinds of things you know. If she is your so called "friend" she would not have done that. She would have thought of what your feelings would be either if you get hurt or get mad at her. Friends think about that stuff. THey don't just go ahead and do it just because one of her other friends are mad at you. I think thats pretty pathetic on her behalf. If you are willing to give her one more chance then you could try and become friends again and tell her how that makes you feel the next time you see her or him. She needs to know how you feel. But if you think that, that was the last straw then you should look for friends that actually care about your feelings. Well if your just mad at her because she blocked you, well just talk to her about it and ask why she did what she did.
Well I hope I helped..
Liz
iam going out with this guy and i like him alot and he likes me alot but i never see him. the only times he calls me is on the weekends when hes with his mom. its thats not offten for him to call. i like other guys so i dont know if i should date him anymore since we never do anything. hes not passing 8th grade so if he doesnt pass 8th grade and doesnt go on the the high school i might as well dump him becuase i wont see him at all. so what do you think i should do? just wait and deal with it or dump him and get a new boyfriend that ill see alot more?
For me it would depend on how much I would like the guy to dump him. And you just because he's not passing 8th grade doesn't mean you can't be with him. If he doesn't call that much why don't you try calling him. Lots of people deal with that kinds of things. But if you dump just because you don't see him that often is kinda rude and selfish. I think you should just ask yourself if you realy want to be with this guy then if you do stay with him, if not let him go. And you can move on with your life.
With much love
Liz
hey liza ! ilu! hehe umm.... i wanted to ask you bout this 1 boy at out school! he is rele hawt! and we r goign to social together...but he said he dont want a valentine..which is fine 4 me but i like love him and you kno me! hehe if i want it i need to get it! hehe(itsnea) umm...and i just need to kno if he is every ganna ask me out or even like me liek i like him soo....plz help me in ne way that you can! luv yas MWAH!!!
NeA
First of all guys are stupid and I know who your talking about. I really do think that he may like you but theres always that little itty bitty little thing that says yeah your just a friend but I want to go to the social with you. You think that your inlove with everybody..lol anyway If his going to the social with you then umm its more likely that you and him will hook up sooner or later. And it may just be the Valentine Season that he doesn't want one right now but I think that he will change his mind and ask you out. Well hope I helped babe!!!
♥Liz♥
Well I like this guy Adam, me him and a bunch of other people went to see When a stranger calls and threw the whole movie we were flirting and you know the rest. Well Carly, the person who organzied the little get together. Well her mom came and she has a van it was really cramped up front so, a couple people (Me, Adam, 4 other friends) moved to the back and we laid down because Carly`s mom had a old van and it was able to turn the back into a bed so we did that. I was tired so I used Adam as a pillow and then I got up to fix my shoe (I had sandles on) and then I laid back down and he put his arm around my waist. & from about 11pm-2am we sat there kissing, holding hands so forth. Then I was confused because I didnt know he liked me like that so I called him and he said we should keep that to ourselves so I was like okay. Then he asked out Danielle ( a good friend of mine, she didnt go to the movies ) and I was lost because he just held my hand and kissed me then asked out my best friend. She hasnt said yes or no yet, but I really want him. I dont know how to get him to be mine and not hers. Please help !
Well it might be one of those things that your really caught up in the moment and stuff. Yeah, thats so complicated cause guys are already complicated and stuff. But if you really like him then I would advice to just talk to him about that night and if it went anything to him or what? He may like you but he may not want to show it. But you also don't want to hurt your best friend, so I would ask her if she likes Adam. Then if she doesn't well there you go.
Well I hoped I helped.
Liz
i have a great friend...(but i know never to start to like a freind)but its hard not too.I love him(not like that) .HE so nice and sweet and things have happened.....were not like friends that do things after school we do little things in school .i know i like him not that i know he likes me but im hapy around him and just today he asked me to sit with him and theres a lot of spaces on the bus i was really happy about it and he acted shy..?i dont know why i acted shy too and i knew i was. do i like him ????????????????i think i do
It sounds like you really care for him. It might be just that your trying to get use to the fact that you have someone to talk to like that or that you do like him. The more you get know someone the more you think that you like them but its just pne of those moments that your just really caught up in the moment. I've done that so many times but you really way like him but the only thing that I could say is that just be friends with him first and then see if you still those feeling. If you like you have to see him everyday and you get that weird feeling when you think about him and are around him and then yes I think you do like him.
Well take care and hope that I helped in your situation.
♥Liz♥
i am 13/f and i like guy he is 16 he is my neighbor and we do almost everything together football basketball swim soccer its awsome we are like best friend and well he has a great personality and is really hot lol but i like him a lot and if i telll him then it mite screw up our friendship or we could just stay best friends i need some advice please i rate really high!!!
I went through the same thing.....we were in a relationship for while and then everything went differently. But we found a way to work it out. We are the same since then people still think that we're going out but we're not I'm going out with a great guy but thats beside the point, but if you feel really strongly about this guy and then just talk to him and ask him if his gonna be comfortable doing that and stuff. But I leave the fact that you and may not be as close after that out but it would be so much better if like stay friends. But its your decision but I'm here to help you make that decision and I don't think I'm going it very well but at least I tried.
Liz
Hope everything works out...
♥Liz♥
How can I get over a breakup? D:
It's been about three weeks and I'm still sad.
I'm friends with the person now because I really care about them... but then there's the constant reminders that person doesn't like me in the way I want anymore. And that they seem very happy that I'm not around.
What should I do?
I've tried distracting myself.. like drawing and playing games but it doesn't work very well.
I've also tried to not sign on AIM and stop talking to them for a while, but I always end up signing on later..
You know you can't really get over a break up or anything in particular. You will always that reminder in your head. But its normal since you guys to have cared about each other. SO you say that the other person seems as if he is happy when your not there, well the fact is other people will always be happy someway or another of having the person you care about not being there. On the contrary he may just be acting like his happy but his really not. At least be happy that you guys are still friends. Anyway you will get forget it pretty soon. I don't want to promise anything but I would just try and move on and meet new people and expierience new things and soon you will forget what your feeling right now. Anyway I could continue on but I don't too since I already waisted a long enough time of your life. Hope I helped.
♥Liz♥
im not happy with my weight. i used to have like the perfect body. or at least thats what i remember then i got into high school. high school sucks that way. anyway i used to weigh about 120 and now i weigh 130.. im wanting to lose 10 or more pounds but the thing is i cant seem to stay away from all those bad foods. my school is like junk food heaven. i try leaving my lunch money at home but it doesnt always work because i have friends i can ask for money. anyway i also have lots of junk food at home and if i dont i seem to find some. or even ill go crazy on the health stuff. i can go on a diet for like 3 days at most and then i just break it. i dont know if theres any key to resisting junk food... i dont know im hoping someone has some ideas?
Well exercising is another way to lose weight. Not just skipping meals. Anyway I count my calories that I take in everyday and I work out and I try my best to lose alot less of the calories that I eat that day. Anyway just try and eat healthy. I've been really good at that cause now I'm eating salad everyday at lunch its been well. I've been working out and it seems to be working. I've already lost 5 pounds and I can do it I'm sure that you can do it also. I have faith in you that you can make the right decision on what you eat from now on. Hope I helped.
♥Liz♥
Well i've liked this girl for awhile. I am planing to tell her how i feel on Valentines Day. Are there any ideas how I could tell her? Also, are there any gift ideas?
Thanks in advance!
P.S. - We are both 13, and she is kind of a silly person if that helps any...
This answer is been trite(over used) but if it was me I would like to get Flowers or chocolates and a Teddy Bear. I'm kinda weird around Valentines Day since I like Valentines Day. So you say that she's silly well Flowers would be nice but they die quick so I would get the Teddy Bear so that maybe she can cuddle with it when she's sleeping. Well for the way you should tell her well I would write it down on a card, if you go to the same school well wait for her on her locker and then give the gifts and the card with it. or don't write it down and just tell when your at her locker. It would be romantic if you did it person instead of a card but you can still make her a card if you wanted though. No harm in that. Well hope I helped. Keep in touch
♥Liz♥
this is going to be my first valentines day with my very special boyfriend. he's not a romantic type of guy. he's in to rock music. This one band he likes released a new cd and i was wondering if that was a good gift for valentines day besides a valentines day card and rose?
If his not the romantic type well the CD would be a good Valentines gift for him. Anway yeah that would be a great gift for him.
My boyfriend moved out of this state and we still love each other but we are broken up.
please help me.
thank you.
Shannon
If you guys are still inlove with each other then I would suggest on trying to keep in touch with him. I would use all different kinds of communication to try and talk to each other. Its all up to you and him not me. The only thing I can help you with is this advice. In which everyone has probably given you already. I just hope that you can keep in touch. You and Him I mean.
Sry I couldn't help you that well.
♣Liz♣
I am 15/f and i need some advice...
I have been dating this guy off and on for bout a year and half. And i had not talk to him in bout 2 or 3 months and in that time i moved. Well then i had sergury and i had sergury where i use to live and he came and took care of me and then we ended back up together. Well then i found out that he was movin to canada. And then he tell me he wasnt to just be friend but i want more than friends but everyone is telling me to move on what should I do.?
Look just because his moving that doesn't you still can 't keep in touch with him. But I think that you should move on because his in a whole different country and you will meet aother guy that you would be really crazy about and just be happy that he still wants to be your friend. Some guys don't even do that all they do is forget the other people they use to know and stuff like that. I'm not trying to scare you but some guys are just like that though. I would do what ever you think is best even if it does end up hurting you or someone else. I can't make you do anything so just so go with gut. ok.
Hope I helped.
♣Liza♣
okay i just had a party and this boy i like did stuff with me and my friend asked him out for me without me knowing and he said he will think about it he didnt know .. walking home from school he didnt talk to me but he only walked by me once and it looked like he was trying to hide his head.. does that mean he doesnt like me ? and all of my friends and his friends at the party said he was all over me and we were goin to end up goin out.. what should i do ? and did that mean he didnt like me ?
All guys are different. Some thats a sign of not liking someone but for some its a sign of saying I really do and I'm shy to tell you right now. But in this case if he was all over you then maybe he does like you. Then I would try and talk to him. Clear things up, if he does like you he'll go out with you but if he doesn't well thats how life goes and you'll find a new guy to like. I know that I'm sounding like a Byatch but I'm not its just the truth.
Hope I helped
♥Liza♥
Ok so there is this guy that I like and my friends tell me that he seems like he likes me too because he keeps looking at me all the time. But then my sister was talking to him online (she found his sign name and added him) and she asked me who he was and he said his name and she told him that she was in middle school so he said "ewwww". Then he lied and said he was a year older. Then she asked him if he was a friend of mine and he said "No, I don't know geeks". Then he blocked her. I am so upset. What does this mean?
I think that his a jerk or maybe that he does like you but he doesn't want anyone to know. Well I really don't think that its a good idea to be liking this guy. He sounds to me like a stuck up guy. I really don't like those kind of people.
~Liza~
Hope I helped.
15/f
heyy! i have a question okay so i met this girl and we hung out one time and we ended up going to the movies ((oh and my cousin came along too shes 15 also) and my friend is like ohh yeah jake and kevin were wondering if they could come too and ive heard of them but just never hung out with them before so im like yeahH! and so yeah they're the ones like like to do stuff with girls haha..yeaaaa..and my friend is very outgoing and not shy around anyone! and im the total opposite sometimes..mostly around boys and so this kid jake put his arm around my friend and they cuddled and held hands and i was on the other side of her and my cousin was next to me..and kevin was on the other side of jake..haha yeah sorry confusing! but i guess when me and my cuzin left kevin is like gosh why didnt u friend cuddle with me haha? but i think im scared to get close to a guy and then im also not outgoing like my friend but i dont want them to think im shy!! i feel like such a loser thoo i wanna go out and meet new people but im soo shy when i first meet them..and i have like no guy friends :( pathetic i know! and everyone says 'flirting' but im not outgoing enough to do that...what do you think i should do?
SORRY SO LONG!!
Well I mean you don't really have to cuddle with them the first time but like talk little conversations with them. Get to know them a little better. Maybe ask something about what he likes to do maybe you'll find something that you guys have in common. Just as long as you talk to them I don't think they will think that your shy. Shy people are the ones that usually don't talk.
~Liza~
Hope I helped.
okay i feel realli depressed right now i guess you can put it. well i was on my myspace and i was looking at my friends pictures and came to my ex's picture and i dont no its just i think i still like him but i have a bf now and i dont realli love him but he says he loves me all the time and i just say it back not to hurt him but im not sure what to do anymore i no 4 a fact my ex doesnt like me anymore and never will angain we went out like 3 times already idk i just dont no what to do anymore ive been trying to deal with it but i cant :( can anyone help?
Okay so you still like your ex but you have a bf. Well I can't really make you do anything so what I would do is just try and not to think about him that much and pay alot more attention on your current bf. Plus I think that you can never really get over anyone so its kinda normal to keep liking your ex but sooner or later the feeling will go away.
~Liza~
Hope I helped.
i have this really pretty,skinny,friend.all the boys are atracted to her not me. i dont know how to tell her im jealus of her? and i dont know how to get over it? plz help me before christmas is over. it is urgent.
p.s i rate high
Probably not ALL the guys like her. Some may like you but never tell anyone. And about the jealousy stuff well just tell her the more you keep it in the more it will become. Then all of the sudden the whole jealousy thing can ruin your entire friendship. Plus all the guys that you think are attracted to her are the ones you like right? Well that doesn't mean that all of them are attracted to her.
~Liza~
P.S.
Tell me how it goes.
Im 15 and I've never had a boyfriend. Im not pretty and Im REALLY shy. Most people at school have never heard me speak before and I cant use the phone because thats how shy I am.
It makes me so sad and jealous when I see couples at school or on TV. There are kids in primary school with boyfriends and I haven't even had one!!
I know that you don't NEED a boyfriend, but I really want one because I feel so lonely and stuff
I like a boy at school and I sit next to him in registration, but I dont talk to him. When he comes and sits next to me he always says my name, like in a funny way, and I smile, but thats it. Also one time in science he and his friends were playing hangman on the board, and he wrote my whole name as the words you had to guess. I dont know if he was making fun of me or what though.
Sorry its so long, but how can I get more confidence? Thanks xx
First of all don't call say that your not pretty because someway or another someone is always pretty. When I first moved here in the town where I live now I never talked to anyone I really didn't. I felt the same way you did. I just got really frustrated that I didn't have any friends so the next day I just started talking to people in my classes. I really don't know what to say but I talked to them. You just need to really pull yourself together and just start talking to people. So about the boyfriend thing. Well if you like this guy then you should talk to him in science. You should start off to ask him about the lesson and stuff. Thats a way to start a conversation and stuff like that. To let him know that you can speak. So maybe after that he'll start like talking to you and maybe he may even like you. And if he treats you like crap and start like playing jokes on you. Well I really don't think you should pay attention to him that much. Thats just if.
~Liza~
P.S.
Let me know how it goes.
Well just about everyone makes fun of me in school becasue i act stupid or i guess i just am how can i get them to stop and accept me for who i am?
Don't think anything of it. I act stupid in school all the time. If you don't think about they really can't do anything that can hurt your feelings again because you really don't care. Be yourself soon or later they will see how good and a wonderful being you are. so my advice is to not think about it. It maybe hard but later on its gonna be worth it. Well tell me how it goes.
~Liza~
i was dating this guy now first off i really love him. his personality and everything. hes a senior im a freshman. every morning he goes and gets high with a bunch of guys and at school he will ingnore me because he is high and it bothers me and hurts my feelings. because ill stand there be like hello nd he sitting there checking some one out. and then i no he doesnt mean it but when he is high he tends to hurt me like hit me or squeeze me till i bruse he is much bigger than me and muscle im only 5'4" ish and he is likr close to 5'10ish i supose. well i broke up with him yesterday and i miss him and he dont call me no more or anything
From the looks of things you really don't need this guy. Try and get over him, he doesn't sound like a positive influence anyway. Maybe his personality is really great and stuff but if he does those things getting hurt is not really a good result of being in a relationship. Its good that you broke up with him. You should talk to him and try to be his friend. At least be a friend he can turn when he will get in trouble. Not saying that you should go back out with him but just be there for him. If you really love him just do the best thing that you think is best for him and you. Hope it all works out. Tell me how it goes.
~Liza~