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< Yeahh.. that's me playing Flip Cup at a party. We're so cool: we play with water. Call me a lightweight; I don't really care. :]



I`m Abby ! When you ask me a question, I will answer you completely honestly, but I am in no way trying to be rude. If you don't like it, sorry. I'm only giving you my opinion. :]




Just Some Random Facts About Me ! :]



I like to...
Sing (and i sing in a competitive choir), dance (and i dance at a noncompetitive studio), cheerlead (I cheer for football, soccer, wresteling, and basketball), shop, talk on the phone, ect.



Things I love...
JEANS ! shoes, clothes, make-up, more jeans, my amazing friends, getting out of the house, the mall, the movies, being with all my dance girls, more jeans, perfume, elephants are pretty much amazing, watching football, my python Jerry, my puppy Sadie, computer, uhm..jeans, cell phone, taking pictures, TV, music, anything leopard print, Hollister, Abercrombie and Fitch, American Eagle, and...jeans.



Things I hate...
Fake people, people who think they`re better than you because they have more money than you, people who try to fight with me over something stupid, people who think they`re cool because they drink or smoke, liars, owls, ground beef, raost beef, beef in general, ham, sausage, bratwurst, ribs (I know, I`m unamerican because I don`t eat ribs), cheese, blood..I can`t stand blood, running, anything that crawls (like roaches and crickets), and stupid people. :]




Oh yeahh.. STUPiD ?s = STUPiD ANSWERS [just keep that in mind !]




Ask away ! Love yahs !
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hi sorry i'm a little new to this whole advice column thing... but i guess ill give it a try. it cant hurt right? lol okay well this boy is practically driving me INSANE, dead serious. i thought he used to like me maybe a little bit, then we stopped talking for a while, then we slowly started talking again (mostly me embarassing myself when im trying to start a convo with him), then i thought i decided that i was TOTALLY done with him whenever i saw him talking to another girl the exact same way he did with me, then today he seemed to show more and more interest in me again. whenever i describe my situation to people they're always like " wow, so he's a player?!" but thats not true at all. he's the sweetest guy that i have EVER met, and i can never stop thinking about him: in class, at dinner with my family, when im trying to fall asleep, on my way to school, on my way from school, 24/7. no boy has ever done this to me, i mean, im around your age and i've never had a bf before. but this boy is special somehow. do i love him? whats my deal? i know im too young to be "in love" but what is going on.... hes practically EVERYTHING...CUTE,!! (omg hes SO CUTE!!), and athletic, and has never been ignorant to anyone is his entire life, oh and he knows how to make me laugh.

HELP!

Hey Sweetie! You are so lucky to have a guy around that you could fall for so easily. And who says you're too young to be in love? Love has no age limit; it's not alcohol!



If you can't stop thinking about him, there's a reason for that. I am a firm believer in the 'everything happens for a reason' thing. Sure, he may act the same way around you as other girls, but that's his way of seeing how each girl acts differently around him. It's his way of.. I guess you could call it observing.. girls and seeing if he's interested in trying a relationship with that certain girl.



The fact that he's showing interest in you again is good. He liked the way you handled the origional situation. Yes, love may make you go crazy every now and again, but trust me, it's well worth it. I hope this helped a little bit. Let me know how everything works out!



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hi im rachel,
right now im 14 years old, but soon ill be turning 15 and i really dont want to. im seriously dreading it with a passion. everytime i thik about "not really being a kid anymore" like my parents say, i want to break down and cry....which usually happens. i hate it. and its not fair. god i sound like a downer, but idc. i dont want to drive (okay maybe a lil bit) and i dont want a boyfriend (well...) and i dont want to be a sophmore because that means i wont see my senior friends anymore (and they're AMAZING)


I know exactly how you feel. I turned 15 in November, and I wasn't excited. I still don't have my permit, and I don't express any interest in driving. Boys are a waste of time, and I don't have a boyfriend. I'm going to miss my senior friends alot too, but this isn't Peter Pan. You have to get another year older. It's just a part of life.


What you don't have to do just yet, is grow up. Be a kid still! Laugh 'til you cry; eat ice-cream 'til you can't move you're so full; giggle when you fart in class. Just be a kid. Really, 15 is not as bad as it sounds. I don't feel any different now than I did when I was 14. If you don't think of it as being a bad thing, it won't be as bad as you're making it feel. Hope this helped.

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P.S. Happy [ Early ] Birthday !

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theres a senior at my school who is REALLY HOT, and sometimes he kind of looks at me...i was talking to a friend thats also a senior and he was standing right there and smiling the whole time. OH MI GAWD HES HAWT


lovekelsey

Well, it looks like you've got a senior after you. My suggestion: don't go after him; let him come after you. Going after a guy older than you, or any age guy, appears really slutty. If you be yourself around him, he'll eventually get it. DON'T ACT LiKE YOU'RE DUMB AROUND HIM ! Guys hate it when girls act stupid around them because, well, then they'll think you're stupid. Hope this helped a little!

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hi im molli and i've read some of your answers and i think you'll be able to answer my question honestly. there's this REALLY pretty girl who goes to my school, she's seriously like perfect, her hair is ALWAYS straight, the boy i like likes her, she's smart [kind of], funny, and not afriad to be herself. she also has a ton of friends. i really want to BE her!! lol that sounds crazy but its true.i mean YEAH people tell me im pretty, im smart, funny, boys look at me but i dont feel "cool." i want to be close to perfect like her, like if someone just takes random pictures at a party or something, i would look great/cute in all of them

Here's something every girl needs to know, including you..


You don't have to be perfect, or even close to it. You can't make yourself look like or try to be someone else. You can only be you. Guys don't want girls because they have perfectly straight hair or a Hollywood smile. They want girls who are happy with themselves. The main reason why people like this girl you speak of is the reason you stated, "not afraid to be herself." I love this quote from RENT because it helped me love myself for who I am. If you really think about this one, you'll understand what it means, and then take it to heart.


"You'll never share real love until you love yourself.."
-Roger Davis in "RENT" (As played by Adam Pascal)


Hope this helped! Feel free to IM.

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Hello, I am a 15 year old female. I am asking for advice on harasment. I am a tall girl who is rather skinny, only one problem, I have really big breats. I am a 36C and I constiantly look very disproportianed. I am constiantly made fun of and harrased because of my big breasts. Mainly boys, but sometimes girls, say really mean things to me and make up nick names for me that I do not like. There are these boys inparticular who are constiantly nudging me or hitting me in the breats because they are so big. Girls have also made fun of me and spread gossip about how I take pills to make my boobs bigger, which is NOT true. Boys give me nick names and use mainy words that are unappropiate, such as titties. I am asking you for advice because I know you will be honest, and that to me is good advice. Thank you!

Report the boys that "accidentally bump into" your boobs, and anyone who has ever made a rude comment to you for sexual harrassment. That's wrong, and needs to be stopped immediately. I'm not going to tell you to ignore them because I know it's hard to do that, but if you try your hardest to act like it's not bugging you, then they will eventually get tired of making fun of you, and they'll stop. If you hear a rumor, don't go ballestic. Just calmly tell everyone that asks you about it that it's not true. The best and first thing to do is report them. I hope this helped !!
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hi my name is carey and i go to hazelwood highschool. im a freshman and i used to be kind of dorky and shyish, a little bit. but now im starting to be crazy, random,hyper, and not that shy really. it feels great because boys are looking me and people are like "hey carey!" in the hallway. but sometimes there's always that one person that has to rain on my parade, even in they are one of my "best friends." why do they have to make a little comment/joke at me after i do something random/funny and everybody else (including me) is enjoying it??

thanks, and oh yeah ur gorgeous

I used to be the same way: shy, didn't really hang out with the "kool" people, but then I hit highschool, and all that kinda changed.

The person who rains on your parade is jealous. They're not confident in themselves enough to express themselves in a crazy or hyper-ish way, so they get mad at you // jealous because you can express yourself that way, and they merely want to be confident enough to do the same. I know, people need to lighten up, but you just have to ignore those little rain clouds and keep being an energetic ball of sunshine (in a sense). =] Hope this helped !! And thank you !! You're such a sweetheart !!

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Okay well, when I whisper a song, like..as in singing it but I'm whispering it I sound really good. I don't sing out loud often, even when I'm by myself cause I'm scared I'll sound horrible. It's like I'm afraid of my OWN judgment. So my question is, since I sound good when I whisper a song, or sing a song really low, does that mean I'll be good if I put my whole voice into it? I know this is a silly question, but I really need it answered. Please tell me. =/ THANK YOU!

The only way you'll really have the answer to this question is if you actually sing out loud. If you think you sound bad at first, no big deal. The more you practice singing, the better you'll get, but you have to sing with all of your voice. =]
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when i have a retainer is it neccesary to take it off to eat? and if it isn't then is it harder to eat with it in.

thanks!

Yes, you should take it out. If you eat with it in, it's harder. Food gets stuck and chewing is more difficult.
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Hey abby, guess what ( fourteen female)
i lost him, u know the boy i really liked (who walks me to class, looks in my bookbag, helps me with anything) all of that stopped because he got scared. he found out that i liked him and so he ignores me now. i hate this but theres nothing i can do and i refuse to talk to him about it ...... i dont know if u can help me but i just needed to do something....i LOVED what we had and i cant believe its gone so theres nothing else to do anymore besides think about how amazing it was that a really cute athletic polite boy payed special attention to me.

you know.. you sound like an exact replica of me.

i had the exact same thing happen to me. the guy found out that i liked him.. and BAM !! we never talked again. if a guy is going to stop being your friend and talking to you (or even more) just because he found out you liked him, he is definitely not worth your time. there are soooo many other guys out there that would give their right arm to have you, and they wouldnt be afraid to admit it. now that mr. scardey cat left, i say hes not worth it. remember :: if you truely love someone, set them free. if they love you in return, they WILL come back to you. if hes really worth it, hell come running back, but when he does, girl you make him work for you !! he doesnt just get to run and then come back for free !! i hope i was somewhat of a help, and good luck !!
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I can to you, beacuse I know your amazing with advice.


My boyfriend, is crazy about me & theres nothing wrong with that. I just dont know what to do. Iv never had a boyfriend that really cared for me and showed it. Im scared im going to mess up and do something stupid and make it all come crashing down. Everyone keeps telling me that hes not good and that he uses girls, thing is.. i dont know if i can believe them. I dont trust alot of people, and he swears he doesnt do that. I believe him over anyone else that he doesnt do that to girls, but if im scared that maybe he really does.


The way he treats me is amazing, but its weird. Hes so sweet to me and he is never mean to me, but I just dont know. I feel akward in a way. I know every girl wants that guy that treats them like a princess, and thats why he does, but abby.. its so different for me. All my other boy friends were total butts to me, and now that I have one thats different, im just so confused.


Sorry this was so long, and that it doesnt make a whole lot of sense, but anything you could say to help me, I'd really love.
always : someone you know, but shh =]]

You know I'll keep your name on the DL.

You won't mess up. I know you well enough to know that when you find someone you love, you do the best that you can not to screw things up with them. Do NOT listen to anyone else. Believe him. If in the end you find out he does do all that stuff, you'll look back on what you had with him and say "Wow, that was really fun," but I know he won't do that stuff because no one would ever treat you like that. He's sweet because he loves you more than anything else. Look back on your other boyfriends.. did they treat you like that?? No. Look where you got with them. No where. This guy is your Prince Charming, and now all you need to do is be his Cinderella. Ignore the evil stepsisters and you run with him. Ride away on your white horses and don't look back. Have the time of your life with him. =] I hope I was somewhat of a help !!
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whats wrong with me? i want a boy to like me so i try really hard, then he DOES like me but i dont like him anymore. i get scared.

Nothing's wrong with you! That's completely normal. You're probably just afraid of commitment, or it could be that by the time he likes you, you've lost interest in him already. When the perfect guy comes along, you won't get scared when he likes you. I hope this helped !!
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How much does this boy like me? (im a female and 14)
1. Helps me with anything i need (serisouly) he's even covered the heater thats next to me in science bcz i said i was freezing
2. Has geuinely thanked me for coming to his soccer game and watching him
3. Holds the door open for me and walks down the hallway with me (even though we dont say anything) its kind of cool :)
4. Laughs (nicely) when he pulls out a pic of me and friends acting like losers from my backpack. he looks in my backpack all the time and finds that picture
5. (most important) but hes shy :(

LOTS OF FEEDBACK PLEASE!

I can honestly say, he REALLY likes you. The shyness really gives it away. Guys will be shy around you if they like you becuase they're scared of saying something stupid. That's why he doesn't talk when you walk down the hallway. Going through your stuff also say he likes you. He seems like a VERY polite boy in that he thanked you for coming to his game, holds the door, and he helps you with everything. Laughing nicely is a good sign, too. All in all, he really likes you !! Hope this helps !!
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okay im getting older and my birthday is coming up soon.and im taking piano lessons.but every week when the time comes around for me to take them.i never want to. Is it that i don't like piano?? or do i think im too old.
i've been playing for 7 years and i don't want to give it up.but theres a feeling inside of me that never wants to play piano..maybe my teacher.idk.please help me.i really don't want to give it up.

I had that same problem, but as soon as I quit, I wanted to start back up again, so I wouldn't quit yet. Finding a new teacher might help. If you're playing music that you don't enjoy, that will also make your interest level go down. Try some new, fun songs, songs that you know maybe from movies or something like that. Hope this helps !! Good luck !!

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Ok im trying to find i wanna fuck you ( or i wanna love you) by Akon on itunes and when i type it in it said your search has no matches and i know my friend has it on her ipod and i dont know what to type in! can you guys help me?
thanks!!

if you go to http://www.hotlyrics.net, you can search for bits of lyrics. that might help you a little more. you could also type in 'akon' because a list of all of his songs will come up. hope this helped !! good luck !!

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iam going out with this guy and i like him alot and he likes me alot but i never see him. the only times he calls me is on the weekends when hes with his mom. its thats not offten for him to call. i like other guys so i dont know if i should date him anymore since we never do anything. hes not passing 8th grade so if he doesnt pass 8th grade and doesnt go on the the high school i might as well dump him becuase i wont see him at all. so what do you think i should do? just wait and deal with it or dump him and get a new boyfriend that ill see alot more?

You have come to the right person. I am going through the exact same thing right now.

You're going on to highschool. He's not (from the looks of it). There will be soooooo many other guys in highschool that are gonna want you, trust me. Not to mention, you'll see them every day. Considering you don't see your current boyfriend or talk to him that often, it's probably not a relaionship worth waiting for. Don't hurt yourself or limit your opportunities with other guys because you're waiting around for some dude who can't pass the 8th grade (no effense to him or anything). In my opinion, dump him!! Let him go. Give yourself time to flirt and have fun with other guys. Then, you'll find someone who is perfect for you, and that you see everyday. Hope it helped. Good luck, and feel free to IM if you have any more questions.
~ab x3

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so i have this guy friend and i like him but he doesnt like me. he acts like he likes me and all but when i asked him out he told me no. i really like him alot so what can i do to maybe make him like me or even say yes if i ask him out again?

i hate to say it...but there is no way to make a guy like you. all you can do is be yourself, talk to him, & flirt. but most importantly...let him come to you. if he really does like you then hell come to you. im sorry that i probably wasnt much help. but i hope i did help some!!
~ab

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i like this guy a lot but we dont go to the same school soi i dont see him very often. sadly he has a girlfriend thats one of my friends, i flirt with him all the time and he flirts back. he said that if i went to school with him he would break up with his girlfriend and ask me out. but some one told my friend and now shes mad that i do that. how do i get her to be unmad at me but stil have the guy ask me out?

hmmm...thats a tough one. well if shes a true friend to you then i think she would understand. keep flirting with him. yea, shes gonna get mad, but if shes a real friend, shell get over it. she might eventually get mad enough at him for flirting with you that she breaks up with him. then BINGO!! he asks you out & you both live happily ever after. hope it helped!!
~ab

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