Hey, my name is Ana Barrera. Im 14. I have brown/black hair, dark brown eyes. I basically give my friends advice when ever they need it, and my advice always helps. I like to dance, draw, and in the near future I hope to be a DJ at the hottest club in LA, California. I love to hang out with my friends alot. On my free time I give people advice.
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alright my ex asked me to prom, and hes a big dancer type and i dont really dance that way with guys other than slow dance.. i wanna go with him ALOT but im scared that hes gonna think im a loser if i dont dance like that with him..wut do i do?? please help me cuz i havent given him an answer yes or no yet.. (link)
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Just do what ever you think is right...if you feel comfortable dancing, then it shouldn't matter what he thinks! If you really don't want to be embaressed infront of him then just tell him! If he starts saying shit about it...then he's not worth goin out with...let alone got to prom with! Your prom should be spent with someone that really and truly cares about you!
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ok im 13 female and i cut myself but not as much as i ust to i mean i havent in a week or 2 but my best friend betray me and my ex. bf still likes me and i dont no wat to do cuz his best friend makes me feel bad and i just tell myself not to cut becuz i dont want to but sometimes i have to like its the only thing i can count on to help me but i realli dont want to tell anyone so i dont no wat do can you help me? (link)
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Well I went through the same thing...and it sucks! But yea...what Im about to tell you might sound really weird but it worked for me! OK, I know that it might be really hard to stop cutting but just think...if you don't stop now then you might not ever be able to stop! Instead of cutting try wrighting poems or on a piece of paper just wright everything and everyone that you hate and the things that you just can't handle anymore, basically just wright down all your anger, but don't let anyone see it...and after you are really sure that u have let all that anger out on that piece of paper...burn it!(just don't get anything of fire)Because if you don't burn it and you find it again then you might start to cut again! So yea just burn it! Just no more cutting anymore!
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Here is the thing, i was on the basketball team for my school and i quit because my knee hurts soo bad and so later on in the year my friend asked me to do track and so i said yes because my knee hasnt hurt in a while so i went to the first track meet and i had to go to the hospital for dehydration and my knee and so i left early and told my coach i quit.. well now he keeps tellin every one i am a quitter and not to be my friend. it makes me wanna cry and i dont cry.. well any ways what should i do about him?
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The coach shouldn't be sayin any of that. Go tell the counsler and see wut she does about it! you should not be takin any of this!
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I'm worried since I gave my boyfriend head now he's just using me. 16/F. We've been going out for 3 months but I was always unsure if he really liked me or not. He always says he does so I guess I have no reason to think that but so many girls flirt with him, I don't mind that, but I don't know if he's enjoying it to much. So now that I gave him head i'm worried that's the only reason he is staying with me. (link)
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Next time that he wants you to give him head say "no" and see wat he does. And he gets really mad that u won't give him head then you know that he's just using you. And if he seems alright with you saying no and you're still not sure then if just keep on sayin no!
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me and this guy went out for like 2 weeks, right. so anyways we did a lot of bad stuff but of course hes in 11th grade and im in 7th. i cry ever morning because i think of what we did. he dumped me the next day after we did it. and told me that he was using me to get down my pants. please help me on what i should do! you are like the only girl i can trust, and plus you are so pretty. i love you and thanks! please! (link)
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First of all let me say this...he's a complete asshole! Aright...try to go up to him and just start sayin shit about him. Or try to suduce him into doing it with you again and if that works then do the meanist and most HURTFULL thing you can think of (hopefully you know what I mean) and when you do that run as fast as you can away from him!
Thats what I would do!
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im 14/f, and i really need help. There is this boy that I can't get out of my mind. Whenever I think about him my heart beats faster, and I get butterflies in my stomach. When I'm around him I can't stop smiling and I get nervous. His voice sends shivers down my spine and when he gives me a hug my heart soars. When he so much as looks at me I melt inside. he's cute, funny, sensitive, kind, caring.. he's everything.
Two problems though...
1. he has a girlfriend and it tears me up when i think about them or see them together.
2. he's my best friend...
I've tried to get over him... i just can't. What do i do? Should I try and tell him how i feel? Could this be something that will end our friendship?
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I had the same problem. Aright well if he is sensitive and open minded then you should tell him how you feel about him. If when you tell him he starts sayin stuff that sounds really mean then he's not at all worth it. Or if you really don't wanna tell him then just think about what it would be like if you two were to go out...if you've known him for a really long time or feel like you have, then you would realize that it would be really weird if you guys went out! So just to what ever your heart tells you to!
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one of my bestfriends just called me to tell me that like one of my bestesteset friends house is on fire..she knew this because her dad is a firefighter..no one knows where my friend is and im startin to freak out..we're doing the paper together and im hoping shes ok.would it be nosey to drive over there?
Signed,
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It wouldn't be at all nosey to go over there. If you care alot about your friend then you will do anything to see that your friends is ok!
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ok over the summer i was raped by this kidthat i was kinda friends with but not like best friends but i didn trust him and we were at a block party and he was like "do u want to go see my new computer?" and i was like "okay?"
and so when we got there he like locked the door and pulled out a condom and pushed me down and wouldnt let me go. i said no over and over again but he wouldnt stop. then i started cutting myself and crap bc my parents like beat me and cps is even involved with my family...so i cant tell them bc they wont believe me. i still cut and i dont know how to deal with the rape bc thats all i ever think about and i dont know what i can do. (i dont know where he is now and i dont know his last name and there is no proof so i cant press charges) what else can i do to deal with this?
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Try going to a therapist, I know it might sound really stupid, but trust me it works. You have to let someoen know. I mean if you go to a therapist then you can let it all out and stop cutting.
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I know this sounds totally gross but since I'm from Sicily Italy and i have really dark brown hair. There is almost black hair on my arms and I dont like to wear t-shirts cuz it shows off my arms and im afraid someone might say something. What can I do? (link)
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I also have dark hair on my arms but I don't let it bother me. Don't think about it, don't even let it bother you. It shouldn't matter to you what people think about you, you are who you are and you can't change that.
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I just moved to a new school and I'm finding it really hard to make some friends (i'm in 9th). and it just gets really lonley on the weekends because I don't like do anything. And my friends from my old school, I don't talk to them anymore. I don't know if there is any advice you can give me (besides that whole join a sport because I am doing a sport in the spring) and join a club because I am already in some and they arent very helpful with meeting people. Any advice?? (link)
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Just try to get yourself noticed. I mean don't do anything stupid, like if you are really loud then just be yourself. But if you really quiet then just try to go up to someone and start talking. I know it will be hard but just try, it never hurts to try.
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i am 16 .. and a girl.. My ex boyfriend and i were together for a year and a half. we broke up 5 months ago and im not over him. we never really talk but recently we hung out and i still like him but he "says" he doesnt like me like that. how do i get over him or what could i do to get back together with him or atleast hang out one on one? (link)
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I don't think that you would be able to get over him. I mean if he was someone that you really loved then there is no way that u can get over him. If you want to hang out with him one on one then just ask him if he would like to go to the mall or something like that.
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My realy good friend went out with this boy but he broke up with her in three days. I've liked him since we were introduced (by my friend). My boyfriend of two months just broke up with me and the first person i thought about was my friends ex. im not looking for a rebound guy. i asked my friend and she says its ok and shes happy for me. Her ex already nos i like him. am i low? what else can i do? (link)
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You can't help it if you like your friends exboyfriend, so if she says that it's ok for you to go out with him then take a chance and go for it. Now if you don't want to hurt your friend then just decide who is more important to you, your friend or the guy that you like. That should help you choose what to do.
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I've never really been shy around guys but theres one that i like now but and really shy towards. he nos i like him but i just got my heart broke so could that be why im afrid to talk to him? (link)
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If you really loved that one guy, and you were really sad, then that is probably why you are shy around him, and you might just be afraid because you don't want to have your heart broken again. That is totally normal. So just take time then things will feel normal again trust me.
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my really good friend just called me and her cousin goes to my boyfriends sschool and she said her cousin said that MY BOYFRIEND HAS TWO OTHER GIRLFRIENDS........and that she seen him kissing on girls and stuff...... im so upset i dont know what to do..i was just on the phone with my boyfriend and he was like i love you so much and i was like i love you too and he was like no i love you more...hes so sweet i cant believe this....what do i do?? IM GOING TO CALL HIM UP BUT IM SO UPSET IM CRYING AND WHAT DO I SAY...=( oh my god...hes the only good thing in my life....this is aweful PLEASE HELP (link)
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Honey if he really loved you then he wouldn't be cheatin on you, and if your really good friend says that he is cheating on you, if you really trust her, then believe that he is cheating on you. I know its hard to imagine him cheating on you but u also believe he is then trust our instincs.
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him? (link)
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He should only be told once that you would feel uncomfortable if you did a 3 sum. If he really loves you then he wouldn't always be tryin to get you to do it, he should respect your answer. If he doesn't then I think that you should dump him, cause a guy that doesn't listen to his girl and keeps tryin to make her do sumthin she don't want to then he is just not worth it.So tell him straight up NO!!!
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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me? (link)
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It's probably cuz their little brains only focus on cheerleaders, and think that the only way that they can get noticed is if they talk or date a cheerleader. But don't let that bug u cuz if u do then sum of the guys that do notice u might think that all u want to be is popular.
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ok well a guy found out i liked him and he likes me but im not positive i like him becuz i like other guys too. what should i do when i see him tommrow? AHH ill rate u a 5! (link)
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Just act normal around him, act like nothing is goin on. Then u should find out if u truly like him or not.
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I'm 15/f ... and I liked a certain guy last year... and once i was talking to him and he totally crushed me, he said he wanted to go out with me, and then told me he was just kidding. Well he went out with another girl. Well I thought i would never have feelings for him again since he was so mean. Well yesterday he broke up with this girl, and I still have feelings for him- strong feelings. What do I do?! (link)
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As hard as it may seem try to go up to him and tell him how u feel, and if he starts sayin that u should stop talkin to him, don't let that get to u. Seriously, it's is loss if he won't give u a second chance.
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Hey i have blonde hair about halfway down my back and i've been thinking about getting cut just for a change. Dose anyone have any ideas what hairstyles might look good?ThAnKs! (link)
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Try short hair like to ur neck and try to flip it up.
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ok im getting contacts and i was thinking about getting colored i have blonde hair that is about the color of paris hilton my eyes r like light green. wut color do u think i should get i was thinking maybe a lil greener or blue? (link)
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If u want to look different try to go for a dramatic change like a really, really dark color or an really bright color that stands out.
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