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16/f. my religion tells us not to have sex until we are married, and i plan on sticking to that. im possibly going to a get a boyfriend soon though, and i dont know how to tell him that im waiting. what are some excuses of why i cant have sex with him besides my religion and i dont want to?
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You should not be coming up with excuses to tell your future boyfriend(s)as to you why you can't have sex. If he really loves you and cares about you he will understand. Just tell him the truth. You are faithful to your religion and that is nothing to be ashamed of.
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You dont need an excuse, if its something you beleive in. He should respect your opinion.
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Dear u,
If your boyfriend wants to and you don't you should tell him you have the control over your body not him. If he still wants to he is not the right guy for you.
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You should be with someone who respects your beliefs. And a sexually active life should always start with a dialogue between you and your partner- discuss pros and cons, reasons, trust, and everything else you need to talk about before engaging in sexual activity. I know of a lot of relationships that end up working great without sex, so maybe it won't even be an issue. But if you or him brings it up, just tell him the truth about why you're not ready. If he's worth it, and he really cares, he'll understand and respect your reasons.
Good luck and hope I helped.
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I'm 16/f also and I have the same views on sex and religion as you do. If a guy isn't willing to wait, then he's not right for you. He should be accepting of your choice and not try to change your mind. Basically, if he loves you, he'll be willing to wait.
Just tell him you're a virgin and planning to wait until you're married to have sex. If he's OK with that, then great, and if not, then lose him. He's not the guy for you.
Hope I helped!
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If he can't deal with you waiting until marriage, he's not the right guy for you, easily stated.
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you need no other excuse except your not ready..the more you make lies up about why the more he will pressure you. so before you even start datening him let him know you plan on waiting till your married. if he doesn't like that then he wasn't even worth your time.
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Where would we do it? What if i got pregnant? Im scared of pain! What if my parents found out! They would kill me! If you love me you would wait for me. I'm worth waiting for.
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Honestly, you shouldnt even have to tell him that you are waiting till your married because its part of your religion. The only thing you should have to tell him is Im waiting till marriage and if he does not except the fact that you are waiting then maybe hes just fit to be your friend.
If you arent with this guy then how do you know he will go into this relationship expectinf sex. If thats the situation then there are guys o0ut there that want you for you and not for sex.
kim:)
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You should never use excuses plain and simple if you use excuses over time they will get old and he will say stuff as an exaple he might say you dont love me b/c you wont have sex with me well dont deal with any of that Bs when you get a b/f tell him up front you do not plan on having sex because it is against your religion and you swore to abstinence and if he cant accept that then he is not worth your time
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no dont use any excuses. tell it like it is and if he cant accept that than he doesnt love you. im serious
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You shouldn't need any excuses just tell him that you want to wait until marriage. Try to bring it up when you are talking about something casual, or you could start off by saying something about a character on a TV show,or you could just ask him about what he believes in religious wise and go from there. If he is really that special guy who loves and cares about you he would wait for you. True Love Always Waits.
Kate <3
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ok so if this guy likes you and wants to be with you for a while... he's not gonna ask you to have sex for a while so it really shouldn't be an issue. just take it slow and he should get the hint. if he asks just say you want to wait for marriage, simple as that. or you could just say you're not ready to handle it or the consequences. <3
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You shouldn't date someone that doesn't have the same belief as you do. Trust me, if you date someone that doesn't respect that, then he will end up pressuring you to do something you don't want to do. Trust me, it's easier for someone to pull you down than for you to pull them up. Anyway, you don't need other excuses. Your values and beliefs should mean more than anything in a relationship. Don't give up what you believe for anyone.
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to be honnest you shouldnt have to give him an excuse at all.. if he really loves you (which im assuming is something you would want to wait for even if your religon allowed it) he will wait for you, and if he doesnt accept the fact that you are saving yourself, he may just have the wrong intentions anyways.
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You shouldn't have to give him any excuse, just the flat out truth. If he ever does suggest it, just explain to him that you can't. You're a religious person and your religious says you're not to have sex until you're married, so you're sorry, but it's not going to happen.
If you and this guy do go out though, since obviously that means he likes you alot, he should respect any decision you're going to make in the present and future.
If he does make a big deal out of it, I might want to consider then breaking up ( haha I know, you guys aren't even dating yet and I'm already talking of breaking up! I'm just stating future opitions haha, hopefully you two won't! ) but, like I was saying, if he does make a big deal of it, I would consider breaking things off then because you deserve a guy whose going to respect your decision and be glad to have a girl with some morals, and it won't be all about the sex to him. Relationships are supposed to be more than that, so hopefully it won't bother this guy that you don't want to have sex until you're married.
I hope I helped.
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tell him the truth. i'm sure he'll understand. if he doesn't, then he's not worth it. seriously.
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