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My best friend abandoned me
In school I hung out with this girl, we were best friends. She really likes Marvel and all that superhero stuff, and I know nearly nothing about it. She was talking to this other girl in my class and they found out that they both love Marvel. My friend stopped talking to me and spent all her time with the other girl. I'll try to talk to her but she either flat out ignores me, or tells me to shut up. It really hurts, and I have no idea what to do. I do have other friends, but she was my best friend, and I really miss her.
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Why would you want to be friends with someone who ignores you or tells you to shut up?
You deserve better than that! No friend should ever treat you less even if you don't have a common interest. There was obviously something that made you guys friends what ever that may be. I would talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. I would also mention how it hurts your feelings and how you miss her. If she disregards you or doesn't acknowledge your feelings leave her be. I know it will be hard but you can't make someone be your friend but you should never let someone treat you badly I don't care who it is. Know your worth and hang out with your other friends! Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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As we grow older, we form new hobbies and grow and mature and branch out into new friendships and new activities. So what your friend is doing is normal and not a slight against you. The best of best friends are the ones who have the most in common with you. If you both had nothing in common, then its easy to understand why she'd feel more drawn to someone who shares an interst in Marvel superhero's. At any point in time, any new best friend could change and find someone they prefer to spend more time with simply cus they've changed. However it is rude to tell you to shut up. Perhaps you are insisting and trying too hard to pester her for attention so she is just exasperated and sometimes people without much patience will lash out meanly at others. I will suggest that you stop trying to get her to spend time with you and invest time in others and finding new friends who have more in common with you right now. I know it sucks but this is a part of life and everyone has free will to choose and sometimes they may choose to not want to be friends with you. By the way, its' possible to have more than one BEST friend because I call them a little different label, closest friends. They are still better or best people for me to have as a friend who understand me best and we have the most in common, and everyone else is someone I may socialize with at times but I am aware of the things I do not like about them or they don't like about me, which in small amounts is easy to take and handle but if hanging out too often, we'd drive each other nuts and one might lose their temper. Its time to learn where the people you know fall into what catagory, a close friend or a social aquaintance friend. Your best friend may have decided to drop down to just being a social friend which means you both won't see each other as often as before and thats okay. If you are okay with it, then leave it to her to warm back up to you if she ever does and then enjoy those few times together if they do happen.
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