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I confessed to my crush (classmate) about my feelings for him
im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
if he´s my classmate should i continue to be friend with him ? , should i ignore him when the new school year starts, or should i talk to him like we used to ?,
THE MAIN QUESTION: he asked the whole class if we want to spend some days on his family´s cabin, i like the post on fb he wrote about it, but i dont know if i should go, wouldnt it be awkward? i didnt say goodbye to him on last day of school, i just ignored him, but i met him yesteday and we briefly said hello to each other ...so should i go or not ?? please help me :)
i thought he liked me:/..thats why i told him..if i knew i would never told him...now i guess i ruined my friendship with him..
i also didnt say anything about rejection to my family or my friends..im just kinda ashamed..my one cousin and my best friend know that i like him but they dont know i got rejected :/
PS: he doesnt want to be priest or something like that he is just little bit more religious
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The same thing happened to me my freshman year of high school. I now am a senior in high school and that "crush" is now one of my closest friends. Continue to be friends and talk to him. Don't make it awkward between you two.
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Honestly! Its your highschool year. You should go girl! Not for him by for yourself. Go with a friend and if a lot of people from your class are going then you should too. You shouldn't feel the need to exclude yourself from these things because of him. Reading this I think he does like you. If he didn't, he wouldn't take the time to talk to you. Ignoring him isn't the answer, just simply be friends. He seems like he has a lot going on and isn't ready for a girlfriend and that's okay! Maybe the more time you spend together the more his feelings will develop. He gave you legit reasons and had good answers. He was honest and kind. It is okay to be embarrassed. Things happen but he was very comforting and that's great. He acknowledged your feelings and still wanted to continue your friendship. Then again, if you think this is going to be hard for you to be friends with someone you have feelings for, do not continue the friendship. I know the feeling of wanting someone you cant have. I say just try being friends and if it hurts too much just try and move on. I say go to the house and have fun don't focus on him/it too much. You have all summer to do what you want, you don't need to worry now what to do next year if you should ignore him just go with the flow! hope this helps xoxo
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It's okay to be embarrassed. It happens. It always sucks, but this happens. You should still be proud of yourself for being brave and honest, even though it didn't work out the way you'd like too.
Now, I think all that is important is deciding if you are comfortable being his friend. Just his friend. If you are, then go ahead and do friendly things, like hang out him and others at the cabin. But if you aren't comfortable, or aren't ready yet, then don't.
It's takes two people to decide to be friends, and only one person to decide to end the friendship. He has said pretty clearly that he'd still like to be friends. It's up to you now to decide if the friendship is one you are going to hold on to or not.
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It's up to you! From the conversation that you had with him it sounds like he was flattered but doesn't want a relationship right now. It's up to you of whether you want to go or not. It will only be awkward if you make it awkward.
In high school I had a crush on one of my friends. I was embarrassed and didn't want to say anything. When I did I felt awful but he assured me that he was flattered but didn't feel the same way. We became friends after that...yeah it was weird but I got over him and started dating someone else.
It's totally up to you and how you feel with it. You have to feel comfortable but you also have to respect his wishes. Good luck!
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