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Okay so I'm 14 years old and I'm a female. Recently (as in the last couple of days recently) my two best friends said they don't want to be friends with me anymore. Reasons given by friend 1 is that I'm not as good a friend as friend 2 and I'm self-centred and I brush off problems (despite the numerous hours I've spent trying to help both of them with their problems). friend 2 gave similar reasons. I have two other really close friends in our friendship group and yesterday they said they don't want to be friends with me because I'm too clingy. So in the span of two days I've lost literally all my friends. I've been diagnosed with depression, and anxiety- I'm on medication and receiving therapy. I have tried committing suicide once before and constantly think about it. I'm not in school at the moment because the mental health team think I'm not stable enough to be in school. Today all my ex-friends have messaged me about how they're worried about me and some about how they care, etc.
I'm pretty bitter about the situation. They knew I was off school for feeling badly suicidal anyway so I don't see how they thought telling me I'm an awful person in such detail then abandoning me would help. Like they could've just waited until I came back to school and was in a better mental state.
The fact that they've messaged me again has made me feel worse if I'm being honest, and I don't know what to reply. I don't want to reply anything but they probably think I'm dead or something so I don't think it's fair to leave them in a constant state of worry, even if they've hurt me. I'm not okay, I'm feeling really badly suicidal and I'm might be going into hospital- it depends on what they think is best for me right now. So I'd be lying if I tell them I'm okay but at the same time they're not my friends and I don't want to list off about how shit I'm actually feeling. Any ideas on what to reply if anything at all? Thanks
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Sweetie, I have been in the same boat. I am guessing that you feel like a social outcast. But that is okay. I personally have had 3,yes 3, suicide attempts. And I have finally found a way to at least deal with the sadness of feeling like a loner. I started really getting into my choir at school because I love music and found out I'm a great singer. Take up something you love and focus your life on that. And eventually you will make friends with the same common interest. And the anxiety, when it starts to get real bad, go to somewhere quite, shut your eyes, and just think about a happy place. Whether that be a beach, a forest, grandma's house, etc. It really helps to calm down your heart rate and then yourself. As for your "friends", tell them the truth, but not the whole truth. Maybe something like "I'm doing better. Thanks for the concerns." OR maybe "I just need some time and/or space. Thank you for the concerns, but I think it would be best if we didn't talk until I return to school." Again, these are just suggestions. I really hope that this helped! I hope you feel better soon!
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im girl 17, im in 3rd year in high school... i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush that i like him, in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him bc , i felt really relieved after i told him...two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels , during school (we didnt study , we just played games etc), i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him, he repeated it 5 more times :D :D, he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him... then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)...and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church , ..and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and he told not to act nervous before him,
if he´s my classmate should i continue to be friend with him ? , should i ignore him when the new school year starts, or should i talk to him like we used to ?,
THE MAIN QUESTION: he asked the whole class if we want to spend some days on his family´s cabin, i like the post on fb he wrote about it, but i dont know if i should go, wouldnt it be awkward? i didnt say goodbye to him on last day of school, i just ignored him, but i met him yesteday and we briefly said hello to each other ...so should i go or not ?? please help me :)
i thought he liked me:/..thats why i told him..if i knew i would never told him...now i guess i ruined my friendship with him..
i also didnt say anything about rejection to my family or my friends..im just kinda ashamed..my one cousin and my best friend know that i like him but they dont know i got rejected :/
PS: he doesnt want to be priest or something like that he is just little bit more religious (link)
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The same thing happened to me my freshman year of high school. I now am a senior in high school and that "crush" is now one of my closest friends. Continue to be friends and talk to him. Don't make it awkward between you two.
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