Im 11 am i old enuff to have sex and make a baby so we can be together
Question Posted Wednesday October 10 2012, 3:16 am
Im 11 im dating a 14 year old am i old enough to have sex with him if so can i get pregnant cuz he says he wants to have a family with me rite now
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? yibelle answered Friday October 19 2012, 8:52 am: It disgusts me that you are even in this situation right now because you're so young. You said it yourself, you are 11 years old, at 11 years old the farthest thing I had on my mind was sex. I'm not trying to be mean, but the answer is no you're not old enough to have sex. A million times, no. Wait till you're older, it will be more special when you're ready, and not just doing it because he says he wants to. Also he's 14, it's might be hard to stomach this but he I highly and I mean highly doubt he means what he says in respect to having a family. You guys are too young to understand the responsibility that comes with sex and supporting a family. Don't do it, because you'll regret it, I say this with the best of intentions, only looking out for you. [ yibelle's advice column | Ask yibelle A Question ]
kayse_marie answered Wednesday October 17 2012, 4:32 pm: You are 11 for crying out loud child! You should be focused on school, NOT BOYS! Since you're 11, you guys aren't really "dating." Do you go on dates? Didn't think so. Focus on school and family. Those are the only things important right now. [ kayse_marie's advice column | Ask kayse_marie A Question ]
OneLove_OneHeart answered Thursday October 11 2012, 2:30 am: Hello there.
First let me say you're 11 years old. You should focus on school, playing outside, and being with friends not sex and creating a family. The both of you are really young, way too young to have kids since y'all are just kids yourself. Please put the thought of children far out of your mind. You may think that it's sweet that he wants to be with you and become a family, but y'all can wait. If he loves you, he'll wait. Also, once that baby gets here it'll be here and there will be no turning back it won't be just about you and him anymore y'all will have a baby to raise. It's even stressful for adults I don't think y'all are ready for a baby. It's cute but it's real and it'll change your whole life. I hope this helps you
-A.B [ OneLove_OneHeart's advice column | Ask OneLove_OneHeart A Question ]
LoveBurner44 answered Wednesday October 10 2012, 3:52 pm: well i admire you want to start a family, but you're a little young in the most important categories: 1. you're way to young to even have sex. 2. you're too young to possibly even concieve a child. 3. you're too young to have a family, enjoy you're childhood, and lastly you're both WAY too young to support a child, you'd have to throw away you're education and future careers, and everything you earn will go to the baby, if it's successfully born, so in the sum of all this, no, you are not old enough. [ LoveBurner44's advice column | Ask LoveBurner44 A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Wednesday October 10 2012, 1:33 pm: I'm going to start by saying you may not like my answer either. At 11 years old you are not only to young to be having sex, your body may not be able to conceive a child.
Both you and your boyfriend are too young to be thinking along these lines. While it is nice to think about having a baby and living with your man in most states you would not be allowed to do so by law.
If you were to get pregnant your not even old enough, by law to make any decisions as to whether you continue the pregnancy, give the baby up for adoption if you do or have an abortion. These decisions would be made by your parents. Your boyfriend and his parents would have no say in the matter.
Given the fact that your boyfriend is 3 years older than you. If you were to become pregnant by him; he could be in legal trouble for getting you pregnant because he is 3 years older than you. Fact is by law in some states you could be violating the law by dating.
I'm not saying this to scare you or to be mean Fact is you are way to young to be dating. You are 2 years away from being a teenager and even then you should not be in an exclusive relationship.
I know the world has changed since I was your age. But somethings have not changed and never will. What has not changed is that all of us need time to grow and more mature. This is what childhood and your teenage years are all about. Learning about the world we live in while we have the security of our home and family to protect us.
You may not fully understand what I have written but trust that I have your best interest at heart. You may be a very mature 11 year old but you are not as mature as your boyfriend. In the three year difference in age he has experienced a lot more than you have and I fear he is taking advantage of you sexually or at least trying too.
While I know this is not something you want to talk to your parents about I believe you should. They need to know what this boy is trying to do and to help him get the help he needs. For if you say no he will try and find someone else who will say yes to him maybe someone younger than you.
SabrinaNaddie answered Wednesday October 10 2012, 9:29 am: To be honest with you hun , it's not your time yet . The world is moving fast and you got to realize things can't always go the way we want them to be . I don't know about your sex and all , but really you need to be at least 24 years old to lead a family or be a wife , i promise you that . You are still too young for this , and you need to remember you still have your parents and you haven't entered college yet ! Don't go tooo fassttt :-D [ SabrinaNaddie's advice column | Ask SabrinaNaddie A Question ]
rainhorse68 answered Wednesday October 10 2012, 8:58 am: It's sort of nice that you like the idea of being a proper settled couple. Some people really do end up marrying their childhood 'first loves' too, so who knows? But really, girls don't have families at 11 do they sweetheart? And I bet you'll be a great mum too...but not for a VERY LONG TIME YET! [ rainhorse68's advice column | Ask rainhorse68 A Question ]
Trauma answered Wednesday October 10 2012, 7:15 am: At 11 years old, you're not even considered a teenager yet. Your body is still growing and developing. In my opinion, you are way too young to be considering having sex, let alone having a child. In fact, there are possible serious complications that can result from becoming pregnant at such a young age. Technically, you're still a child yourself. You still have so much to do and accomplish in your life, and having a child will prevent you from doing a lot of those things. You have plenty of time to have a child. Please don't think you need to rush. [ Trauma's advice column | Ask Trauma A Question ]
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