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Hi, I'm Sabrina and I'll try my best to give the community here the utmost advice :) If there are certain mistakes involving the way I convey the words, do pardon me. "If something is normal doesn't mean we have to accept it."
"Either you run the day, or the day runs you."
All the best in your future endeavours :)
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My first real boyfriend, I met when I was 19yo, and he was 22. He was my first everything, although I wanted to wait til marriage. We dated for a year and a half, until my 21st bday where I can tell we were not on the same page. I put those thoughts aside, and within the next month or so things were weird between us, but nothing was said about it. I found messages and texts, and even pics sent between the two and he broke up with me. It's been two months since the breakup and I found out from close sources of his, that he's been cheating on me for a while. Today, it's been 3 months since the breakup, and he is dating that girl he cheated on me with. It hurts so bad, I just don't know what to do. I want to move on, but a piece of me is just so scared and feels so betrayed. I thought I was strong enough to move on, but every day seems to hurt even more. Seeing their picture together finalized how he was a horrible person to do that to me. I've always done everything for him and it just seems like he took advantage of that. How do I move on when it feels like theres a knife in my heart?
You're stronger than you think, believe me. This perhaps is one of our toughest tests in life and yes, being severely heartbroken especially after the first relationship could be severely depressing. Try thinking of the bright side. You did your best to contribute to the tie, and it wasn't your fault all of this occurred. At least you knew him earlier before even thinking about marriage with this man. Things would've been worse, wouldn't they? It might consume some time to forget him, but now you need to focus on you. Merely you. If he can perceive you as his past, so can you. I'm not trying to persuade you to hate him, but it's a fact.
Anger towards that very man will give you nothing, and if the feeling is prolonged, indirectly you'll imprison yourself in emotional prison. That is when 24/7 sadness comes along, disrupting your self-esteem and causes your mind to think as if "I can't go through this albeit I've tried." Self-defeating thoughts arise and may even cause certain people to harm themselves but I believe you won't. Look, you may feel as if every single day is getting excruciatingly painful, but this is the time for you to build up the strength. The moment for you to accept the harsh truth that he isn't for you, and looking at the pictures or texts will only exacerbate the current condition. There's no point trying to avoid the problem by having fun all the time, because at some time the memory will inevitably play itself in our heads.
Time heals nothing. It's what you do with the time that matters. If you want to, you can try spending time with the family or friends for they may give you a bigger support. Try sharing your feelings to the closest ones around you. It feels much more better letting go the cries and agony to the ones who listen, right? You can even e-mail me just in case. Anyway, you can always try pursuing your goals in life e.g. excelling studies, depends on what you desire for.
However, if the pain starts to set in suddenly, attempt your best holding back the negative words and assure yourself that as long as you're alive, you'll always have a purpose for your existence in the world or you would've been dead a long time ago. Do trust me in this I've been there and went through the convoluted pain for half a year. If you consistently try to build yourself up within these several months, God-willing you'll be better and have that strength to look and reflect back at your history. Remember that it is better to be healthy alone than sick with someone else. It is absolutely vital to move forward with life and love. Being willing to trust again is key. Take things one step at a time.
Discover the beautiful side of you :)
Hello everyone! I've got a very simple question: What are your favorite book(s)? If you don't have a favorite, what are some you really enjoy? (I need new things to read.)
Hello ! :D
Well what kind of genre suits you best? I do have my books but I don't know whether you'll be interested in them hehe. Here;
1)The Story of Philosophy (Will Durant)
2)Reader's Digest Condensed Novels
3)Leadership books by John Maxwell
4)Not Another Self-Help Book (Dr. David Fong)
5)Understanding Ethics
Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and I have been struggling with anxiety for over a year now and I'm really getting sick of it. I've had nearly 11 or 12 panc attacks within the last two months. I find myself worrying about my breathing, I have pressure in my head and I always focus on my heartbeat. I have no history of any medical problems so I'm clueless as to why I'm so concerned, other than the fact that about two months ago, I drank a glass of Mountain Dew (and see I began working at a McDonald's and started drink coffee and tea and side ALL the time.) and I guess my body reacted to the caffeine and my heart sped up and I panicked. Since then I've started doing breathing exersises, but sometimes I just have this "unreal" feeling. Like, I feel spaced out? Is this a normal thing with bad anxiety? I'm really looking for an answer. (Also I have totally stopped the caffeine and excess sugar intake) any advice is helpful, thank you.
Although this may sound normal, it may exacerbate. Relax, people will go through this at some points of their lives. Anyway, try sparing a moment for yourself and diagnose your entire life starting from the second this anxiety began until now. Details by details.
Since you don't have any medical issues related to this, perhaps it's time for you to ruminate on your mind involving the way you think, your perception towards the surrounding world or your history. Before the anxiety struck, how was your life? What kind of event that has triggered the problem ? Examinations? Stress? Problems with people? Sometimes, the dominant factor that leads to this may be a portion of your history which has affected you in a big, big scale.
Then, my advice for you is to change your thoughts slowly towards positivity. Eschew pessimism, or hatred or any negative words. If you're interested, you could read motivational books and mingle with righteous buddies or so forth. Trust me, psychological/mental thoughts affect the physiological actions of your body. It's also good that you've started to do exercises and apply good nutrition. However, say that your mind is not directly involved in the disorder, then maybe 80% of the cause goes back to what you've eaten or drank.
Practice relaxation techniques consistently, and be optimistic. Be exceptionally conscious of what you're consuming daily and manage stress. You know yourself best.
Hi; im Michelle.
I'm 18 years old and yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. But that's another story, these past few days i've been a dirty, awful liar. The yesterday , black friday i told my parents i was going to class (they didnt know it was cancelled) the plan was to go to Panera bread and chat to this other guy who I have gotten soft with. Unfortunately, as i left my parents drove by and saw me. I denied , denied, denied until i finally gave in. No punishment, just neglect. Today, I called out from work because of the break up (it wasnt bad. we stayed friends) I didnt tell my parents. I went to Panera (derp) again to try and get my mind off of things. I didnt tell my parents in the first place because they would have told me my reasoning was stupid.
I was caught, my dad ended going to my job due to a malfunction in the seafood depo. He didnt see me anywhere. In the end, he knows where I am right now.
My mother has a temper, and I dont want to go home. Everyone is going to hate me, ignore me, i'll be alone. I want to be hinest with them but I know they won't understand... I'm not sure what to do..
Hello Michelle ^^
You see, every problem is temporary, so take it slow. Even if you're thinking that you'll be ignored, it won't last long. Blood is thicker than water, no matter what happens. By the way, God won't test you with calamities beyond your capability and my other advice is to not foresee bad things yet which can cause you to become immensely afraid of the future time. Anxiety disorder will be increased, trust me.
Since you already possess the will to change yourself, then go for it. There's no use for me and the rest of the people here to rage about the mistakes that you committed. You know yourself best. The thing is, we need to be brave in facing the consequences of our actions even if it means tears and so forth. Do be patient and strong. Convince your parents the best way you can to prove that you're a better person now and you can always be that way.
This is your life, and you can do whatever it takes to change :)
I am newly a child of god and accepted him in my life, I am struggling with sexual desires quite frequently and I am having trouble controlling this urges and don't know how to decrease these urges, it seems to happen almost on a daily basis.
No matter how old you are, your religion etc., there are some ways you could apply to your life to control those desires but do bear in mind that this will take time.
First and foremost, try lowering your gaze and refrain yourself from looking at sexy/attractive women esp. porn, magazines, movies etc. or anything close to it. Eliminate the sources of the urge and start filling your time and mind with more useful things. Thinking about your desire itself is not wrong, but if you think too much about it, you know what'll come next.
Next is, fasting, for around several hours maybe? It enables you to control your desires, because when a person is full his desires grow, but if he is hungry his desire then becomes weak. If you're willing to do this, take it slow.. and of course, be very patient. Also, keep good company. If you have friends who love mentioning about 'the matter', perhaps it's time you avoid them when they try to even speak about it. Strengthen your willpower. You've already known that you want to decrease those urges, so stick to it no matter what esp. when times get rough.
Remember the benefits that you will gain if you guard your chastity as a human being. Try controlling yourself the best way you can, but take it slow.
how do you leave a bad guy that thinks your an option ?
First off, identify the whys. There must be a reason why it's hard to let a bad guy go. You're still making him a priority and a quote by Maya Angelou clatifies this "Never make someone your priority when all you are to them is an option." You're going to shatter your own fragile heart in days to come if you keep on reminiscing the sweet memories or hold on to certain promises. This one is hard and excruciatingly painful, but do try stepping into the reality.
What happens next depends on your current option. If you've decided to leave him and you're real about it, your mind will then try to label him as a part of your history but it will take time. No matter how long it takes, if you keep firm to your decision, you will eventually heal. It may take weeks or months but trust yourself, you can go through this. Acknowledge the fact that you've to move on. Neglecting it is no longer an option. Of course there will be some moments where your brain starts to play 'memories' of him or you guys thus weakening you bit by bit but only if you allow it.
Remember, regardless of who you are, your age, your school or background, you're still you. You deserve a better life without anyone destroying it especially someone who takes you for granted.
Good things come to those who wait, and there is always a reason why he's not for you. There are things in life for you to pursue, so pursue them.
Peace be upon you :)
I am 15 and my boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex, what should I do?
Let me tell you an honest answer. He's not respecting you and your dignity, just like what the previous user has answered. I'm sorry for saying this but you need to break up with him. Think about it, he's pressuring you into an intercourse just to satisfy his thirst. Once is never enough let alone twice. That ain't good for you especially when you're still 15, and I don't think your parents will ever say 'yes' to that too.
Let him know that he has no right to force or pressurise you into anything you don't like. Sorry again mate, I really suggest you to break up with him before he takes control over you.
Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl who will be a sophomore in HS in the fall. I honestly think that I wasn't meant to have friends. As long as I can remember, even back in kindergarten, I've been bullied. Growing up, I would get invited to birthday parties by the parents, but when I got there the kid would say they didn't want me there. :( I've had years where I would come home and cry for hours every day because I was so miserable. Fast forward to the present. Everyone at my high school is so shallow that it drives me insane. Don't tell me to join clubs to meet new people, because my school has 300 people and everyone is exactly the same. I had a lunch table of people that I sat with this year, but I have nothing in common with them. They barely said anything to me at all this entire year. People think that I'm a nerd. I get straight A's without even trying because I've basically given up on myself. Plus, everyone likes to pick on me because I'm younger (in my town for some reason, freshmen are sixteen years old, but I was thirteen). I really hate my life. I WANT to be able to go out and have fun with friends, go on dates (I've never had a boyfriend and probably will never have one), and do stuff, but I'm just so depressed. I don't even feel fulfilled doing the things I used to like doing. My entire life revolves around regurgitating A grades to keep my parents happy. I don't want to live like this... Last year I started cutting but it didn't make me feel better. Thanks for reading this far. Help....
Hi there! Actually, the two previous users have already answered your question but i'm just going to pour forth some of my opinions. You see, life is never easy. People out there may be lavished with fun and all but sometimes, trials and tribulations befall you so that you can learn to survive. You are an A student, that's brilliant for a 14 y/o student but based on your problems, maybe all you need is a fresh start for you've been living in the dark phase for so long. Excelling in studies is good but that's not what your life is entirely about.
Start thinking for you, doing things for your ownself and look at your special-ties. I've been through your experience for years, so you really, really need to be patient. Find, pursue other things that can develop into a better you so that things can start to change slowly but steadily. Believe me, if you keep on feeling down because you think you're never going to be happy, then never will you be. Take a moment and think very hard on what you need to do because you're not living for nothing, He has created you for a reason. If He has so willed, He would've taken your life a minute ago.
Regarding your friends, don't worry too much. Try being friendlier to everyone else without changing your good personality. If they're just different, and not in a good way, then you're better off alone. Your schoolmates can hate you all they want, but they can never take away the good in you, right? Start living for yourself. You do deserve a great friend, and he or she is out there somewhere.. You just need to look at the right place. For the time being, try being independent for a moment to give yourself some space to change. Think of solutions, try altering your negative thoughts to postive ones.Fill the empty spots in your mind. I understand the reason why you cut yourself, but perhaps it's time for you to love yourself and make a firm stand. No matter what, at the end of the day, either you alone can be your best friend and your worst enemy. You've the courage to be alone, so hold on to yourself first before doing the same to others. Read this one poem - 'IF' by Rudyard Kipling.
Anything, you can just tell me. May peace be upon you :)
I've been sick a lot lately and I've had pressure to do all this work at home!I have to study for tests toto practice and keep up with homework on top of that My mom keeps telling me to clean my room!I need ways to clean my room fast study quickly and still know it and keep up with homework!!!
Cleaning your room , studying for tests and finishing homework are three different things so you can't mix all of them together at the same time . Why don't you try dividing your time ? Always remember that the pressure you're bearing now is closely related to how you manage it .
For instance , finish your homework right after you've finished school and try to complete them on the same day . In the evening , consume your time cleaning your room for at least two hours if necessary because believe me , you won't be able to concentrate yourself in a messy room . Then , when nighttime arrives , revise the subjects all the way .
You see , things happen for a reason and the key here is to organise yourself without complaining on what's happening . Have a daily planner . cheer up ^.^
Hi!
Im in middle school and I start feeling this feeling since November of last year. I hate my life so bad. I always feel depressed. I feel like I'm ugly, I'm stupid,I'm fat and many other things. Then, my friends, I feel like I don't fit in with them. Then, since lately, my boyfriend has been chatting with this blond haired b*tch after class when everyone was gone one day. I'm afraid my boyfriend and I are going to break up and he's going to kiss her. For some reason, we haven't talked since two weeks ago on the phone (He is moving next year). I'm crying while typing this. (I actually cry a lot) What can I do before I hurt myself badly. I'm sorry if you can't understand with my typing I'm just depressed and sad all the time.
Hi to you too !
First of all , you need to gain control over yourself and think of what actually happened before depression struck you . How were you on October 2012 ? What did you do or what problems did you encounter during that time ? What changed you from who you actually were ? Identify the answers carefully with full honesty . Maybe , just maybe , you failed in certain matters or there were people around you who judged you as dumb , ugly and so on and you believed them , or maybe , life was just giving you lemons and throwing hard stones and bricks towards you and for some reason , you were paralysed and were unable to stand up again . Still , you don't just need an insight and understanding into your problems ; you need to change them right now because no matter what people say , you're still you . Your physical beauty doesn't reflect the special , inner you which is your heart and who you actually are .
The thing is , everyone has a fragile heart and you're included too but you need to remember that the key to happiness is within you , it's already there in you waiting to bloom . It's not in your boyfriend , friends and more but you alone but you must believe in yourself . This is related to your self-esteem and confidence ; it's all about building them up again and making you smile (:
Don't cry now , think about it . This is your life , you were delivered forth to this world for a purpose and life's never free from trials and tribulations ! Perceive the hardship you're enduring as an experience to make you stronger in and out . Allow yourself to change , and don't listen to degrading words people say because truth is , people don't understand who you really are . Never , ever compare yourself to them , believe me . Whatever they say , they can't change you and let go of your past . You're still young and you've your future ahead . Try planning your time by making a journal with positive progresses day by day .
Try affirming yourself with positive words from now on because those words will determine your later actions and feel positive . Take a stroll in the park or any outdoor places , and look up to the sky and see the puffy , white clouds . You'll realise that actually , this world is extremely huge and also , beautiful with the greeneries , the wind gushing through and so on . Life's not about pleasing people but you , and this life is too short to be deeply sad . You deserve to see your sunrise too , right ? No matter how hard your burden is , you have the ability to go through it !
Another thing is , you can also try to become closer to your religion and pray for happiness and believe that you will attain it sooner or later and be independent . Honestly , no one knows whether your boyfriend will become your husband in years to come so please don't depend on him fully to give you happiness yet because the heartbreak you'll deal with will be huge and it can happen at anytime honestly . You alone can give yourself attention , so don't worry . At the moment , try thinking of the brightsides instead of the negative ones . Love yourself now , and believe me , you're beautiful :)) You can do this !
well it's been like 7months since my ex and i broke up, its hit me well hard at first but like i wouldnt really show how i feel.
I have this feeling that he's going to come back to me sooner or later, do u think he can? he told me before like 1month ago how he was seeing some girl just to forget me, i asked him did it work and he said he didnt know , hes not seeing her anymore we are 'friends' but we don't really communicate, reason being is i don't understand why he came back to be friends if he never ever starts the conversation. Last time we spoke was on new years eve.
I know males have a lot of pride, and he is someone that will never show how he feels even if he feels super low. But you know when you have that instant feeling that you know he still feels the same, when he came back to be friends with me he said he missed our friendship cause even before we started dating we were good friends and during our realtionship we had such an amazing friendship we would be so close with eachother, i know he won't find someone like me and neither would i... i actually fell in love with him i don't know if he meant it when he said it, even though he did say i was his first love... he never treated me bad. I just can't learn to move on from my past, if he came back to be friends was it like meant to be? i think of him everyday of my life, never been this way over a guy before, my life just changed so much after we ended...
would we ever get back?
Maybe yes , maybe no but i do think it will but hey , Who knows ? No one knows what life's going to offer you but you need to hope for the best no matter what . If you're being friends with him , then appreciate him but know the boundaries . Don't worry , if he still loves you , you'll see it and if a guy loves a girl , nothing can make him leave :) Go with the flow and see what happens next . If it's meant to be , then he'll come back to you sooner or later but for sure , he will .
For now , treat him nicely and avoid prejudices . It's never wrong to love someone as long as it doesn't drive you away from who you are . And , love yourself too !
My boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me yesterday. Two days ago I called him on my break during work and he was at home. I was asking about his day. Talking about the basketball game playing since they have TVs at the restaurant. And just random kind of stuff and he said "can you talk about something else? I don't want to hear about what you're eating or watching".I then ended up telling him that since I bore him so much he can bring something better to talk about. Or find someone else who won't bore him with their conversation. The thing that ifs even more weird about the whole situation is thathat the whole time before I was the one trying to talk while he was saying nothing. He ends up coming to my work to fix things. But he doesn't actually say sorry. So then later another argument comes where he accuses me of calling him a liar when I didn't. then he ends up calling over and over to try and resolve things by pretending that nothing happened. Then came yesterday. Everything was back to normal until the end of the day. He had been holding my money for me because I cannot save so I asked him to keep it for me. So I needed to get the money and I needed him to come bring it to me since my moms car was having clutch problems. Since his house ifs uphill, the car would not make it up. So I asked him to meet me at the bottom. He would not come. He refused. Then after when I finally have someone to take me he forces me to talk to him by holding my money. Then he wants to say. You failed the test.(IM thinking, what test? Is this some game?). So he goes on to say that he wants to give me time to figure out how I feel about him. He feels that I only like him when he does things for me.and when he doesn't I freak out.
First and foremost , I'm going to let what i think of this out , all the way and pardon me if it's not helpful . Anyway , ''Has to question if everything km telling him is true like all the time.'' , ''You failed the test.(IM thinking, what test? Is this some game?).'' 'But he doesn't actually say sorry. So then later another argument comes where he accuses me of calling him a liar when I didn't'' - Although they're only three sentences , but still they reflect the way your ex-boyfriend treated you . I do think that he's an insecure person because he often questioned you eventhough he should've trusted you and yes , you do have the right to be upset . The thing is , if the spark of the relationship has truly gone and there's no hope for it coming back , then maybe it's for the best of both of you .
Truthfully , handling a break-up isn't easy but you need to deal with it no matter what . At the same time , you may find that the person you most need to stand up to in this world is you and i know that you're fighting decisive battles within but regardless of how hard it is , you will eventually heal with the help of time . If you've chosen to move on , then you need to let the red-letter moments of you with your boyfriend go . If he couldn't sweep you off your feet and make you absolutely happy like you should've been , then maybe , just maybe , he's not the one for you . It's true that when it comes to a romantic relationship , there'll be sweet and bitter moments but if the bitter moments exceed the sweet ones , then that's it . It'll be totally hard to continue with the relationship although it has been on for years and years .
Don't worry , in everything that's occurring , there's always a reason behind it . Who knows that God is reserving you for a better person in the future ? You'll know when ^_^ Like i said earlier , try letting go of the great moments because they'll be like videos playing in your mind replaying again and again and sometimes , that is when your tears will come out causing you to become sadder than you actually were . Try your best to motivate yourself in this and accept the fact that the tie between the both of you isn't there anymore .
Consume your time doing the things you love , read and assimilate inspiring quotes that can help you to recover and listen to beautiful songs day by day but the vital thing here is to believe in yourself and be patient . It's true that he's the one to blame from what i've read , but that won't change the fact that you need to deal with your sadness or mixed feelings yourself . You could cry and let all the pain go , but at the same time allow yourself to smile and be happy . Don't immerse yourself in sadness , you don't deserve to ! Also , as time passes , gain new strength . There are doors to happiness everywhere , and you can make it :)
Keep your head held up high and look at the world in the eye . Let the unpleasant moments pass away and prepare yourself to embrace the bliss of the future . Plan on how you're going to handle yourself including the inner turmoils , and if you need to , express your feelings to your closest friends or family members who'll understand and comfort you . For now , appreciate what you have and let bygones be bygones . You're strong and you're special , Trust me :))
Ok so my best friend liked this boy ethan and
at that time i thought he was ugly
Then she developed a crush for him then this girl Cassandra came up to me and said ethan likes you and so ethan asked me out i said yes then i told my bestfriend we stopped talking for a week then she tells me she doesnt want us to be together around her and all she cares about is her me me me
Honestly , I don't really know a 100 % on what's going on over there but i'll try my best . Let me share with you one sentence , ''The number one people want in this world acceptance , and the number one people fear is rejection . '' It might be that your best friend is acting in such a way because she felt rejected by her own crush right at the moment when she knew that Ethan has been actually liking you , eventually feeling heartbroken but don't worry , she'll heal .
Sweetie , you've the right to go out with him but i advise you to not be together when she's around . Respect her decision :) Also , if she only cares about herself , then let her be . You deserve to be happy but know your limits . You can still be a great friend to your best friend , listen to her tears and comfort her but if she chooses to stay away from you and carry the hatred towards your blooming relationship with Ethan around , then just let her be . We can't change other people in this world including their hearts .
You could try to ask for her forgiveness although you're actually innocent , but don't just be yourself . Be nicer , and smile to her although it would seem pointless . If she doesn't want to even talk to you anymore , then let it be but don't follow her footsteps . I've been through this before and my best friend and I did reconcile despite the fact that her crush developed an interest in me . Maybe , you could try being just friends with Ethan and when the time is perfect , you could be more than friends with him . Sooner or later , people will understand it including your best friend .
You deserve to be happy too :))
And , sorry for the late reply ! Anything else just alert me .
So my best friend and I are talking she says she thinks I come over too much which i barely do anymore. she wont answer me at all. and her mom and dad hate me and say i maniupulate her. my other bff is her sister and bff 1 says oh you cant come over anymore, so i tell bff 2 sorry we cant see eachother again. i said im going to be homeschooled anyways so we cant see eachother at school and then she starts saying "oh youre so stupid, stupid reason for being homeschooled blah blah bllah. I say you dont even know why u are so ignorant then she flips out because she doesnt realise what the word ignorant means...Then shes says...its unfair because your life isnt bad and blah blah complain complain. he sister bff 2 gets involved of course and says crap like stop being so dramatic everyone hates you. It really makes me upset and i have anxiety and depression problems and start panicking and all that. they are so mean to me but its so hard to let go, I just cant! they are like my only friends!Help Please!!!!!
Breathe in , breathe out . Breath in , breathe out . At this moment , grasp your inner soul and be very , very patient in this before depression engulfs you entirely . You may feel that what's happening to you simply isn't fair and you may be right . Either way , fair or unfair , you have to help you even in the worst of everything . Truth be told , I don't know the real core of the problem but partially , I do believe that this has something to do with your history with your best friends . Don't get me wrong , i'm not pointing my finger towards you but think about it honestly . How did you treat you friends and what were the impacts on their lives ? Did you have fun with them in a way that you realise was wrong ? Did you expose to them certain disturbing behaviours that seemed to also anger their parents ? Be honest with yourself , don't deny what's obvious but like i said , be very patient and alter the mistakes .
Next , if your friends are the ones who don't even understand the real you , that your intention is just to be happy and enjoy life with them , then let them be . Anyone can provide you with an event or behaviour , but it's up to you on how to handle your feelings about them . You're stronger than you think ! They may've cloaked you with mean , degrading and nerve-wrecking words but i can assure you that at least some of the words which poured out of their mouth originated from anger and when anger speaks , it speaks nastily and not everything is true at all . You know yourself more than anyone else does so this is the time to love yourself too .
If you're on the right side , which i consider you are , then there's nothing to be too sad about . Look at the mirror and convince yourself that '' I'm a good person and a good friend . I've always been and if people dislike me because of who I am , that's their problem not mine . I didn't do wrong and I won't surrender to their words because they're false . I still have my dignity and I will be strong and independent in this .'' Look , you may lose them , but you still have you , your family , your siblings , health and fitness and so on . People come and sometimes , unexpectedly they go , bequeathing you sweet moments and sorrow . The thing is , if they're still putting all of the blame on you , then , whether you like it or not , I advise you to let them go . You deserve to have more friends in this life .
This may be very difficult but do forgive them - to release yourself from the tension . Forgive them and move on with your life , don't you want to be happy again ? This is somehow quite common when it comes to friendship and almost everyone have been through this including me and it took me months to recover and I don't want you to go through the same thing . Let go of them , you can if you try to . Make new friends who you can really trust and will always be there for you through thick and thin . Search for them and gain your happiness back . It's always possible or , consume time doing the things you absolutely love . Help yourself now .
Remember , there can't be a rainbow if there's no rain . Be patient , let them go , fight your inner battles and seek happiness the best way you can ! :)
.. I tryed to commit suicide once by overdosing and ended up in psycho hospital...( Those that u go for like 3 days to evaluate you) .. Idk ive been thinking about doing it again but the thing is that everyone else thinks I'm being weak selfish ect. I really hate my life. I have major depression disorder and I had bulimia for about 5 years ever since I was 13yrs old..I just simply want to die. I lost all my motivation and I don't want to do anything. I used to draw and I won some awards.. I used to b an A+ student and now I can bearly pass my classes. I cry every night. I know lots of people but I don't have many friends. I don't have communication w my parent bcz I don't even live w them. I live w my grandparents and sisters. Sometimes I just want to take all the pain away but it seems impossible. Ever since I was 13 Ive been dealing w this.
I just don't want to feel miserable all the time.. I am a weak person. And I believe that I have the choice to die because after all It is MY life. I know many of you will probably tell me the opposite but I'm set on that. I have also been seeing a therapist. You may say I'm crazy but I just really want to know ways on how to kill myself fast and easy...
First and foremost , I cannot give you an advise on how to kill yourself easily and fast unfortunately and i know i shouldn't have read your question if what i'm going to say will be the opposite of your expected answer but i'll just spill the beans . It'll be long although you've been seeing the therapist and others .
Look , you may have the choice to end your life because it's your life but why wouldn't you choose the choice to fix it ? When it comes to the word 'Life' , there's a simple yet meaningful question . Is your life story going to be a gripping bestseller or a resignation letter ? You create your own experience . You can be happy just the way you were as long as you manage your thoughts . Believe me , you're stronger than what you think and to every problem , there's always a solution and you deserve to live your life , the way you want . Please , don't end it now , you're too special for that kind of treatment to yourself . Trust yourself on this and be motivated and instead of holding to the perception of '' I can't and won't succeed.'', ''I'm too weak for this.'' , ''I'm not smart enough.'' or ''No matter what I do , it won't make a difference.'' , hold on to '' behind every ordeal , there's an endowment and behind every hardship , there's relief and behind every trial , there is happiness '' but it all depends on you .
Recognise that you've the courage within you to fulfill the purpose of your birth . Summon forth the power of your inner courage and live the life of your dreams and let go of anger towards the world and yourself - It's an acid that burns away the delicate layers of your happiness . Think of what you still have - A roof as a shade from the rain , the ability to see and feel , and life itself and have gratitude . If you can lose a penny , you can still gain a penny . The same matter applies to motivation . You can gain it back ! Don't do nothing , do whatever it takes to make you happily alive . Strive for it and learn from failures . Have love towards yourself too !
Have an inspiration . For instance , take Oprah Winfrey as an example to have the strength . At the time she reached the age of 13 , she has suffered years of physical and mental abuse and had been through immense poverty and grew up without enough love from her mother but despite all of that , she grew up to be a successful woman mesmerizing everyone . You too , can be the same . True strength comes from your heart , your willingness to survive the hardships befalling you . Give yourself another chance to breath and attain success . Give yourself a new hope and don't let people affect you . No one knows what life has to offer but it's not whether you get knocked down , it's whether you get up .
Problems are temporary but giving up is what makes them permanent . Remember the great moments when you used to be an A+ student and won awards , and re-live those moments . Nothing is impossible . Ruminate on it deeply , and wisely . Happiness comes from you , it's already there in you but you're letting the disappointment blocking it's way out . Think about it . Don't you want to be in tranquility and jubilance ? You can go through this . You can . Stop listening to the negative voices within , shut them down and start thinking of the positives .
Your life can really be different - you just haven't had the tool , the focus , and the 'inside scoop' yet . Master your past now , or your past will master your future . Life has so many beautiful things for you , chase after them with strategies . Don't cry now , you're still the pretty you no matter what people say . Don't cry , don't cry :)
So I'm really good friends with this guy and he has liked me for 7 years. It is beginning to get awkward between us and I wish that he would move on to someone else. I've already told him that I don't like him like that and he should move on, but he won't. I'm just at my wits end about it. How can I make him move on?
He has been liking you for 7 long years and regardless of what you do , if he chooses to still like you , nothing will change his feelings towards you . It's very difficult to erase the feeling of love in someone's heart because it's his heart (: Don't worry , as long as he respects you , you'll be fine . Maintain the friendship if possible and keep it firm . If he finds the one , he'll move on simultaneously so ease the burden . Pursue happiness in your life , uninterfered by confusion and consume time doing the things you love .
Hey I really need some help. Well I'm I have 2 friends tht r in all my classes, so I hang with them all the time. And I'm getting kinda tired of them because one of them ditched us for another one of our friends and only talks to us when our other friend isn't there( let's name her B). And then my other friend is nice and all but I'm gettin tired of her, not because shes mean or anything bad it's just I want to hang out with different people( lets name her M). And I can't sit with other people at luch either because we have to sit with our 4th period. And I don't like anybody else in my 4th period.
I have nother friend that doesn't go to my school, and normally I talk to her and ask her for advice, but lately all she does is talk about her crush, and I want to be nice about it because I know last year I annoyed her about my crush. And if I do find a way to talk to other people at school( because I have some of my other friends number) then how will I explain it to M, she doesn't really like anyone in our 4th period either!!! Someone please help!!!!
Hey there . My answer will be kind of long so bear with me for a while . Firstly , in the captivating voyage known as life , you can do whatever you yearn for as long as your wishes don't surpass the limits . You can have as many friends as you want because they'll brighten up your world and decorate your life as long as you're not selective and judgemental when choosing them . Be friendly to your juniors , seniors , teachers , janitors and the rest of the people in your life but ensure that you'll not be badly influenced by certain people .
Don't worry now , you can still be a a loyal friend to both M and B and i don't really think M will be too mad because it's your choice to befriend other people and it's a great choice actually . One sentence - Just Do It . Concerning M , be a great listener and respond to the words pouring forth from her in a well-mannered way although it will rather bore or annoy you . She's still your buddy remember that :D On the other hand , let B be . Every of us has at least one friend who'll ditch us for other individuals but in this matter , just be nice . No matter how bad someone is , there's always one good thing living in him or her either hidden or shown . Be patient .
All in all , i recommend you to just talk to other people at school and smile all the way . Take the chance and go for it ! Interesting things can happen when we take even the smallest of chances and don't be afraid :DD
I have been having vaginal discharge for a long time now. It is white mucus like. Alon with that, there is sweelling of the vulva, redness, discomfort, odor, slight burning. Which infection can it be? I have never had sexul intercourse and I am really worried about it. Embarrassed to see a doctor :/
I am a 20 year old girl.
First off , relax relax . I've surfed the Internet regarding this and apparently , at least 75 % of women experience the same thing and i'm included in it so you're not alone ! :D My mother told me a remedy for the 'illness' and it really worked but i suggest you to see a doctor for the most specific answer . Anyway , try mixing four to five spoons of salt with water and rinse your vagina with the mixture ( A little a time or else it'll be painful . Go slow . ) Do it regularly to cleanse the private part . It takes time to heal but it will be effective .
"Also , medications to treat vaginal infections are available in either creams or suppositories. Most can be bought without a prescription. Medications you can buy yourself to treat a vaginal yeast infection are: Miconazole/Clotrimazole/Tioconazole/Butoconazole (Read the packages carefully and use them as directed. ) Do not stop using these medications early because your symptoms are better.
You will need to take the medicine for 3 - 7-days, depending on which medicine you buy. If you do not get get repeated infections, a 1-day medicine might work for you.You doctor can also prescribe a medicine called fluconazole. This medicine is a pill that you only take once.If your symptoms are more severe or you have repeat vaginal yeast infections, you may need:Medicine for up to 14 days .Clotrimazole vaginal suppository or fluconazole pill every week to prevent new infections .
To help prevent and treat vaginal discharge : Keep your genital area clean and dry. Avoid soap and rinse with water only. Sitting in a warm, but not hot, bath may help your symptoms. Avoid douching. Although many women feel cleaner if they douche after menstruation or intercourse, it may actually worsen vaginal discharge because it removes healthy bacteria lining the vagina that protect against infection.
Eat yogurt with live cultures or take Lactobacillus acidophilus tablets when you are on antibiotics to prevent a yeast infection.Use condoms to avoid catching or spreading sexually transmitted infection (STI).Avoid using feminine hygiene sprays, fragrances, or powders in the genital area.Avoid wearing extremely tight-fitting pants or shorts, which may cause irritation.Wear cotton underwear or cotton-crotch pantyhose.
Avoid underwear made of silk or nylon, because these materials are not very absorbant and restrict air flow. This can increase sweating in the genital area, which can cause irritation.Use pads and not tampons.Keep your blood sugar levels under good control if you have diabetes." - http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002480/ :)
She was my best friend. My soul-sister. Now? She hates me. She thinks I did some stuff (which I didnt) and every time I try to explain things to her, she thinks I'm lying. She spread rumors about me. I'm hurt. I just want things to go back to the way it was... But the wound in my heart is just too deep and I can't bear it anymore. It's like, half of me wants to punch her for being such an ass, and yet half of me just wants to apologize even if I'm not wrong...She bears grudges and its so hard to talk to her. I feel so helpless. :(
You see , it's never easy to deal with people who don't seem to understand you and your intentions and one thing is that , the history and the future can never mix perfectly well together . One who was a well-behaved person a few months ago could be the most ill-hearted person of all today and vice versa . The thing is , people can change anytime unexpectedly but it's up to you to make the decision on how to deal with them courageously .You did try confronting her and so on but nothing seemed to alter the mess .
I advise you to let her go and accept the fact that she has changed her attitude towards you but please , don't take vengeance on her . This may be extremely difficult for you to accept - forgiveness of your friend who has transgressed against you , is not about them ; it is about you . Trust me when i say that the only escape is forgiveness . The only way to rise above the negatives in the relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground , and forgive the person who has hurt you .
No matter how helpless you feel , there's always a way on how to escape from it and be stronger and stop yourself from thinking "What i'm going through is too much and it's hard to stand up , I can't do it any longer ." Look at yourself , you're worth it but it's worthiless to endure the excruciating pain when your friend isn't changing and feeling the same thing although you've tried your best but like i said , forgive her and be able to treat her nicely no matter what because one day , she'll realise her mistakes .
Even if she's spreading rumours about you and having grudges towards you , let her be . Maybe , she's having decisive battles within herself too and who knows , she's facing terrible hardships in life too ? Don't change who you are but instead , be nicer . You'll win . What goes around comes around and you deserve to have more great friends . Be a friend to the people , and the people will be your friends willingly . In the meantime , be patient and stand up . You're much stronger that you think . Love yourself and be independent . Pray for a better day ahead :)
Hi, i'm Meg, i am 13 and LOVE writing. This is a poem i wrote for a loved one,tell me what you think please.
The darkness attacks at the mention of your name
The ache in my heart strikes once again
I remember the times we would sing and dance
Then not saying 'I love you' one last chance
will you think of me wherever you are?
Pillow fights,cuddles,air guitar?
I need you,please come back from our part
Take the pieces and fix my heart.
You went to early we were unprepared
It left us sad,full of sorrow and scared.
He lies here now as cute as a lamb
The grandchild you never met, You'de be proud of him Nan.
RIP Nan. I'll never stop loving you,your the wind beneath my wings. xx
Only a few mistakes but I'm proud of you , really . Always have passion in writing , and improve each and every day .
Great poem Meg ^_^ Keep on going !