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I need advice for controlling sexual urges
I am newly a child of god and accepted him in my life, I am struggling with sexual desires quite frequently and I am having trouble controlling this urges and don't know how to decrease these urges, it seems to happen almost on a daily basis.
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Did you have these same desires before you became a Christian or whatever faith you have adopted? I am betting you did. The only reason you feel a struggle now is because you are told that normal healthy sexual desires is wrong. I used to be with christian church. I no longer attend because God told me I had outgrown them in too many ways. I have always listened to God. And heard back from HIm. The Holy spirit worked with me lots to get me to trust HIm. Whatever I was told to do, I did and it always turned out to be right. There are some things about the church that got twisted over the centuries or added in and accepted as being what our Creator says and want though its nothing more than man made doctrine. While I commend you on wanting to become a spiritual creature, the church is the most difficult place to do so because they have so many rules for what you cannot do. Many are not even an issue with God in the first place.. I continued going to church tho I only asked God what was right for me, so often I was doing something totally different than what was spoken from the pulpit. I went to an acupuncturist several times though I was told they were evil heathens and i should have nothing to do with them. An acupunturist healed my month long ear infection with hearing loss when several doctors and their meds could not. It was combo of acupunture and chinese meds. The next day it was gone just like that. I have learned to trust many different ways of natural healing because of it.
Point here is...I can not tell you how to curb your sexual desires because it is a part of normal human bodys biological function. We were made to feel passion and desire and feel it too when we see someone who interests us look wise. doesnt matter if you're a male or a female. As a female, i felt awkward if i came across a man in the store who made me go weak kneed cus of how gorgeous he looked but yet I was married. It would be just as crazy as telling someone to stop tasting their food..that tasting is an indulgence. Our food should be bland and tasteless, learn how to stop detecting sourness, sweetness, salty, bitter with your tongue. Bet you can't do that can you. You can't just by will power choose to make your tongue unable to detect tastes. Will power will not work on normal sexual urges either. Nothing will because it's supposed to be a part of the human experience.
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There's really nothing you can do without damaging yourself physically or mentally. Like fasting and repressing represented below, all avenues which enable you to deny your sexual self are paths to self destruction. The denial of normal, natural sexual desires flies directly in the face of your humanity.
If you were a robot, a soulless emotionless automaton, you'd be fine. But you aren't. You are human. With human desires, needs, and emotions.
Masturbation, fantasy, and other forms of sexual expression (whether alone or with someone else) are a normal and healthy part of an adult's life. If you're not an adult, masturbate. If you are an adult, rethink your life, because the path you are on now will lead you into nothing but pain and regret as you sacrifice your own mental health for the sake of some rules that someone who never had a good night's sex in his life created.
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No matter how old you are, your religion etc., there are some ways you could apply to your life to control those desires but do bear in mind that this will take time.
First and foremost, try lowering your gaze and refrain yourself from looking at sexy/attractive women esp. porn, magazines, movies etc. or anything close to it. Eliminate the sources of the urge and start filling your time and mind with more useful things. Thinking about your desire itself is not wrong, but if you think too much about it, you know what'll come next.
Next is, fasting, for around several hours maybe? It enables you to control your desires, because when a person is full his desires grow, but if he is hungry his desire then becomes weak. If you're willing to do this, take it slow.. and of course, be very patient. Also, keep good company. If you have friends who love mentioning about 'the matter', perhaps it's time you avoid them when they try to even speak about it. Strengthen your willpower. You've already known that you want to decrease those urges, so stick to it no matter what esp. when times get rough.
Remember the benefits that you will gain if you guard your chastity as a human being. Try controlling yourself the best way you can, but take it slow.
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