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My best friend is being a Bitch.
So my best friend and I are talking she says she thinks I come over too much which i barely do anymore. she wont answer me at all. and her mom and dad hate me and say i maniupulate her. my other bff is her sister and bff 1 says oh you cant come over anymore, so i tell bff 2 sorry we cant see eachother again. i said im going to be homeschooled anyways so we cant see eachother at school and then she starts saying "oh youre so stupid, stupid reason for being homeschooled blah blah bllah. I say you dont even know why u are so ignorant then she flips out because she doesnt realise what the word ignorant means...Then shes says...its unfair because your life isnt bad and blah blah complain complain. he sister bff 2 gets involved of course and says crap like stop being so dramatic everyone hates you. It really makes me upset and i have anxiety and depression problems and start panicking and all that. they are so mean to me but its so hard to let go, I just cant! they are like my only friends!Help Please!!!!!
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Thank you, but they made up and they realized that they were the ones who were over reacting.
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Breathe in , breathe out . Breath in , breathe out . At this moment , grasp your inner soul and be very , very patient in this before depression engulfs you entirely . You may feel that what's happening to you simply isn't fair and you may be right . Either way , fair or unfair , you have to help you even in the worst of everything . Truth be told , I don't know the real core of the problem but partially , I do believe that this has something to do with your history with your best friends . Don't get me wrong , i'm not pointing my finger towards you but think about it honestly . How did you treat you friends and what were the impacts on their lives ? Did you have fun with them in a way that you realise was wrong ? Did you expose to them certain disturbing behaviours that seemed to also anger their parents ? Be honest with yourself , don't deny what's obvious but like i said , be very patient and alter the mistakes .
Next , if your friends are the ones who don't even understand the real you , that your intention is just to be happy and enjoy life with them , then let them be . Anyone can provide you with an event or behaviour , but it's up to you on how to handle your feelings about them . You're stronger than you think ! They may've cloaked you with mean , degrading and nerve-wrecking words but i can assure you that at least some of the words which poured out of their mouth originated from anger and when anger speaks , it speaks nastily and not everything is true at all . You know yourself more than anyone else does so this is the time to love yourself too .
If you're on the right side , which i consider you are , then there's nothing to be too sad about . Look at the mirror and convince yourself that '' I'm a good person and a good friend . I've always been and if people dislike me because of who I am , that's their problem not mine . I didn't do wrong and I won't surrender to their words because they're false . I still have my dignity and I will be strong and independent in this .'' Look , you may lose them , but you still have you , your family , your siblings , health and fitness and so on . People come and sometimes , unexpectedly they go , bequeathing you sweet moments and sorrow . The thing is , if they're still putting all of the blame on you , then , whether you like it or not , I advise you to let them go . You deserve to have more friends in this life .
This may be very difficult but do forgive them - to release yourself from the tension . Forgive them and move on with your life , don't you want to be happy again ? This is somehow quite common when it comes to friendship and almost everyone have been through this including me and it took me months to recover and I don't want you to go through the same thing . Let go of them , you can if you try to . Make new friends who you can really trust and will always be there for you through thick and thin . Search for them and gain your happiness back . It's always possible or , consume time doing the things you absolutely love . Help yourself now .
Remember , there can't be a rainbow if there's no rain . Be patient , let them go , fight your inner battles and seek happiness the best way you can ! :)
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In all honesty this sounds like a typical row that friends experience from time to time.
Just like a relationship, true friends will never get on 100% of the time, so my solution is to stay apart from these for a while.
I understand it's hard to let go, but recently I became astranged from my group of friends, because I realised we didn't have much in common anymore. It's hard to do, and you do feel alone. But it's all about confidence.
If you stick with people because otherwise you'll be lonely, then you're in it for the wrong reasons, and as soon as they've found someone else to hang out with they will. The danger then is that they become closer to that person, and you kind of get edged out.
What I'm saying is make a fresh start. You need to establish what she meant by 'everyone hates you'. Was it something you did? Can it be changed? Obviously this girl can't speak for everyone, and I'm sure this comment is out of proportion.
I struggle with anxiety issues to, but a good place to begin is to realise that sometimes it's okay to be alone. Too many people huddle together, and put them alone and they panick. But if you can prove that your actually okay on your own and your not dependant on others, people will respect you more, as you'll seem confident, which it sounds to me you lack.
You don't have to stand for this, and just think if this was a bf-gf relationship and this was happening, most people would be telling you to break it up. So you should with this, before people try to control you.
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