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My boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex
I am 15 and my boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex, what should I do?
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its fine but tell the dude get a condomn if he doesnt just say no cuz that means he's too broke to buy a two or three dollar condomn.
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Pressuring is wrong. You should talk to him.
If its something that you don’t want to do, you shouldn't do it. Always keep in mind what you want. Your body, your decisions.
No one should pressure you. If he truely cares about you he should respect you decision.
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It is extremely disrespectful when a boyfriend pressures his girlfriend.
What you need to tell him is no. And that no means no. No does not mean, "convince me".
If he keeps doing this, it will ruin your relationship and you obviously don't deserve a guy who doesn't respect your boundaries.
So sit down and talk to him. Tell him you're not ready. Tell him that no means no and you don't want him to try to convince you.
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When it comes to sex there is a hard and fast rule. No means NO and stop means STOP. You have said no you do not want to have sex. That should be the end of the conversation. For him to continue to pester or harass you into having sex with him he has crossed the line into sexually harassing you.
Sexual harassment is a legal term that could cause him real legal trouble should you or your parents wish to make this kind of trouble for him. Even if he is under age this charge knows no age limit. One way to stop his pressuring you is to tell him just what I wrote and that if he doesn't stop pressuring you for sex you might have to take that action. That should cool him down.
From my view point his pressuring you for sex say many things to me. The first is he does not respect you. IF he did he would have taken no for an answer the first time you said no.
The second is a little more complicated. Guys and gals at your age have a different definition of love. Yours is more the adult definition of love. For guys his age the definition of love is more equal to the definition of lust. Guys his age confuse the two.
Guys going through puberty are hard wired to have sex. They need to relieve the sexual tension caused by the hormones produced by puberty. This can be done through masturbation and most guys do resort to this as do gals. Though boys will pressure their girlfriends for the real thing before resorting to masturbation for relief.
One of the oldest lines a boy will use on a girls to get what he wants is: "If you love me you will have sex with me." If a boy ever says this to you or something like it. This should tell you that the boys love for you is of the lust type and not the love type you know and define. Don't fall for this as once he gets from you what he wants he will move on to another girls to see if he can get sex from her.
Another thing that is as old as that line is a game boys play which is to see how many girls they can have sex with. Each group of boys play this game for different reasons, mostly for bragging rights. Every girl they have sex with is worth a point. Sex with a virgin is more points.
I've told you this so you know what is behind your boyfriend pressuring you for sex. You don't and should not give into him until you are ready for sex. You don't have to take my word for it, you can ask your dad about this and I'm sure if you ask he will confirm what I have told you.
Sex is a beautiful thing and should be between two people who are old enough to enjoy it and are in a long term committed relationship that is hopefully headed for marriage. Sex should not be a recreational activity done in stolen hours behind the bleachers at school, in the backseats of cars or at home in a slam bam thank you mam way to avoid being caught.
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Let me tell you an honest answer. He's not respecting you and your dignity, just like what the previous user has answered. I'm sorry for saying this but you need to break up with him. Think about it, he's pressuring you into an intercourse just to satisfy his thirst. Once is never enough let alone twice. That ain't good for you especially when you're still 15, and I don't think your parents will ever say 'yes' to that too.
Let him know that he has no right to force or pressurise you into anything you don't like. Sorry again mate, I really suggest you to break up with him before he takes control over you.
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Dump him
A boyfriend that appreciate you as a person will respect your values. Someone who pressures someone isn't only veing a bully but doesn't truly respect you or your feelings. Unfortunately, Sometimes we learn where we stand when someone begins to constantly nag or put someone under peer pressure. Time to end it
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