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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
I would try to talk to the police and see what can be done.
I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again?
First, never let a guy make you do things you don't to. I know you feel like you are in love, but that doesn't mean you should let him have all he wants. Its a 50/50 partnership in a relationship. It should be equal. It is hard (trust me, I know) but you are young and you will find someone else. Put yourself first. YOU are the most important thing in YOUR life. If you say no, make it a HELL F-ING NO. Don't let a guy convince you. You should just let him go. It is hard but it is do-able. If it makes it any easier remove him completely out of your life. Don't talk to him even if it goes against your heart. The heart is too fragile and falls in love too fast. But only because you think you are in love, it doesn't mean you are. Honestly if you are in a relationship and you see yourself doing most of the work, IT IS NOT WORTH IT (especially is they make you feel bad, cry, etc). There are plenty fish in the sea. Heart break is part of life, and I can't tell you that you will not experience it again. But the best thing you can do is love you, LOVE YOURSELF. And learn from it. Don't be afraid of loving, but don't let them take the lead of your life. I hope this helps. I wish you luck. Stay strong and love your self.
I'm a 16 year old girl. So here I have a typical teenage story: I moved away from my home 7 months ago. Away from all of my friends, boyfriend, etc. I got depressed, started cutting (but I got help for the cutting, but I'm still pretty depressed). Everyone said to give it time, and I have, but I'm done. I have no friends here. I had a few, but they got tired of me. But when I had one left she lied to me and almost got me in trouble with three sets of parents and the cops (long story). I've always had trouble making friends but now it's ridiculous and I just want to go back to my old home but we can't due to my parents jobs. All I want right now is to for someone to hold me and say that it'll be okay. I can't visit them, we don't have the money and my old boyfriend who I stayed in a long distance relationship with after moving moved to Florida right after I left. He got a boyfriend (he's bisexual) and I kinda understand because long distance is hard. I'm bisexual as well and can't tell my parents but I'm not too concerned about that I guess. All I want is for someone to hold me and say that it'll be okay. But my parents are busy with work and the new house and siblings and I feel so alone. So tell me, does it get better as you get older, do friends not matter when you go off to college? What happens years from now when I'm an adult?
Things do get better. I understand that at moments seem like there is no way out. But it does. Sometime you have to make a change. You got to give yourself strength. Friends come and go., in reality everyone comes and go. Only you are the only one that will be there for always.(Im not saying that you wont make friends. But you are your only constant) Don't be scared talk to people. Join groups/clubs. College is a great thing because you have more places to explore. And there are many clubs to join. You meet people that have the same major as you and sometime your make friends. When I went to college I was alone. No friends there. But its about 6 years later and some of the people I met are still my friends and close to me.
For the depression, what seems to help me is doing something that I love. For example, drawing, poetry, music, reading book, etc. These things will give your mind a break. It helps.And love yourself. Always love yourself. Hang in there, and stay strong.
Everytime when i want to make one step forward HE comes from somewhere and just with 1 look in his eyes everything comes back, our history our things that will never happen again. He was my first love and i'm afraid if i can forget him cause it takes long time ago when we were WE. I want to forget him and treat him the same way he treated me, maybe then he will understand how much it hurts. I just wanted a little fairytale with happy ending, but now i'm afraid to believe in boys. I need courage that everything will be alright!
If you want to move on then don't talk to him, don't text him. Move him out of your life. It will seem the hardest at first but it will be well worth it. Go out with your friends, do thing you like to do. Focus on yourself. Not all boys are bad, just get to know them well before you decide to get in a relationship. It will take time but you will be alright. Keep your head up and put yourself first. Don't give up.
My friend is in a relationship. The guy she is dating is telling people that they are just friends but I know that they arent. He asked her to be his girlfriend and I witnessed this happen. Should I tell her that he is telling people they arent dating or not? Age: 16
I believe you should. It's better that you tell her, because she could find out later and knows that you know, it could effect your relationship.
its my bfs first reltnshp with a gal and he is immature to some extend.. we have been together for 1 yr 5 mnths.i always knew he wanted a breakup because we fight a lot and he is fed up of those fights. its our possessiveness that is causing those fights.. i knew he wanted to breakup so i only told him that lets breakup because i know you want to be free. he asked me whether il be his only after a breakup so i replied that i wont be anyone's after this breakup then he got sad.. he wants to come back but he says its not the right age. so that day itself he told me that i want to continue this relationship. what should i do? we go through many breakups n those breakups hurt me. should i give it a last try?
I don't think you should. If it keeps happening than maybe you both need to go your own way. It already seems to be going in a circle already. I can relate to this I was in a similar situation. We went our ways, its been almost 2 years and a lot has changed. You can't close your self up to future relationships. But just give yourself time to grow. Focus on yourself, things you love to do.
14/f Hi,ever since starting high school, I've become very quiet, insecure and not as talkative as I once was.... I'm not happy anymore and my life is really boring because I barely talk to anyone anymore so, how do I become sociable again?
High school is a new step and this might be why you feel this way. Best advice I can say is try to talk to people, and you will find the people that you will get along with.
I was quiet all the way until college. But I met people that inspired me, that encouraged, that gave me the courage and confidence that I have. But the only way I met them is to talk to people. Start with conversation about class, or class work. You can also start by noticing common interests: like band shirts, pictures of things, pins, etc. Those are great things to begin to start talking about. And as you see them say hello, and friendships will begin to grow.
I like this boy and I was wondering how can i make him figure out that I like him please help.?
Take a chance and talk to him.
I am 15 and my boyfriend is always pressuring me about sex, what should I do?
Pressuring is wrong. You should talk to him.
If its something that you don’t want to do, you shouldn't do it. Always keep in mind what you want. Your body, your decisions.
No one should pressure you. If he truely cares about you he should respect you decision.