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what i actually want: I need courage that everything will be alright!
Everytime when i want to make one step forward HE comes from somewhere and just with 1 look in his eyes everything comes back, our history our things that will never happen again. He was my first love and i'm afraid if i can forget him cause it takes long time ago when we were WE. I want to forget him and treat him the same way he treated me, maybe then he will understand how much it hurts. I just wanted a little fairytale with happy ending, but now i'm afraid to believe in boys. I need courage that everything will be alright!
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Bear with me for a minute. A gambler bets 'differently' after he's just won than he does after he's just lost. After a win your confidence is high. You follow your feelings, and intuition...your 'heart' if you like. After a big lose you're cautious...you lack confidence and belief in yourself. You usually don't make the bet that your intuition and instinct are telling you. You look for something safer..odds a bit more in your favour. In a nutshell....you lose your 'nerve'. I can tell you that ALL dissapointments in life, anything that knocks you back, anything that hurts you HAS THE VERY SAME psychological effect on us. You've been hurt. You've lost your belief. You've lost your nerve. How can you trust a boy? Trust means giving him the power to hurt you. You'll just crash and burn eh? Hang in my friend. It'll come back. That fairy-tale ending maybe looks a long way off right now? Maybe you think you were silly and foolish to believe in happy endings at all? They're closer than you think right now, and you were not silly to believe. You're human. You've lost your nerve. And THAT'S ALL. Believe me. We've all been there, and we'll all be there again from time to time, all our lives. XX
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Just because you LOVE someone, also doesnt mean their GOOD for you. alot of times people stay in toxic relationships because they still LOVE the person. Their under this false idea that if they didnt love them anymore then they'd "know" and then thats when it would justify kicking the person outta your life. that couldnt be more wrong. love doesnt always connect with LOGIC, and thats the main problem here. so at the end of the day when it all boils down to it how to you feel about him. put your love aside and ask yourself "is he good for me?" "does he want the things i want in life or is he taking you in a direction you dont see yourself in?" your answer will become clear. good luck ; )
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If you want to move on then don't talk to him, don't text him. Move him out of your life. It will seem the hardest at first but it will be well worth it. Go out with your friends, do thing you like to do. Focus on yourself. Not all boys are bad, just get to know them well before you decide to get in a relationship. It will take time but you will be alright. Keep your head up and put yourself first. Don't give up.
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First loves aren't always true loves.
You just need to take a step back. Realize that he wasn't the one, and move forward.
What you had with him was great, but now it's memories and you don't need to hate him or be bitter for whatever happened and you need to do yourself a favor and move on.
Don't keep talking to him, don't text call or be friends with him on any social media.
Go out and meet guys, enjoy yourself and do things you love to do.
Just because a guy hurt you doesn't mean you have to stop believing in guys. You definitely won't find love that way. Keep your chin up and find someone better.
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