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How I do I become more sociable
14/f Hi,ever since starting high school, I've become very quiet, insecure and not as talkative as I once was.... I'm not happy anymore and my life is really boring because I barely talk to anyone anymore so, how do I become sociable again?
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I was the same way, I was very quiet in high school but I always had friends and had a good time. Drewb13 said it best, that's how I made my friends. I had a couple friends and would meet their friends and became friends with them. Eventually I ended up knowing a lot of people just by having a couple friends.
I also think joining clubs and doing things you like would help. I mean it's so much more fun to hang out with people who like to do the same things as you do and it also gives you guys more things to talk about.
So start trying new things, make new friends and enjoy your high school experience.
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High school is a new step and this might be why you feel this way. Best advice I can say is try to talk to people, and you will find the people that you will get along with.
I was quiet all the way until college. But I met people that inspired me, that encouraged, that gave me the courage and confidence that I have. But the only way I met them is to talk to people. Start with conversation about class, or class work. You can also start by noticing common interests: like band shirts, pictures of things, pins, etc. Those are great things to begin to start talking about. And as you see them say hello, and friendships will begin to grow.
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I like your question because I changed schools when I became a sophomore, so I didn't know anybody. I didn't want to talk to anyone I didn't know and I hated it when teachers assigned in-class partner assignments or made everyone play those silly "ice-breaker" games. But here's how I overcame all of that.
It starts with just one friend. You're just starting high school. YOU DON'T NEED TO MAKE A MILLION FRIENDS ON YOUR FIRST DAY. All you need to do is find one true friend. And then maybe introduce yourself to their friends. The key is to put yourself out there. I learned this way too late.
If you want to make friends, you have to participate in school activities and join clubs. Find your PASSION. What I mean by that is, if you love filming or making movies or watching movies, join a film club or take a video production class (if your school has one.) If you're a really gifted writer or an eloquent speaker, join the writer's club or take a public speaking class. Find what you're good at and DO IT.
And remember, sociable doesn't always have to mean talkative. Sociable means that you are frequently interacting with other people. It doesn't necessarily mean that you talk a lot.
Lastly, I've constantly struggled with insecurity myself. But I realized, the person who can break my spirit and destroy my self-esteem is myself. DON'T GIVE YOURSELF THAT POWER. Appreciate yourself for who you are and others will do the same. If you feel insecure, people will see you as insecure. But if you feel CONFIDENT, people will see you as a CONFIDENT PERSON. That's also something I learned in my senior year. You don't want to be like me and wait until your senior year to start having fun. DO IT WHILE YOU HAVE THE CHANCE.
Anyway, I hope I was able to help you.
~Andrew~
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