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i know something about my friends relationship but I am afraid to tell her
My friend is in a relationship. The guy she is dating is telling people that they are just friends but I know that they arent. He asked her to be his girlfriend and I witnessed this happen. Should I tell her that he is telling people they arent dating or not? Age: 16
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I'd say talk to him first. You don't know what his reasons are and he may just be new to relationships.
Who knows, maybe he's just a player but it's best to know your information.
But in the end, don't keep this from her. Although you should not be involved in their relationship, you are her friend and you owe her this.
As soon as you tell her, back out and let her handle it and make her own choices. If she chooses to talk to him and work things out, then let her. If she chooses to end the relationship, then just be there for her.
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Just you questioning whether or not you should tell her should tell YOU that you should leave it be. It isn't your business. You can only be there when she falls to catch her. Be there completely for her.
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A lack of true interest in your gf was stated as a possible reason he is saying this.
I see another possibility. Teen boys have as little experience as you or her do at dating and relationships and therefore little self confidence in anything relating to the area could possibly be the issue here. It may not be the case, but if so could explain why he is saying this. It could well be he is terrified of the thought of your peers teasing him about it, especially if he's experienced other guys at the mercy of such teasing.
Telling your girlfriend, or how you tell her, might cause her to distrust him without knowing the real reason behind his actions and she may not bother to investigate and actually break it off with a guy who may end up being a really good boyfriend.
If you are going to talk to anyone at all, I would encourage you if you're close friends with the guy to approach him and ask him why if you witness him asking her to be his gf, that you have now witnessed him denying it. If he's afraid of what others will say or of teasing, Tell him its okay to feel that way cus teens can be cruel and merciless. If he is worried about this, encourage him to share this with your girlfriend and ask her what she thinks of both of them keeping their dating secret for now. Its something they should decide together. I know lots of teens do this. Good luck!
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You should tell her, but only if the moment seems right. Do not drop this on her out of the blue. Wait until you are having a bonding moment.
Maybe have her over and bake cookies together and break the news to her then. Cookies make everything more comfortable.
Good luck,
Miss Piggy
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I believe you should. It's better that you tell her, because she could find out later and knows that you know, it could effect your relationship.
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You should tell her because you are her friend. You can say something like "Hey...I just heard your bf tell people you two are just friends...did something happen?" Then help her get through this. No one should have to waste time with someone when that person has no interest in them. Help her through it!
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