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he complains about my sleeping habits
My boyfriend and I are in our twenties. Since we are both full-time students we still live at home, although I do sleep over his house occasionally.
After my boyfriend I go to sleep at night he frequently gets annoyed with my sleeping habits. Apparently I try to push him off the bed and I’m like the worst person to sleep with at night. Since he is the first guy that I have slept in the same bed with for any amount of time, I am unsure if this is because I am just a bad sleeper or if he is just a light sleeper.
Of course my cat does not complain about my sleeping habits but he does leave the bed at night to do his own little thing after being pet, in which he either returns or leaves to sleep in another spot in the house. Although I constantly find the covers off of my bed after I wake up, and when I have tried to sleep with headphones in my ears I constantly find them out of my ears after I wake up. In the past whenever I had to sleep with my sister during family vacations, she’s complained about me kicking her or trying to strangle her in my sleep. Which leaves me to the conclusion that perhaps my sleeping habits are my problem.
Similar to most people my boyfriend is not exactly the nicest guy when he does not get enough sleep, and not only that but I enjoy having sex with him better when he is more energized (of course, since he does most of the work).
Unfortunately our little problem is probably going to get worse as we advance further into our relationship. The two of us have been talking about getting our own place and getting married in a few years. He thinks that in order for him to get enough sleep at night the two of us are going to get separate beds which I do not want to happen.
How do you suggest that my boyfriend and I resolve this problem? Is it possible for me to better adjust my sleeping habits, so that perhaps he will actually look forward to going to sleep with me at night?
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The problem of the marital bed and your sleeping together once you are sharing an apartment are easily fixed. They make a King sized bed that is actually two twin mattresses on a King size box spring.
You can make the bed up as two twins or twin bottom sheets and king top and comforter. sleeping with someone, as in actually sleeping, takes time to get use too. Remember you are both in your twenties and have spent your entire lives alone in your own bed not sharing with anyone except stuffed animals or the family pet.
Even after you marry and get comfortable with sharing a bed there will be times when one partner will be a bed hog. My wife and I will be married 43 years next month and we still have the occasional fight for covers, or where one of us piles the covers on to the other. As for hogging the bed that happens on many occasions. If one of us gets up in the middle of the night we have to wedge ourselves back into bed for the other has spread out across the bed.
I would consider, when you are ready, the idea of two twin mattresses on a King sized box spring. With the mattresses made up with twin sheets this will mark your space for you and stop your roaming as this is the space you are probably use two. Back when I was younger this type of bed was very popular as was two twin beds that were bound together at the headboard and where they met at the bottom. This one was nice as for changing the bed you just unhooked then at the bottom and they swung away on a hinge making it easy to change the bed and clean under them.
To answer your question as to how you change your sleeping habits? I don't think this is something that can consciously be done. I believe the best thing is to look at a bed as I have described that will accommodate your individual sleeping habits, allow you to sleep together in all forms of the word and get a good nights rest.
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