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how to handle breakup.
My boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me yesterday. Two days ago I called him on my break during work and he was at home. I was asking about his day. Talking about the basketball game playing since they have TVs at the restaurant. And just random kind of stuff and he said "can you talk about something else? I don't want to hear about what you're eating or watching".I then ended up telling him that since I bore him so much he can bring something better to talk about. Or find someone else who won't bore him with their conversation. The thing that ifs even more weird about the whole situation is thathat the whole time before I was the one trying to talk while he was saying nothing. He ends up coming to my work to fix things. But he doesn't actually say sorry. So then later another argument comes where he accuses me of calling him a liar when I didn't. then he ends up calling over and over to try and resolve things by pretending that nothing happened. Then came yesterday. Everything was back to normal until the end of the day. He had been holding my money for me because I cannot save so I asked him to keep it for me. So I needed to get the money and I needed him to come bring it to me since my moms car was having clutch problems. Since his house ifs uphill, the car would not make it up. So I asked him to meet me at the bottom. He would not come. He refused. Then after when I finally have someone to take me he forces me to talk to him by holding my money. Then he wants to say. You failed the test.(IM thinking, what test? Is this some game?). So he goes on to say that he wants to give me time to figure out how I feel about him. He feels that I only like him when he does things for me.and when he doesn't I freak out.
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First and foremost , I'm going to let what i think of this out , all the way and pardon me if it's not helpful . Anyway , ''Has to question if everything km telling him is true like all the time.'' , ''You failed the test.(IM thinking, what test? Is this some game?).'' 'But he doesn't actually say sorry. So then later another argument comes where he accuses me of calling him a liar when I didn't'' - Although they're only three sentences , but still they reflect the way your ex-boyfriend treated you . I do think that he's an insecure person because he often questioned you eventhough he should've trusted you and yes , you do have the right to be upset . The thing is , if the spark of the relationship has truly gone and there's no hope for it coming back , then maybe it's for the best of both of you .
Truthfully , handling a break-up isn't easy but you need to deal with it no matter what . At the same time , you may find that the person you most need to stand up to in this world is you and i know that you're fighting decisive battles within but regardless of how hard it is , you will eventually heal with the help of time . If you've chosen to move on , then you need to let the red-letter moments of you with your boyfriend go . If he couldn't sweep you off your feet and make you absolutely happy like you should've been , then maybe , just maybe , he's not the one for you . It's true that when it comes to a romantic relationship , there'll be sweet and bitter moments but if the bitter moments exceed the sweet ones , then that's it . It'll be totally hard to continue with the relationship although it has been on for years and years .
Don't worry , in everything that's occurring , there's always a reason behind it . Who knows that God is reserving you for a better person in the future ? You'll know when ^_^ Like i said earlier , try letting go of the great moments because they'll be like videos playing in your mind replaying again and again and sometimes , that is when your tears will come out causing you to become sadder than you actually were . Try your best to motivate yourself in this and accept the fact that the tie between the both of you isn't there anymore .
Consume your time doing the things you love , read and assimilate inspiring quotes that can help you to recover and listen to beautiful songs day by day but the vital thing here is to believe in yourself and be patient . It's true that he's the one to blame from what i've read , but that won't change the fact that you need to deal with your sadness or mixed feelings yourself . You could cry and let all the pain go , but at the same time allow yourself to smile and be happy . Don't immerse yourself in sadness , you don't deserve to ! Also , as time passes , gain new strength . There are doors to happiness everywhere , and you can make it :)
Keep your head held up high and look at the world in the eye . Let the unpleasant moments pass away and prepare yourself to embrace the bliss of the future . Plan on how you're going to handle yourself including the inner turmoils , and if you need to , express your feelings to your closest friends or family members who'll understand and comfort you . For now , appreciate what you have and let bygones be bygones . You're strong and you're special , Trust me :))
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