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I can't let goof my friend. I feel so helpless.
She was my best friend. My soul-sister. Now? She hates me. She thinks I did some stuff (which I didnt) and every time I try to explain things to her, she thinks I'm lying. She spread rumors about me. I'm hurt. I just want things to go back to the way it was... But the wound in my heart is just too deep and I can't bear it anymore. It's like, half of me wants to punch her for being such an ass, and yet half of me just wants to apologize even if I'm not wrong...She bears grudges and its so hard to talk to her. I feel so helpless. :(
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You see , it's never easy to deal with people who don't seem to understand you and your intentions and one thing is that , the history and the future can never mix perfectly well together . One who was a well-behaved person a few months ago could be the most ill-hearted person of all today and vice versa . The thing is , people can change anytime unexpectedly but it's up to you to make the decision on how to deal with them courageously .You did try confronting her and so on but nothing seemed to alter the mess .
I advise you to let her go and accept the fact that she has changed her attitude towards you but please , don't take vengeance on her . This may be extremely difficult for you to accept - forgiveness of your friend who has transgressed against you , is not about them ; it is about you . Trust me when i say that the only escape is forgiveness . The only way to rise above the negatives in the relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground , and forgive the person who has hurt you .
No matter how helpless you feel , there's always a way on how to escape from it and be stronger and stop yourself from thinking "What i'm going through is too much and it's hard to stand up , I can't do it any longer ." Look at yourself , you're worth it but it's worthiless to endure the excruciating pain when your friend isn't changing and feeling the same thing although you've tried your best but like i said , forgive her and be able to treat her nicely no matter what because one day , she'll realise her mistakes .
Even if she's spreading rumours about you and having grudges towards you , let her be . Maybe , she's having decisive battles within herself too and who knows , she's facing terrible hardships in life too ? Don't change who you are but instead , be nicer . You'll win . What goes around comes around and you deserve to have more great friends . Be a friend to the people , and the people will be your friends willingly . In the meantime , be patient and stand up . You're much stronger that you think . Love yourself and be independent . Pray for a better day ahead :)
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I know you don't want to hear this but you need to give her some time to heal and get over whatever happened. Most people need to time to actually realize that it is okay and then they can forgive and forget. Don't pressure her into it too soon. After a little time i suggest writing a letter with all of your feelings for her. This sounds cheesy but it is the best way to really get out what you want to say. Tell her how much you miss her and everything, let it all out. I hope everything works out for y'all.
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