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Why would my friend act like this towards me?
We're both girls and we were best friends for about 10 years. Now that we're in college, everything has changed. She complained that I got everything too easily when I won my full academic scholarship, and she called me a selfish person for getting more (after I had explained to her about my money situation: older sister in college, having to pay for other things that didn't get covered by the scholarship, like summer classes, extra hours, books, etc). She said I didn't deserve these scholarships.
She never had anything positive to say to me anymore. When we would hang out, I always asked how she was doing and such; when she asked me, she seemed to not even care. She would stop texting me if I mentioned new friends from college (I live on campus while she lives at home) or my boyfriend at all. She would always get mad at me if I said I had to study in place of hanging out with her.
One last thing: we work together and she complains that I'm just too busy to take or switch shifts with anyone. I'm just a bad coworker to her it seems. I heard from her brother that I don't even deserve to have a job because I essentially don't have to pay for school.
It just hurts me so much. We used to be so close and now she is so negative towards me. I don't know what I did wrong. Please help me. Why is my supposed friend doing this to me? Thanks in advance!
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She's very jelous i can tell you that. Sometimes when everything isn't going right for the other person that everything your family member, friend, or other is going right. That they get everything they wanted and needed to help them. They feel as if it's unfair and question why they didn't get that or why they cant have that. You see this a lot with best friend and close family members they get jelous quickly. Your friend is upset she prob also afraid of losing you and shes not meaning to push you away with being rude but she is. You need to call her out on it. Ask her where the old (name) is all the good times are lost and you feel lost with out her. That you dont want to lose your friend ship. You love her like a sister and you need her. Ask her what happend and why she is hurting your feelings and not being nice to you. You must call her out and find out whats wrong. Maybe invite her over and buy her some of her favorite foods and things and tell her you got these with your own hard working cash you made with your job and you and want to make up for anything you've done. Tell her you're sorry even if it's not your fault...but telling her you're sorry with help a lot..and dont ask her for a sorry...i really hope i helped you!!
Your friend,
Lenore
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She's jealous and disappointed in her own situation.
It sounds like you've moved onto campus, have additional classes it sounds like, have scholarships and other obligations.
So, she's jealous.
You can't solve that for her.
You can tell her that she's being hurtful and unfair. You can tell her that you value her friendship even though your life has changed. You can tell her you'd like to be friends again, but you can't make her 'not feel jealous', so the problem might not be one you can solve.
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it's pretty simple dear, you had it all handed to you on a silver platter and your friend is jealous and bitter because she doesn't. If you really are friends you will sit her down and talk to her about it. Say you don't mean to be flashy with your good fortune not seeing that she has to push and work so hard to even remotely get towards what you have. try to help her. switch a shift with her one day, make it so she has a day off. let her know you are there for her even though it doesn't excuse how she acts towards you, jealousy can make relationships...odd.
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