I watched people get great advice and really bad advice. I here to just give good advice! I've been told i should do this for aliving but I just enjoy it on my free time for when someone needs help. I get a rush and enjoyment from helping out people, you could say i kinda have a "thing" for it. Ask me for any kinda pf advice and i'll try my very hardest to help you out.(:
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i love to boys one of them is a old friend of mine nd he loves nd cares for me the other one i know goes to my school im attending know he just likes me to get head if u know what i mean i love them both but the second one we went out before but were just know i think sex buddies can you please give me advice i need asstiance.... i am a famale 19 yrs old (link)
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You should pick the first one. Being bestfriend always makes for a loving, caring, and more fun relationship. I'm dating my bestfriend and i dont ever want to let him go he treats so right and really cares. That you already said he loves and cares for you is awesome and shows he is the better choice since the other one is just your sex buddy. That'll never get anywhere and prob lead to him cheating on you later in life. Your best friend would never do that and since you guys already have a strobg best friend relationship your love life will be great! :D Goodluck!!
Your friend,
Lenore
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I have been bleeding for four weeks now, it was brown for three weeks but turned red again this past week, what does that mean? (link)
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depending on your age you should prob go see a gynecologist that is alittle too long to be bleeding down there. Brown blood is old blood and red is new. You could have a sist down there. Also if there is blood in your stool(poop) you really need to go see your gynecologist/doctor. Hope i helped you.
Your friend,
Lenore
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my sister who is 22 went to jail for a year for fraud related charges. If I commit the same crime what is the likelihood I will be sent to the same place? I don't want her to be all alone in there. I am 18 year old and female as well. Also, it is a non violent crime and only a year so it doesn't seem too bad (link)
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Dont do that, you're 18 you have a life to live. You're sister did something wrong and she needs to make the time not you! Dont do something to get you into jail..they arnt going to put you guys together..it'd be pointless and you will regret it for life!!! If you didn't think a year was long then your sister will be fine. Dont risk messing up your life just for her. I know a sister is sister and you guy might be tight..but i dont think your sister would be very happy if you got in jail for doing the same thing. Write her letters, visit, and pray shes ok. Hope this all helped you decide not to do it! Good luck!
Your friend,
Lenore
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We're both girls and we were best friends for about 10 years. Now that we're in college, everything has changed. She complained that I got everything too easily when I won my full academic scholarship, and she called me a selfish person for getting more (after I had explained to her about my money situation: older sister in college, having to pay for other things that didn't get covered by the scholarship, like summer classes, extra hours, books, etc). She said I didn't deserve these scholarships.
She never had anything positive to say to me anymore. When we would hang out, I always asked how she was doing and such; when she asked me, she seemed to not even care. She would stop texting me if I mentioned new friends from college (I live on campus while she lives at home) or my boyfriend at all. She would always get mad at me if I said I had to study in place of hanging out with her.
One last thing: we work together and she complains that I'm just too busy to take or switch shifts with anyone. I'm just a bad coworker to her it seems. I heard from her brother that I don't even deserve to have a job because I essentially don't have to pay for school.
It just hurts me so much. We used to be so close and now she is so negative towards me. I don't know what I did wrong. Please help me. Why is my supposed friend doing this to me? Thanks in advance! (link)
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She's very jelous i can tell you that. Sometimes when everything isn't going right for the other person that everything your family member, friend, or other is going right. That they get everything they wanted and needed to help them. They feel as if it's unfair and question why they didn't get that or why they cant have that. You see this a lot with best friend and close family members they get jelous quickly. Your friend is upset she prob also afraid of losing you and shes not meaning to push you away with being rude but she is. You need to call her out on it. Ask her where the old (name) is all the good times are lost and you feel lost with out her. That you dont want to lose your friend ship. You love her like a sister and you need her. Ask her what happend and why she is hurting your feelings and not being nice to you. You must call her out and find out whats wrong. Maybe invite her over and buy her some of her favorite foods and things and tell her you got these with your own hard working cash you made with your job and you and want to make up for anything you've done. Tell her you're sorry even if it's not your fault...but telling her you're sorry with help a lot..and dont ask her for a sorry...i really hope i helped you!!
Your friend,
Lenore
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So I'm 16 and I've being texting a guy who my friend knows and we've really being hitting it off! we can send each other hundreds of texts a day and have being doing so for a few months! I've got him on Facebook and we talk on there as well, but the problem is that he lives 200miles away so for the time being ill never meet him, but he seems so genuinely nice and caring!! I think I might love him but what do I do?
Please help, any advice is welcome! (link)
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It's always hard to say or tell if you love someone over just technology. Over reading this if you were truly inlove with him you would of shown it more when you typed. Like "I met thie wonderful guy that is very sweet and treats me nicly. We text and talk all the time i love it and i think i might love him". I feel like you would of been more lovely like with your words. I think it's possible you really like this guy but love..no. And you can like him you've talked and shared things. But long distance is very hard..expecialy if you never see him. Love can work in many ways though i'm not saying you might not feel as if you're inlove but i dont think you are expecialy since you've never met the guy. Anyone can say anything over texting and computer but if you really met the guy will he actually be as sweet and kind as he was in the texts...sometimes people can say things but never show them. Hope i could help you out.
Your friend,
Lenore
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One of the moderators is asking me to take action on your answer to the N10 suicide question.
I am thinking that it is just possible you didn't understand that all she wanted to know was how to use this, and how many it would take, to commit suicide.
Did you read this cry for help, and ignore it in favor of a textbook answer? I don't think you did... but please let me know so I know how to handle this abuse report.
Thanks,
DN. (link)
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I didn't not feel as if this person was asking for them to wanting to kill them selfs but for asking as if they had taken some and worried they might have done something bad or had been exposed to it. The used "!!!!" maytimes that its ushally an sign of "Help!!!!! i've taken something and i'm worried i might be in trouble." I do not feel as if i just helped the person go kill themselfs.
Thank you,
Lenore
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I'm 21 and whenever I go places, people think I'm like fifteen. I hate it! I got a haircut the other day and while I was waiting, I told the woman I needed to go add cash to my parking meter and she said "Wow! You don't look old enough to be driving!"
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What can I do about this? I can't stand it when people don't take me seriously in public. I don't know if my face looks young or if it's just because of my small stature. I'm 5"1 and 90 pounds. (link)
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Hey dont get mad over that one day you'' be begging for them to call you a younger age then you are!!! Lol take pride in that you have wonderful youth and luckly you'll mostlikey keep that for along time. When you're 70 one day you'll look back and wish you were getting called younger! lol i know its frustrating but no need to get mad just say thanks or really i look that young i'm really 21. Turn it into a joke and laugh with it now so you can laugh with it when you're older!! Hope i could help you out.
Your friend,
Lenore :)
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On my left ear I have my lobes pierced twice
On my right ear I have my lobes pierced twice and upper helix(cartilage)
My question is, should I either
A) Get a mid helix piercing on my right ear
or
B) Get a mid helix piercing & tragus piercing on my left ear.
I want it to be unique (:
P.S. Im 19 living on my own with a job so I don't need parents permission. (link)
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i feel that that combination wont look the best. Although i do see how you want to be unique. Maybe try for your 3 hole on both sides and see how thats looks i'll be close on the one side where you want it half way and you can see if it looks good. tragus piercings can look funny looking make sure it'll look ok try to find fake ones you can try. It'd your body though and go as unique as you can! Lol YOLO! :D
Your friend,
Lenore
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I'm 15/f.
I want my ears gauged,but my parents will say no if I ask them.
I'm thinking about doing it anyways,since I know how to do it.
How do I get my parents to agree,and let me gauge my ears? (link)
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I would rethink your choice on getting your ears gauged...they smell bad and huge turn off for some guys. They arnt very fashionable and if you try to grow your ear back it always looks weird. It can be hard getting a job with those. Your parents wont agree and will be upset with you if you do, but it is your body. Do with is as you want! lol Hope i helped you out.
Your friend,
Lenore
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Can N10 or nitrosun 10 kill a person ?? If so then how many of it !! Help ??? (link)
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Heres what i found
using it for quite a long long time. around 20+ tabs of N10 minimum and around same amount of alprex , the main effects i noticed is you just live in present , u feel evrythng is f9 and just saying ryt qwatever u feel. Most of the people just dun gve a damn abt us as they thnk we r on pills, so leave those s*** heads. and second damn thing is it affects the memory slowly slowly , as dossage and tym, increases its effects become more common... think and then take.. "Addiction can't be "controlled" or " handled " by everybody only few can withstand it.
Nitrosun contains the active ingredient Nitrazepam. Common side effects associated with this drug are listed below:
Central nervous system depression including, somnolence, dizziness, depressed mood, rage, violence, fatigue, ataxia, headache, vertigo, impairment of memory, impairment of motor functions, hangover feeling in the morning, slurred speech, decreased physical performance, numbed emotions, reduced alertness, muscle weakness, double vision and inattention have been reported. Unpleasant dreams and rebound insomnia have also been reported. High levels of confusion, clumsiness also occurs after administration of nitrazepam. Increased reaction time, co-ordination problems and impaired learning and memory.
Impaired learning and memory occurs due to the action of the drug on benzodiazepine receptors which causes a dysfunction in the cholinergic neuronal system. Nitrazepam causes a reduced output of serotonin which is closely involved in regulating mood and may be the cause of feelings of depression in users of nitrazepam or other benzodiazepines.
Because Nitrazepam has more side effects than other hypnotic drugs, gradual and careful reduction of the dosage is always recommended to prevent many severe withdrawal syndromes from developing. It's definitely one of those drugs you'd expect to see a number of law suits filed against, due to the dangers and havoc it can reek on the body.
Hope i helped.
Your friend,
Lenore
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I know that this site is really lame but will 10ppl sign up with it for me? I LOVE IT! ITS FREE! If you sign up and play on it I would really love it!
Here's the link:
get your Neopet at http://www.neopets.com -->
If IT DIDN'T show DON't Go On! I'll Fix It! (link)
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I love Neopets and already have one.
add- kloent_1
Your friend,
Lenore
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I am 9 and getting my ears pierced on March 24, when I turn 10. I'm a bit nervous, and I want to know if it hurts or not. Thanks! :) (link)
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The truth is that it feels like a little nip to the ear maybe just alittle harded. But it's not bad and it doesn't last long...it goes so quickly. I have my ears peirced 3 times in each ear and i'm 16..i like the hole earing look the holes are all at the bottom by where the first one will be.
Getting your ears pierced is alot of fun follow the cleaning rulles and you'll be fun and have a lot of fun styling with different outfits!!
Your friend,
Lenore
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I have a random bruise on my spine and have had headaches I vomited blood and coughed blood and been feeling dizzy and I'm 16 when I was 5 my twin brother died of cancer (link)
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I dont want to scare you but if a history as your brother dying from cancer is in your family and he was your twin is is possible. Also your spine is a very inportant part of your body is has neveres all up and down it...the bruise for be from a hurt to it that has messed some things up and raddled your body all up. When you worry you only make the headaches worse...you body is capable of making it worse by thinking and freaking out about it too much. I've had this happen to me before. You've vomiting blood you say? This is more serious thought...you will need to tell your parents about all of this, you do need to have this checked if it is cancer they might be able to stop it in time. Hope everything turns out ok and you never had to deal with Cancer.
Your Friend,
Lenore
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My brother and I don't always get along, but when we do, we're good friends. As siblings will do, we pick on each other all the time. I usually laugh his comments off, they don't bother me, but if I say anything to him, he flies into a rage, and starts attacking me. And occasionally he may have no reason to attack me, but he does anyway. When we were younger it was okay, because even though I'm a girl, I was always taller than him, but now he's put up weight and is at least twice as strong as I am. I have often received injuries from him; a cut all along my hairline when he banged my head against a door frame, a bruise on my upper-abdomen when he kicked me in the stomach, a bruise on my ear, bite marks on my legs, he knocked one of my baby teeth out when we were kids, amongst many other things.
I have told my parents about it, but my brother has always been the golden boy. They say that I probably provoked him. If I call the cops, I will be the one to get in trouble, so I don't think I can do that... To be honest, I'm not worried about myself, I'll be going to college next year and I'll see a lot less of him. However, I am worried that he will treat other women the way he has treated me all my life. How do I make him see how dangerous his behaviour is? (Please note that I've broached this topic with him before, but it only made the abuse worse.) (link)
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I have an older sister and i'm the younger one...we would fight a lot like this too...not quite as bad but up there in the clouds with it. I think you need to come to him in a calmly matter when you both are in a good mood with each other. Tell him that he is your brother and you love him. You always will but you need to ask him why you guys always fight so much and hurt each other. Tell him it hurts your feelings and you dont want to leave for college knowing you might come home to fighting. See what he says the best time to talk is when you guys arnt fighting...Dont tell him you hate him ever..it could get worse...dont ever say you hope he dies..could get really worse or he could go kill himself. if this doesn't help you need to step up to the plate...if you're 18 you're an adult..you need to tell your parents to listen to you. Maybe you did provok him maybe not i wasnt there..but you need to make sure your parents listen to you and see how hurt you are. They are your parents and they need to care. They love you and hopefully will understand...I really hope i could help..from one hurt girl to another. Good luck!
Your friend,
Lenore
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I met this girl and really liked her, but held back telling her for a few months. I finally summoned the courage to ask her out. She said yes and we went to the circus. Then I asked her out again and we went for ice cream. I had a really great time and told her, but played it cool for a couple weeks. I didn't want to come on too strong. Then, I hear she decided to go back to her jerk of a ex. A few weeks went by and then she broke it off with her ex again. So I started talking to her again and then wrote her a poem which she told me she really liked. A week later I asked her out again. She said yes, but on the day of said she couldn't go - I found out later she was talking to her ex again. A couple weeks later, she says it's definitely over between her and her ex. I had been wanting to tell her for about 6 months that I really liked her, but I told myself to be patient - she needs time to get over this jerk of an ex. Two weeks later, she had gone back to college and we were communicating by phone. Then I heard from mutual friends that she is talking to her ex again and I couldn't take it. I got worried I had waited too long. So I made an unannounced visit to see her - about two hours away. Everyone said it would be sweet and that I should go for it. I arrived, saw her car in the parking lot, parked next to her car and asked myself if I was doing the right thing. Two girls walked by and I asked them what to do. They said I should tell her how I feel, she's just confused. After waiting for 30 minutes, I thought to leave, but then she showed up. She smiled and hugged me when I greeted her and told me she'd meet me after classes. I said okay and cleared my day. When her classes were over, she said she had appointments. I asked her to be honest, so she said that her boyfriend wouldn't like it if she was hanging out with me. I said okay, I respect her decision, but thought it was wrong. I told her I want her to be happy and that I didn't like it when her boyfriend would make her cry. I told her I think she deserves infinitely better and that the guy that wants what she wants is right under her nose. She told me, this time her boyfriend really IS going to change. I told her she's really important to me and that I'd like to get to know her much better. I said all this as I walked her to her dorm. We got to the door, I asked for a hug, she reached for me and I picked her up. I put her down, but still held her - our heads came together and she was smiling so I looked her in the eye and asked her to reconsider - to at least think about it. She promised she would. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and she smiled. Then I left, but when I got home I received a text that she doesn't want to have any contact with me anymore. Then her parents called and yelled at me that I'm a stalker and they're calling the police, that she's too young to be interested in me (she's 20, I'm 26). According to her father, she only hugged me because she was scared of what else I'd do to her. I calmly said I'm sorry you feel that way to them. Nothing happened since. A week later, she broke up with her ex - for good this time according to people I spoke to. Her friend called me twice since then, but I ignored the messages. I heard her voice on another voice message, but I deleted it. She said she didn't want to talk to me, so I've not contacted her in any way because I respect her. It hurts because I'd like to be with her no matter what, but I don't know what to do. I can't believe everything blew up in my face the way it did. It's clear my timing was worse than bad. Has anyone been in a similar situation? The only thing I'm doing is living, praying that if I give it time everything will work out. Let me know if you think I should do anything else, and what. Thanks. (link)
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That was all very sweet of you to have done that. She is an ADULT she 20 and you're one too. Her parents were wrong of doing that and she was very wrong of leading you on. I offten think to myself when we always go back to the ones that hurt us. Its because we felt something..but what did we really feel? If they hurt us and lied to us that many times why should we still love/like them. I do say you must move on. You've done the right think of stopping contact. You've now seen what her and her parents are capable of. Very rude of them...you now must as we say "go find that other fish in the sea" ..there are many...trust me! if you found a girl that special and treated you like that then you WILL find a girl that special again that treats you even bettter!!!!! I do feel you need to move on though..i know it's hard...i've been there. It's damn not right either. But thats what happends. You'll be find..take things at your own speed..but dont talk to her anymore, not even her friend, all they want now if more stuff on you and information. Stop all contact and move on....i hope i helped.
Your friend,
Lenore
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I went through a divorce, lost my home, lost my job, and declared bankruptcy in the last year. I am 57 and feel totally hopeless. I am on medication but I don't think it is helping. I am suicidal but haven't act ed on it. Deep down I know I don't want to die; I just want the pain to stop.!! Any suggestions please? (link)
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I got this off of a grat site. I feel like your problem is you're under A LOT of stress. Isn't almost everyone? You're is quite the situation that isnt very lucky. I feel bad for you that is why i'm going to help you or atleast try to! :D
I know this is A LOT to read but I do thing it'll help you. Best of luck!!!
Your Friend,
Lenore
Naturally Quick Relaxation Techniques
By Justin Williamson | Stress | Unrated
Goes without saying, our modern lifestyle accompanies lots of stress and agony. The sweet gadgets and comfortable amenities that we all carve to achieve arrive at a bitter cost. The fact of the matter is that our carvings do not have a definite end nor is our daily routine relaxing enough to offer us some comfort.
Most of us are seen so absorbed with our chaotic lifestyle that we end up paying little heed to the factors that can offer us some relief from the ever growing stress. The irony lies in the fact that most of aren’t even aware about the relaxation techniques available out there.
As such, there are plenty of natural relaxation techniques that can be adapted by people of all ages. Relaxation means getting rid of all our worries in life in order to regain the lost zeal and energy to make the most of our lives. Let’s have a look at some of the naturally quick relaxation techniques.
Your best bet over here would be to indulge in pleasurable activities. It could be your favorite pastime hobby such as reading books, listening to music, collecting some unique materials, writing, painting and so on. Our hobbies offer us great relaxation as we tend to express ourselves the best through our favorite pastime activities in life.
It’s important for you to recharge yourself from time to time. Your mind and body requires rest in periodic intervals. Sometimes, having good sleep can do wonders. On the other hand, neglecting good sleep for a prolonged period of time can backfire. So, sleep well to feel extremely relaxed when you wake up the next morning.
Meditation is a good relaxation technique that you can incorporate in your life since it’s extremely easy to perform. All you need to do is find a quiet place and sit down in an erect position with your eyes closed. Focus your mind on breathing while inhaling and exhaling. You will find great peace from this activity.
Having a hot water shower can relax your mind and body as well. A good shower is an instant relaxation technique that can curb the flow of stressful thoughts from your mind. If you prefer cold water, then have a shower with cold water.
Tea addicts can find great relief by drinking chamomile tea. Reports suggest that chamomile tea has a relaxing effect on our nerves. So, treat yourself with this herbal tea! Make sure that you avoid tea that contains caffeine as it can worsen your condition.
How about going out for a walk? Walk past the lane and enjoy Mother Nature and chirping birds all along the way. If you are a nature lover, you are sure to get lost in the natural beauty of the Earth, thereby helping yourself feel relaxed.
By Jenny Stamos Kovacs
WebMD Feature
Reviewed by Renee A. Alli, MD
The kids need a ride to school, your husband can't find his shorts, your boss has just scheduled an online meeting, and your best friend desperately needs your help -- all at the same time.
Is it any wonder that you can't find a minute for relaxation? In fact, if you're like most women, you may have even forgotten how to relax.
And though experts say that some stress is good for you -- it can sharpen your senses and your mind -- too much stress is bad for your mental and physical health. At the same time, relaxation can do wonders to restore balance in your life -- and may even reduce some of the health risks associated with stress.
WebMD talked to the experts to learn more about relaxation -- and how to attain it. What follows are 10 on-the-spot techniques you can use -- any time and almost anywhere -- to reduce the tension in your life.
1. Meditate
If you're thinking meditation means twisting your body into an uncomfortable position and uttering "oohs" and "omms" for an hour, guess again. Any repetitive action can be a source of meditation, says Herbert Benson, MD, author of The Relaxation Response and director emeritus of Benson-Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine in Chestnut Hill, Mass. This includes walking, swimming, painting, knitting -- any activity that helps keep your attention calmly in the present moment.
When you catch yourself thinking about your job, your relationship or your lifelong to-do list, experts say to simply let the thought escape, and bring your mind back the repetition of the activity. Try it for just 5 to 10 minutes a day and watch stress levels drop.
2. Picture Yourself Relaxed
Is your mind too talkative to meditate? Try creating a peaceful visualization, or "dreamscape." To start, simply visualize anything that keeps your thoughts away from current tensions. It could be a favorite vacation spot, a fantasy island, that penthouse in New York City -- or something "touchable," like the feel of your favorite silk robe or cozy sweater.
The idea is to take your mind off your stress, and replace it with an image that evokes a sense of calm. The more realistic your daydream -- in terms of colors, sights, sounds; even touch and feel -- the more relaxation you'll experience.
3. Breathe Deeply
Feeling stressed evokes tense, shallow breathing, while calm is associated with relaxed breathing, says Michael Lee, author of Turn Stress into Bliss and founder of Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy in Bristol, Vermont. So to turn tension into relaxation, he says, change the way you breathe.
Try this: Let out a big sigh, dropping your chest, and exhaling through gently pursed lips, says Joan Borysenko, PhD, director of Harvard's Mind-Body Clinical Programs. Now imagine your low belly, or center, as a deep, powerful place. Feel your breath coming and going as your mind stays focused there. Inhale, feeling your entire belly, sides and lower back expand. Exhale, sighing again as you drop your chest, and feeling your belly, back and sides contract. Repeat 10 times, relaxing more fully each time.
4. Look Around You
"Mindfulness is the here-and-now approach to living that makes daily life richer and more meaningful," says Claire Michaels Wheeler, MD, PhD, author of 10 Simple Solutions to Stress. It's approaching life like a child, without passing judgment on what occurs. Mindfulness means focusing on one activity at a time, so forget multi-tasking! Staying in the present-tense can help promote relaxation and provide a buffer against anxiety and depression.
Practice it by focusing on your immediate surroundings. If you're outdoors, enjoy the shape and colors of flowers, hear a bird's call or consider a tree. In the mall, look at the details of a dress in the window, examine a piece of jewelry and focus on how it's made, or window-shop for furniture, checking out every detail of pattern and style. As long as you can keep your mind focused on something in the present, stress will take a back seat.
5. Drink Hot Tea
If you're a coffee-guzzler, consider going green. Coffee raises levels of the notorious stress hormone, cortisol, while green tea offers health and beauty, says Nicholas Perricone, MD, author of 7 Secrets to Beauty, Health, and Longevity.
Chamomile tea is a traditional favorite for calming the mind and reducing stress. And black tea may be a stress-fighter, too, researchers from University College London report. Participants who drank regular black tea displayed lower levels of cortisol, and reported feeling calmer during six weeks of stressful situations than those who drank a placebo with the same amount of caffeine
7. Try Self-Massage
When your muscles are tense and you've no time to visit a pro, try this simple self-massage technique from Darrin Zeer, author of Lover's Massage and Office Yoga. Relax, and travel straight to Zen-land.
Place both hands on your shoulders and neck.
Squeeze with your fingers and palms.
Rub vigorously, keeping shoulders relaxed.
Wrap one hand around the other forearm.
Squeeze the muscles with thumb and fingers.
Move up and down from your elbow to fingertips and back again.
Repeat with other arm.
8. Take a Time-Out
Adults need time-outs, too. So when you sense your temper is about to erupt, Jeff Brantley, MD, author of Five Good Minutes In the Evening, suggests finding a quiet place to sit or lie down and put the stressful situation on hold. Take a few deep breaths and concentrate on releasing tension and calming your heartbeat. Quiet your mind and remember: Time is always on your side, so relax. The stress can wait.
9. Try a Musical Detour
Music can calm the heartbeat and soothe the soul, the experts say. So, when the going gets rough, take a musical stress detour by aligning your heartbeat with the slow tempo of a relaxing song. And you might want to make that a classical tune. Research shows that listening to 30 minutes of classical music may produce calming effects equivalent to taking 10 mg of Valium.
10. Take an Attitude Break
Thirty seconds is enough time to shift your heart's rhythm from stressed to relaxed, Rozman says. The way to do that: Engage your heart and your mind in positive thinking. Start by envisioning anything that triggers a positive feeling -- a vision of your child or spouse, the image of your pet, that great piece of jewelry you're saving up to buy, a memento from a vacation -- whatever it is, conjuring up the thought will help slow breathing, relax tense muscles and put a smile on your face. Rozman says that creating a positive emotional attitude can also calm and steady your heart rhythm, contributing to feelings of relaxation and peace.
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My friend committed suicide almost two years ago and I still feel guilty. I am in my senior year of college and I do not want to graduate and I feel guilty whenever I do anything enjoyable that she did not get to do (she died in the middle of her senior year). I feel like I am partly responsible for her death and I do not want to do the things she couldn't. I do not think she would be angry with me now but I still cannot get past the feeling of being partially responsible for what happened. I miss her terribly and I feel like I have not really made any progress in grieving for her, and I'm not sure what to do from here because at this point I feel stuck. Any ideas or support will be helpful because I feel really alone in this, so thank you in advance for your response. (link)
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It's ok to be sad and feel that way...SOMETIMES. It's been quite awhile since that happend. You dont have to take my advice but i say you should try to have fun...when you think about her and it gets in your way just think to yourself that her spirt...your friend it right next to you doing that thing with you....maybe dont do this for everything(bathroom, sex, making out,and other) but you know your friend would not of wanted you to be upset about anything when she was alive. You're friend did that because of something in her live..an in no means did she ever thing it might mess with her loved ones. Maybe i'm helping by now? You should allow yourself to have fun and do great and awesome things without feeling sad. No one wants that on their friend and she didnt men for this to mess with you that bad. She'll always be with you in your heart. Dont feel guilty that you she did and feel happy that you've made it as far as you've gotten. Life is a journey and play it as it is dont let something stop you from following your dreams. I bet your friend is following her dreams somewhere else too! Follow them together!(:
Hope i helped
Your friend,
Lenore
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DO NOT READ PAST THIS POINT IF YOU ARE UNDER 16 PLEASE . I Wanted to know if i'm the only one who has 1.been caught having sex and 2. been embarassed then looked back and found it funny.
So me and my boyfriend went on a romantic stroll and sit on the beach,time passed and we eventually had sex. I hear somebody on the phone saying something like ″Dude this guy is doggy stylin this sexy chick, get down here″ i think nothing of it. surely i miss heard him, right? My BF then goess ″i dont remember streetlights round here″ i look up properly and find out we were infront of some blokes house. Theres now roughly 10 audiance members on the bank cheering. we grab our clothes and run like shit!!
come oon, share your stories!! Tasha (link)
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Love the story! It gave me a good laugh! Quite the rush you must of got that night, eh? Its good that you can look back on things that at the moment were very odd or embarassing. That'll keep you stress free! I've never had anything like this happen to me thought so i dont have a story. LOL xD
Your friend,
Lenore
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As a 22 year old male, I feel ashamed and embarrassed about myself. I don't believe that I have any friends, a hint of a personality, or any redeeming thing about me. I have been fortunate enough to come from a loving, upper-middle class home and have been given many opportunities that most people could only dream of, so it makes me feel even worse that, despite these fortunate circumstances, I am still talent-less, useless, and friendless. If I were to god-forbid pass away tomorrow, people (other than relatives) would only come to my funeral if they feel obligated, not because I had any true impact on anybody other than my family. I don't know how I can improve my personality when I don't believe that I have much of one, and I'm not sure how to make friends or connections when I don't feel that I have any interests or abilities. How do I make something out of nothing (personality, talents)? (link)
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I know how you feel. I think everyone feels a little worthless sometimes.I know I do. You might not have a lot of friends or any but that doesn't mean you have people that will care. Personality isn't everything...sometimes people just have too much...in your case maybe too little? Nothing you cant fix.
Maybe you can start collecting something, stamps,snaple tea bottle caps(have interesting facts on the inside top..pretty cool). When i have this problem i got a kitten and name it and i take care of it and love on it. Maybe if you like animals you could get a trutle, dog, cat, bird,lizzard,snake, chicken, duck, or other and take care of it..that way you know something cares for you as much as you care for it...it makes you happy and you make it happy!
Maybe you could go to a club, park, bowling alley, starbucks, mall, store, cool hangout, and meet people and get more friends.
Get online and look up hobbies or cool things to do on free time to take stress off of you! Thats what the internet is somewhat here for! LOL
I hope i helped and good luck!(:
your friend Lenore.
p.s. sorry i typed so much..i just want to help.
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what age did you lose your virginity and how should I be. Don't worry I am not an judge mental person.I am a female and 12 about to be 13 on may 21. (link)
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I'm 16, still a virgin and happy for it. No need to rush it. You're only 13 or about to be =P Dont let some guy tell you he loves you just for sex. You might think you're ready but you really dont want to risk being with child for 9 month and upseting your family. Wait till you're older...college or maybe last year of highschool...i know if seems like a great fun thing..but i've read it's painful the fun time and everyone regrets it because they didnt really love the guy..they just had sex..not making love...you need to be able to call it making love before you do it...REALLY love the guy and know hes the one! Hope i helped!
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