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Should I commit a crime so I can be sent to the same jail as my sister?
my sister who is 22 went to jail for a year for fraud related charges. If I commit the same crime what is the likelihood I will be sent to the same place? I don't want her to be all alone in there. I am 18 year old and female as well. Also, it is a non violent crime and only a year so it doesn't seem too bad
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Hello,
Firstly DONT COMMIT ANY CRIMES!!!!!!! You will not end up in the same jail chances are 50 50. Second it doesnt matter the crime because it will end up in your record and if you want a nice decent job they will decline you. Think about this ok. Your sister knows what she did ok so why dont you try talking to her through the prison phone. You can pay for it. Hope this helped
Love, Penguin
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Dont do that, you're 18 you have a life to live. You're sister did something wrong and she needs to make the time not you! Dont do something to get you into jail..they arnt going to put you guys together..it'd be pointless and you will regret it for life!!! If you didn't think a year was long then your sister will be fine. Dont risk messing up your life just for her. I know a sister is sister and you guy might be tight..but i dont think your sister would be very happy if you got in jail for doing the same thing. Write her letters, visit, and pray shes ok. Hope this all helped you decide not to do it! Good luck!
Your friend,
Lenore
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first she might be in the youth wing and thats not so bad..your sister did something wrong shes doing the time so maybe shel learn.girl if u did go to jail theres a big chance theyl separate you so u wont be in same win.prisons not so bad as long. as sge keeps her head down.send her letters and money for sm6kes and visit her !be glad shes not from down here in nz where smoking was taken as a right from prisoners that sucks!
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Well there's a sort of logic there I suppose. But really, if I found you stuck in a hole what would you rather I do? Jump in and get stuck in it with you, to keep you company? Or get a rope and help you out? A year's not long at all. She'll be needing you soon enough. You be ready on the outside with your rope mate. That's the thought that'll be keeping her spirits up on the darker days.
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While it's very decent of you to want to help your sister, there are much, much better ways to go about it. There are a number of problems with the idea of committing a crime so that you can become her cellmate.
(1) It's wrong. In order to make this work, you would have to commit a crime against an innocent person. Your concern for your sister does not give you the right to do that.
(2) You're assuming that whomever is the victim of your crime will simply call the police and have you arrested. But not everyone responds calmly and reasonably when someone else commits a crime against them. Suppose they decide instead to break your legs, or just shoot you?
(3) You don't get to choose the length of your sentence or which jail you go to. You could easily be sent to an entirely different jail, perhaps for five years instead of one. That won't help your sister one bit.
(4) It will hurt her more than it will help her. How is she going to feel when she learns you became a criminal just to keep her company? She has enough problems without also feeling guilty about you sacrificing a year out of your life and acquiring a criminal record for her sake.
(5) A year in jail IS a bad thing, even if it's a nonviolent crime. And this is a very bad time in your life to spend a year in jail; at the age of 18, you're right in the middle of your transition into adulthood. This is the time to get education and/or start working, not to lose a year behind bars.
Here's how you CAN help your sister: be her unbreakable link to the outside. Send her letters frequently and visit whenever you can. Be encouraging and upbeat when you see her. Bring her gifts, if it is allowed (certain items should be permitted; check the rules of the facility she's in). If her friends and family are turning their backs on her, stick up for her and try to keep her support network together; she'll need it when she gets out.
Let her know that you love her and you're with her always in spirit. And when she's released, be there to welcome her with open arms.
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Non-violent or not, it will still be on your record.
Fraud charges may be classified as a felony or misdemeanor. State laws typically take into account the amount of money involved and damages caused in the fraudulent schemes. Thus, regardless, will make your future much more difficult to live with. You may not be capable of finding a proper job to take care of yourself, or if you decide later on, to take care of your child(ren), or even your sister. I understand, it's painful seeing someone you care about stuck in such a place, *my twin ended up going to jail* and honestly, I had considered going with her, but in the end, it would of only hurt her more than made her happy. I understand, you want to be with your big sister, but you don't want her to hurt and hate herself, because in the end, she will blame herself for your future. Don't put that burden or pain on her.
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