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suicidal thoughts: 57 and just want the pain to stop
I went through a divorce, lost my home, lost my job, and declared bankruptcy in the last year. I am 57 and feel totally hopeless. I am on medication but I don't think it is helping. I am suicidal but haven't act ed on it. Deep down I know I don't want to die; I just want the pain to stop.!! Any suggestions please?
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My mum - is 40.
is going through exactly the same - suicidal but still not wanting to die deep down, because she has us (kids).
We are broke.
From my perspective - We live off out friends and happiness. we are supported and just need to keep your head up and keep in there.
Things are going to get better. If you have over come suicidal thoughts, you are strong enough to go through anything - My mum told me that.
If you can't go through the problem, go around it.
The Outcome will be the same, the journey will be different.
Stay strong.
Keep your head up x
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I think the others had some really great advice, i guess i would just like to add to it. If you don't think the medication is working, try something different. Asking for help is one of the bravest things anyone can do! I know this may be an obvious thing to say but try to get a new job, even one that you like. Stay close to any friends and family that you have. With there love you may see things more clearly.Its a new year and anything is possible when you set your mind to it. Never give up hope.
Wishing you the best of luck,
Katie
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Do not think about things that you don't like. You should always think happy thoughts if you are mad and have nothing to do. I know you will make the right Choice because I believe in you
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IF you are feeling actively suicidal then you need to get professional help. Suicide and suicidal ideation are the outward effects of depression. Depression, clinical depression, is generally caused by stress. From what you have written you have more than enough stress to deal with in the past year.
What I would like you to do is pick up the phone and call 911 so help can be sent to you. Don't worry about the medical bills as you will be taken to a hospital emergency room where you will be evaluated and treated. The Emergency rooms treat first and worry about payments later. There are many programs available to cover the cost.
Another phone call you could make is to the National Suicide prevention hotline. No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.
Depression hurts I know I've been there; it doesn't have too. The medication you are on may not be the right medication for you. Not all first choice medications the doctors choose always work. You can always go back to the doctor for a change in medications. Though if you are feeling suicidal now help is as close as your phone. Please either call 911 and tell the call taker you fell suicidal and let them send help to you. Or call the Suicide Prevention Hotline. Doing one or the other will make you feel better real soon.
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I got this off of a grat site. I feel like your problem is you're under A LOT of stress. Isn't almost everyone? You're is quite the situation that isnt very lucky. I feel bad for you that is why i'm going to help you or atleast try to! :D
I know this is A LOT to read but I do thing it'll help you. Best of luck!!!
Your Friend,
Lenore
Naturally Quick Relaxation Techniques
By Justin Williamson | Stress | Unrated
Goes without saying, our modern lifestyle accompanies lots of stress and agony. The sweet gadgets and comfortable amenities that we all carve to achieve arrive at a bitter cost. The fact of the matter is that our carvings do not have a definite end nor is our daily routine relaxing enough to offer us some comfort.
Most of us are seen so absorbed with our chaotic lifestyle that we end up paying little heed to the factors that can offer us some relief from the ever growing stress. The irony lies in the fact that most of aren’t even aware about the relaxation techniques available out there.
As such, there are plenty of natural relaxation techniques that can be adapted by people of all ages. Relaxation means getting rid of all our worries in life in order to regain the lost zeal and energy to make the most of our lives. Let’s have a look at some of the naturally quick relaxation techniques.
Your best bet over here would be to indulge in pleasurable activities. It could be your favorite pastime hobby such as reading books, listening to music, collecting some unique materials, writing, painting and so on. Our hobbies offer us great relaxation as we tend to express ourselves the best through our favorite pastime activities in life.
It’s important for you to recharge yourself from time to time. Your mind and body requires rest in periodic intervals. Sometimes, having good sleep can do wonders. On the other hand, neglecting good sleep for a prolonged period of time can backfire. So, sleep well to feel extremely relaxed when you wake up the next morning.
Meditation is a good relaxation technique that you can incorporate in your life since it’s extremely easy to perform. All you need to do is find a quiet place and sit down in an erect position with your eyes closed. Focus your mind on breathing while inhaling and exhaling. You will find great peace from this activity.
Having a hot water shower can relax your mind and body as well. A good shower is an instant relaxation technique that can curb the flow of stressful thoughts from your mind. If you prefer cold water, then have a shower with cold water.
Tea addicts can find great relief by drinking chamomile tea. Reports suggest that chamomile tea has a relaxing effect on our nerves. So, treat yourself with this herbal tea! Make sure that you avoid tea that contains caffeine as it can worsen your condition.
How about going out for a walk? Walk past the lane and enjoy Mother Nature and chirping birds all along the way. If you are a nature lover, you are sure to get lost in the natural beauty of the Earth, thereby helping yourself feel relaxed.
By Jenny Stamos Kovacs
WebMD Feature
Reviewed by Renee A. Alli, MD
The kids need a ride to school, your husband can't find his shorts, your boss has just scheduled an online meeting, and your best friend desperately needs your help -- all at the same time.
Is it any wonder that you can't find a minute for relaxation? In fact, if you're like most women, you may have even forgotten how to relax.
And though experts say that some stress is good for you -- it can sharpen your senses and your mind -- too much stress is bad for your mental and physical health. At the same time, relaxation can do wonders to restore balance in your life -- and may even reduce some of the health risks associated with stress.
WebMD talked to the experts to learn more about relaxation -- and how to attain it. What follows are 10 on-the-spot techniques you can use -- any time and almost anywhere -- to reduce the tension in your life.
1. Meditate
If you're thinking meditation means twisting your body into an uncomfortable position and uttering "oohs" and "omms" for an hour, guess again. Any repetitive action can be a source of meditation, says Herbert Benson, MD, author of The Relaxation Response and director emeritus of Benson-Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine in Chestnut Hill, Mass. This includes walking, swimming, painting, knitting -- any activity that helps keep your attention calmly in the present moment.
When you catch yourself thinking about your job, your relationship or your lifelong to-do list, experts say to simply let the thought escape, and bring your mind back the repetition of the activity. Try it for just 5 to 10 minutes a day and watch stress levels drop.
2. Picture Yourself Relaxed
Is your mind too talkative to meditate? Try creating a peaceful visualization, or "dreamscape." To start, simply visualize anything that keeps your thoughts away from current tensions. It could be a favorite vacation spot, a fantasy island, that penthouse in New York City -- or something "touchable," like the feel of your favorite silk robe or cozy sweater.
The idea is to take your mind off your stress, and replace it with an image that evokes a sense of calm. The more realistic your daydream -- in terms of colors, sights, sounds; even touch and feel -- the more relaxation you'll experience.
3. Breathe Deeply
Feeling stressed evokes tense, shallow breathing, while calm is associated with relaxed breathing, says Michael Lee, author of Turn Stress into Bliss and founder of Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy in Bristol, Vermont. So to turn tension into relaxation, he says, change the way you breathe.
Try this: Let out a big sigh, dropping your chest, and exhaling through gently pursed lips, says Joan Borysenko, PhD, director of Harvard's Mind-Body Clinical Programs. Now imagine your low belly, or center, as a deep, powerful place. Feel your breath coming and going as your mind stays focused there. Inhale, feeling your entire belly, sides and lower back expand. Exhale, sighing again as you drop your chest, and feeling your belly, back and sides contract. Repeat 10 times, relaxing more fully each time.
4. Look Around You
"Mindfulness is the here-and-now approach to living that makes daily life richer and more meaningful," says Claire Michaels Wheeler, MD, PhD, author of 10 Simple Solutions to Stress. It's approaching life like a child, without passing judgment on what occurs. Mindfulness means focusing on one activity at a time, so forget multi-tasking! Staying in the present-tense can help promote relaxation and provide a buffer against anxiety and depression.
Practice it by focusing on your immediate surroundings. If you're outdoors, enjoy the shape and colors of flowers, hear a bird's call or consider a tree. In the mall, look at the details of a dress in the window, examine a piece of jewelry and focus on how it's made, or window-shop for furniture, checking out every detail of pattern and style. As long as you can keep your mind focused on something in the present, stress will take a back seat.
5. Drink Hot Tea
If you're a coffee-guzzler, consider going green. Coffee raises levels of the notorious stress hormone, cortisol, while green tea offers health and beauty, says Nicholas Perricone, MD, author of 7 Secrets to Beauty, Health, and Longevity.
Chamomile tea is a traditional favorite for calming the mind and reducing stress. And black tea may be a stress-fighter, too, researchers from University College London report. Participants who drank regular black tea displayed lower levels of cortisol, and reported feeling calmer during six weeks of stressful situations than those who drank a placebo with the same amount of caffeine
7. Try Self-Massage
When your muscles are tense and you've no time to visit a pro, try this simple self-massage technique from Darrin Zeer, author of Lover's Massage and Office Yoga. Relax, and travel straight to Zen-land.
Place both hands on your shoulders and neck.
Squeeze with your fingers and palms.
Rub vigorously, keeping shoulders relaxed.
Wrap one hand around the other forearm.
Squeeze the muscles with thumb and fingers.
Move up and down from your elbow to fingertips and back again.
Repeat with other arm.
8. Take a Time-Out
Adults need time-outs, too. So when you sense your temper is about to erupt, Jeff Brantley, MD, author of Five Good Minutes In the Evening, suggests finding a quiet place to sit or lie down and put the stressful situation on hold. Take a few deep breaths and concentrate on releasing tension and calming your heartbeat. Quiet your mind and remember: Time is always on your side, so relax. The stress can wait.
9. Try a Musical Detour
Music can calm the heartbeat and soothe the soul, the experts say. So, when the going gets rough, take a musical stress detour by aligning your heartbeat with the slow tempo of a relaxing song. And you might want to make that a classical tune. Research shows that listening to 30 minutes of classical music may produce calming effects equivalent to taking 10 mg of Valium.
10. Take an Attitude Break
Thirty seconds is enough time to shift your heart's rhythm from stressed to relaxed, Rozman says. The way to do that: Engage your heart and your mind in positive thinking. Start by envisioning anything that triggers a positive feeling -- a vision of your child or spouse, the image of your pet, that great piece of jewelry you're saving up to buy, a memento from a vacation -- whatever it is, conjuring up the thought will help slow breathing, relax tense muscles and put a smile on your face. Rozman says that creating a positive emotional attitude can also calm and steady your heart rhythm, contributing to feelings of relaxation and peace.
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