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How to win her heart
I met this girl and really liked her, but held back telling her for a few months. I finally summoned the courage to ask her out. She said yes and we went to the circus. Then I asked her out again and we went for ice cream. I had a really great time and told her, but played it cool for a couple weeks. I didn't want to come on too strong. Then, I hear she decided to go back to her jerk of a ex. A few weeks went by and then she broke it off with her ex again. So I started talking to her again and then wrote her a poem which she told me she really liked. A week later I asked her out again. She said yes, but on the day of said she couldn't go - I found out later she was talking to her ex again. A couple weeks later, she says it's definitely over between her and her ex. I had been wanting to tell her for about 6 months that I really liked her, but I told myself to be patient - she needs time to get over this jerk of an ex. Two weeks later, she had gone back to college and we were communicating by phone. Then I heard from mutual friends that she is talking to her ex again and I couldn't take it. I got worried I had waited too long. So I made an unannounced visit to see her - about two hours away. Everyone said it would be sweet and that I should go for it. I arrived, saw her car in the parking lot, parked next to her car and asked myself if I was doing the right thing. Two girls walked by and I asked them what to do. They said I should tell her how I feel, she's just confused. After waiting for 30 minutes, I thought to leave, but then she showed up. She smiled and hugged me when I greeted her and told me she'd meet me after classes. I said okay and cleared my day. When her classes were over, she said she had appointments. I asked her to be honest, so she said that her boyfriend wouldn't like it if she was hanging out with me. I said okay, I respect her decision, but thought it was wrong. I told her I want her to be happy and that I didn't like it when her boyfriend would make her cry. I told her I think she deserves infinitely better and that the guy that wants what she wants is right under her nose. She told me, this time her boyfriend really IS going to change. I told her she's really important to me and that I'd like to get to know her much better. I said all this as I walked her to her dorm. We got to the door, I asked for a hug, she reached for me and I picked her up. I put her down, but still held her - our heads came together and she was smiling so I looked her in the eye and asked her to reconsider - to at least think about it. She promised she would. I gave her a kiss on the cheek and she smiled. Then I left, but when I got home I received a text that she doesn't want to have any contact with me anymore. Then her parents called and yelled at me that I'm a stalker and they're calling the police, that she's too young to be interested in me (she's 20, I'm 26). According to her father, she only hugged me because she was scared of what else I'd do to her. I calmly said I'm sorry you feel that way to them. Nothing happened since. A week later, she broke up with her ex - for good this time according to people I spoke to. Her friend called me twice since then, but I ignored the messages. I heard her voice on another voice message, but I deleted it. She said she didn't want to talk to me, so I've not contacted her in any way because I respect her. It hurts because I'd like to be with her no matter what, but I don't know what to do. I can't believe everything blew up in my face the way it did. It's clear my timing was worse than bad. Has anyone been in a similar situation? The only thing I'm doing is living, praying that if I give it time everything will work out. Let me know if you think I should do anything else, and what. Thanks.
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You really like her but first you need to go talk to her parents in a calm and nice way how you feel about her and tell them age does not matter but what matter's is that she is happy. Then if she got dumped again and her parents let you date her you should ask her again and tell her the truth how you feel and how her parents think about you and her.
Ps. Do not freak out and always stay calm and Good luck
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That was all very sweet of you to have done that. She is an ADULT she 20 and you're one too. Her parents were wrong of doing that and she was very wrong of leading you on. I offten think to myself when we always go back to the ones that hurt us. Its because we felt something..but what did we really feel? If they hurt us and lied to us that many times why should we still love/like them. I do say you must move on. You've done the right think of stopping contact. You've now seen what her and her parents are capable of. Very rude of them...you now must as we say "go find that other fish in the sea" ..there are many...trust me! if you found a girl that special and treated you like that then you WILL find a girl that special again that treats you even bettter!!!!! I do feel you need to move on though..i know it's hard...i've been there. It's damn not right either. But thats what happends. You'll be find..take things at your own speed..but dont talk to her anymore, not even her friend, all they want now if more stuff on you and information. Stop all contact and move on....i hope i helped.
Your friend,
Lenore
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She is hung up on old baggage. Not only did she back stab you more then once but she is not being honest with you or how she feels. In a blunt honesty, she is immature drama and you are wasting your time with her. If she was into you then she would of stuck with you. Truth be told the younger generation is immature. You want a real relationship then you need to leave her alone and move the hell on.
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