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Q: I taking trigestril pills should I break after finishing one pack or should I continue another immediately after finishing one pack even if my period don't start

For birth control, you take the whole pack and then start the new one when you are done. There should be some placebo (sugar pills) that you take after all the regular ones. Some people choose to skip these and start the next pack or just wait those couple of days to start the new pack. I would take those pills though they actually have the nutrients and iron you need for when you have your period during that time.

Q: My boyfriend just went to Mexico for 10 days to visit family. He said it will be hard to contact me with his cell service not working out there. We knew we werent going to talk to each other for 10 days. So he leaves and I see location activity on Facebook which basically tells me he is not in Mexico to my understanding. Now him and his dad own a business so maybe be left his phone with the dad. The thing I don't understand is active FB activity. Why would anyone else be on his FB? He contacted me mid trip on FB messenger to say hi. Telling me it was hard to get on wifi because it was slow. I wanna believe him but his traveling mobile activity on FB is making me very questionable. Why should he go out of his way to lie to me? Maybe I am overacting? What do you think? I don't know how to feel right now. Freaking out over FB seems silly but I don't know. :(

Female age 32

If you guys have good communication and honesty in your relationship you should be able to tell him what is bothering you. And it's not overreacting at all. We live in a world where cheating is beyond easier than it use to be. Social Media actually being the reason why. So if something like this sends a red flag don't let it go and don't let them build up over and over.

Q: So I will be right to the point of this. A really close friend of mine is becoming a drug addict. It started with marijuana which is not considered necessarily dangerous in the environment we are in, it is legal in the country, but now because of the partying and drinking he's doing every day to forget about his problems , it is turning to cocaine, ecstasy, etc all party drugs because he has thrown himself into the scene.

To him, he's just having fun, his friends do it, he is in denial that there's a problem.

This started from a bad marriage, he married a girl because she was pregnant, which is never a good reason, they have a beautiful two year old together. But because of his smoking MJ his wife began doing all the things you shouldn't do. Nag, attack him, try to control him. In turn he turned to partying to get away, that caused more problems and he lost his job, started eating into savings until they had to separate, now they are getting a divorce. She is asking for money. All the time, she has become very nasty telling all their friends he's a drug addict turning people against him. It's a big mess. He started partying more and using more drugs.

Now his parents are very worried because he has used up in the last year that this has been getting worse all of his savings. They invested to help him start a business, it did not work out. They are helping him financially but he has a horrible attitude of complete denial and snapping back at anyone that tries to tel him he might have a problem.

Now his parents have even become as desperate as to call me to ask for advice. My own opinion is that one has to hit rock bottom before they start realizing they have a problem. When everyone has tried to help and they keep in denial it's extremely difficult to reach them. The parents have passed that point. I haven't. Not once have I treated him like he has a problem because I know once the person has a block against what you are going to say to them they stop listening. So I don't know what to tell his parents. What can they do, if he refuses to awknowledge that hes not well.

Anybody have experience with this? How do we help him? I am out of ideas. The good thing is I think he is open to what I have to say to him, but not if I start with the fact he has a problem.

Help!!

- Concerned Friend

Your friend needs help and the truth is no matter how much you support and be there for this person, it isn't going to change. Addiction is more than just the drug, it's a part of the mind that makes you crave these things. An empty space you try to fill. A brokenness that makes you feel whole. The truth is, you and his parents can't help. He needs to go to some sort of rehab or be cut completely off. My mother was addict, my sister is an addict, and my ex-best friend was an addict. And I can tell you there was always a reason for it, mentally. So rehab can help especially if therapy is involved too. If he isn't willing to go. There are other options. Put his ass in jail, to be honest, they can MAKE him go.

Q: Hello I'm 14 and I have a problem. There is a girl I like but she is dating a junior but in a way I think she also likes me. She's been single before and she's dropped hints but I am always too scared to ask. On the last day of school she kept calling me dads cuz her boyfriend wasn't around and held on my shoulder if she is single should I go for it?

If and when she is single if you still feel like you have some sort of a chance with her....why not?

Q: Female, 15

Hey, so my parents are divorced, and have been for about 8 years.
My mother doesn't seem ok. She doesn't have a full time job, and hasn't for about 2 years. However, she works at a supermarket about 3-4 times a week for about 4 hrs each time.

She is currently doing an online course, which seems to be taking her about 2 years. She is a bit of a perfectionist, so it takes her a bit longer than expected to submit work in, but she recieves really good marks for her hard work. She studies a lot during the days.

She does most of the house chores, but she has been complaining a lot recently saying that she would like more help with things like vacuum cleaning, washing clothes, packing the dishwasher, etc. I am trying to help now but my brother hasn't really been doing much. The thing is, she seems to be complaining a lot, and I am starting to think that maybe it's something else.

We never seem to go on vacations, or even out for dinner or something. Because we can't really afford to. I want her to do things for herself, she seems to be stressed a lot, with finances and what she's going to do job wise after this course. She seems to be very stressed about this course as well, saying that she'll never get it done and stuff like that. I am worried about her. I asked her if she's ok and she said that she doesn't think she is and then she walked out of the room. She reads a lot about life and how to make the most out of it and love yourself and things like that.

I am worried about her. Is there something I can do to help her? She can be happy, but just recently she seems to be stressed often. I am thinking of getting a part time job and saving up for her to go to a spa resort or something like that. What do you think?

One.) let me say how refreshing it is to here a kid worry about their parent for once instead of focusing on their own drama. Also while mentioning this as a person who grew up parenting her parents remember to not baby your parent.

ANYWAY. Lol. Your mom sounds like she feels stuck and lost. Not to mention she probably doesn't feel like a great mom because when money is tight parents tend to feel a bit broken because they can't give their children the things she wants. Not only that but she is working and going to school which is probably stressing enough as it is.

I love your idea of getting a part time job and the fact that you are trying to help her out more. lET YOUR BROTHER KNOW HE SHOULD TO! Sit him down and explain to him, straight up that he needs to help out a bit more. Don't sound naggy or pushy. Just let him know you can tell your mom is going through a tough time and you are honestly worried about her and need his help.

I love the spa idea or even save up to send her to get a haircut or her nails done. Something as small as a haircut or a fresh manicure can make someone feel great.

Just try to be there for her, obviously not as a friend, but her daughter. Let her know you love her at random times and just show her as much appreciation and gratitude as you can.

Q: Why do girls care about eyebrows so much? If I like a girl, then I ain't gonna judge her by her eyebrows (unless she has a unibrow or unless she has "trendy" recent ones that look like they've been drawn on their face). Why do think that when they have eyebrows that look like they've been drawn on, that people will find them more attractive? It's like they're trying to avoid their eyebrows looking like they're made out of hair. I don't know 1 guy who'd care about their eyebrows. Girls also feel the need to colour them in. It's worse when they have,say,ginger hair, so obviously they're eyebrows should be ginger but when you see them they're black. And when they get their eyebrows done they're all like "Ooh, look at my natural look!" It doesn't look natural at all! Why do they feel the need to change their eyebrows? I used to never notice eyebrows but due to all the trends recently they're hard to miss.

It's a trend makeup thing. Really it's just another competitive thing between women and a way to differ us from each other. But I myself like a pair of Nice eyebrows on a man or woman because they are a huge part of your facial features. Imagine all your crushes celeb wise and etc with no eyebrows just straight eyes and a nose. A pair of good eyebrows can actually enhance the beauty in someone's face and a not so good pair can make some one look sloppy or ungroomed

Q: Hi I'm Jay, so I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now, he's 18 and I'm 16 and I don't know if it's me but I just have a small feeling my boyfriend is little bit too controlling. He always tells me that I'm a child and that I act grown and if i joke around and say he's a child too he gets a bit defensive and claims he's not a child and that's he's grown. Whenever I might express something or do something he doesn't do or agree with he tells me i need to get it together, and i feel it's like his line for me like he tells me this more than he says he loves me but i know he does, and he says it as if i dont have my life in one piece and i do and for some reason he finds it necessary to tell me that more than once weekly that i dont have it together. I dont know if that's considered controlling at all. But another thing when it comes to us like having sex or anything sexual he likes it when i call him daddy and i don't really mind it, but sometimes when he asks me to do something and i say no he'll be like i seem to be forgetting who daddy is in the relationship and that its not me it's him. I feel like he shouldn't bring that into everyday things because i feel like he's using it over me in the wrong way and situations. So is he controlling or am I overreacting? Any advice is helpful.

Honestly he might not feel like he is bUT he is technically degrading you. Making you feel inferior. He is your typical "alpha male", dominant guy. He sees it his way or the high way. You should talk to him let him know he makes you feel bad about youself when he says these things and that he has to work on compromising. My only warning is to not expect a complete change. Take pride in his small compromises and moments he makes you feel appreciated. If he gets worse or you aren't seeing any change, start looking for someone who sees you as your equal not their companion

Q: I am a 24year girl with poly cystic ovarian syndrome. I got diagnosed when i was 17years old. Commensement of my menarch was normal but after 2-3years irragularity took place. I do not get my periods more than 5-6months. Doctors do not want to operate as i am unmarried. I have severe hirsutism, obesity, drowsiness e.t.c. my problem is i feel so mascuiline. I feel like i am infertile. So whenever i hear my mother or other girls around me menstruating i get angry and envious. No matter how much feminine i try to make myself in deep inside i feel this disoriented gender. PCOS is tormenting me more psychological than physical. Please help.

I have PCOS also. And I got the opposite symptoms. I had my period for a month and a half. To the point they put me on pills to stop it. You shouldn't be jealous of people getting their period the truth is having PCOS means having a kid is difficult whether you get a period or not. I agree it makes you feel masculine. Weight in all the wrong places. Body hair grows rapidly, and is also in wrong places. And if you got the bad skin part like I did you're embarrassed to leave the house without makeup or even your room. And also some of us get terrible cramps. So bad. I can't explain it. My question is have you tried going on birth control? I am on Celexa and it helps with my hormones. And honestly dieting and exercise DOES help PCOS alot. Honestly good luck and don't be scared to inbox me. Don't let this make you think your less of a woman, I get it. And you're not, a lot more women suffer from this then you think

Q: As well as other meet & fuck websites & zoosk. We've been together over 3 years & I love him so much idk what to do. His family means more to me than my own, & I really can't see him cheating. Do you think it's possible he could be part of these websites without actually going though with it?

I\'m very straightforward when it comes to relationships but this advice all depends on your relationship. You could just ask him be like I found out your on there and I want to know why, that\'s what I would do. BUT if you\'re afraid to confront him you can look closer into his profiles and see if there has been any current activity in your relationship, if yes... then you\'re going to have to say something.

Q: Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do?

My parents were really against me dating too (more of a double standard thing) but once you hit 18 it\'s your choice. You\'re an adult. I would try talking to your mom first. Woman to woman, tell her how long you\'ve been dating and that it has effected your priorities and that you love him and would like if you guys met him and could invite him to dinner. And see where it goes from there.

Q: So, this weekend just gone I had sex with a guy. Him and his girlfriend were split up at the time and he said they weren't getting back together so I didn't see much of a problem. But the next day he said they sorted things out but he didn't tell her about me and him.

I'm really not comfortable about this as I'm friends with alot of her friends so I'm gunna see her about alot and I hate keeping secrets and lying.
I've tried persuading him, but said I won't say a word until he says something to her 'cause she should really hear it from him not me or someone else. But this also means I can't talk to any of my friends about it, which sucks.
He won't tell her though as she has alot of family problems at the moment and doesn't think she'd be able to handle it and isn't sure what she'd do (guessing he means self harm etc).

Some sort of help would be great as I'm really not keen on this situation and can't chat to anyone! Thank you!

If he really wasn\'t with her when you two had sex he didn\'t cheat on her and he isn\'t obligated really to tell her nor are you because that means you are just inserting yourself into a dramatic situation. For all he knows his girlfriend could have been with someone else why they weren\'t together too. So I would just mind your business especially if it\'s going to contribute to issues to her mental health. And if any of your mutual friends are really your friends you should be able to talk to them (not saying you have to tell every single one of them just the ones you are very close with) without them telling her.

Q: well first i'm 23 and he's only 20. i walked away from my ex because he was being extremely needy and i just needed space at the time being that i had a full time job and going to school full time, i was just exhausted and he didn't really help. anyway, when i left he pretty much said that i treated him like crap the whole time (which is pretty true) and he was through. so i just said "ok, sorry you feel that way bye!" and left it at that. well i'm not a fan of social media but my friend said that i should get on twitter and see this page he made that deals with thoughts/quotes/advice on chivalry and such. well i did and it broke my heart because everything he post is about me. even on my birthday when we weren't talking he said happy birthday. but all the quotes are talking about how much he misses me yet he has me completely blocked. i tried calling through *67 but he answered and hung up and won't answer again. i really regret the way i treated him but he won't give me the chance to apologize and make it work, what do i do? :/ i'm in college so i live in a different state right now so i can't just show up and be like heyyyy.

Like pretty much everything all the other advicenators have said think about what you are going to say. If you can text him or even call and leave voicemail say what you have to. Apologize for things you\'ve done. Tell him you want to make it work. But only if that\'s really what you want, be certain you really do want to be with him and you\'re going to change because if someone treats me like crap i don\'t give damn if they buy me a bmw and leave 1000 voicemails, they better come back intent on treating me right. So if you think you can make it work and you\'re going to try to change your ways for him. Go for it. leave that voicemail. send those texts. and hopefully everything works out.

Q: I'm a lesbian, and i'm always getting used by my straight friend. She is always dirty texting me, and touching herself when she's talking to me, but she says that only i turn her on and she wouldn't date me because she doesn't want to be a lesbian. She has a boyfriend, yet she comes to me when it comes to pleasure. I love her as a best friend, maybe more, but only if she accepted. But, it seems like lately, all we've been doing is "making love" and she doesn't even love me.
Is she gay? Why is she using me like this? When she asks me to turn her on, etc, she tell me to "Make love" to her. Does that mean she loves me? because she normally says sex, unless she's talking about me. We've never actually done it, but we talk and touch ourselves.

I mean she\'s obviously not straight. Her sexuality isn\'t important, really the problem is her using you. If she has these supposed feelings for you whether she can\'t date you or not why does she have a boyfriend? These are questions you should wonder and ask her. The only advice I could really give you as a woman who has dated women also, ask her straight up what is going on? And if she beats around the bush, no pun intended that make it clear that you guys should only be friends if she can\'t even talk to you about what is going on. But it sounds like something is there.

Q: What is 69 i need help because he wants to do it.

It\'s oral from both ends. It\'s being in a position where you are not only recieving oral sex but giving it. It can be sideways. standing up/hanging upside down, and regular someone on top with someone on bottom. and etc.

Q: Ok so basically...good news!...i have moved up to top set in english!!!(english as in literacy not the language) and for those of you that dont know what sets are. In my school ther are different subjects and for those subjects there are 4 different classes (called sets) and in each one there are about 20-30 people from the same year group. Set 4 is for people who may have a disability or find the subject very difficult. Set 3 is for people who have slightly lower grades than average. Set 2 is just average/normal. And set 1 is the highest set for people who get highest grades in that subject. I am in set 2 for all subjects except religious studies and now english :) i am in set one for both of them. And i really want to stay in top set for english. We have gotten a piece of home learning for english which is to write a diary entry or a newspaper article about the 20th century (its because we have started studying the play "pigmalion") i would be very grateful if someone explained how to get higher grades in writring a diary entry and possibly a newspaper article as well. Thank you.

I mean if you\'re choosing between the two you should pick the one you feel most comfortable. For a writer or someone who is good at stepping in someone else\'s shoes, task a would be more ideal. But if you\'re more of a facts and research person I would go with Task B. If you do end up doing Task A pretty much when you do write it place yourself in that time how you would feel about the things that were going on. And how\'d they effect you. Just imagine it as your life.

Q: I used xasten and my chick is big,and i want my body to be equal ,what must i do.

I\'m sorry I didn\'t understand this question properly , is there anyway you can resend it? I\'m unsure what you mean by \"my chick is big\".

Q: Female
Here is the scoop i have a puppy who is 5 months old
me and my bf live together.
When he was 3months he tried to chew my shoes but i spanked his booty and he hasnt done it since
The thing is Everytime me and my bf go out and we come back there is something chewed up that belongs to my bf but never anything belonging to me
For example
Just last week me and my bf went for a run and we left our shoes lying in the living room night time fell and we awoke to the sound of him biting something and with a doubt it was my bf's sneakers he was chewing on
We had our chargers plugged up to the wall and he chews my bf's charger and yes he knows what sides we sleep on (he always sleeps with me) my question is could a dog have preference ? Or does he feel im more of a master? Or why doesnt he chew on anything that is mine.
Things that might help
The dog is 90% of the time with me because my bf works 12hr shifts
He gets along with my bf fine (except when he destroys his stuff)
He does have chew toys and dog bones and denta stix
If me and my bf both get up at the same time he will choose to follow me instead
Any ideas or thoughts why he does this? Because my bf is starting to hate him :/

sounds like your dog picked a favorite. Dogs have favorite, usually it\'s the person who feeds them most and takes them outside. Your bf needs to spend more time with the dog. Why he chooses his stuff specifically...well dogs have their own personalities so that\'s something only your dog could answer but unless you\'re a dog whisperer i don\'t think you\'ll get an answer.

Q: I'm 23 years old and since I got my period in 6th grade it has always been regularly really irregular. Very rarely was I a 28 day cycle girl, mine would range from 31, 32, 35 back in HS. In college my first 3.5 years I went on BC and that was the only time I had a predictable period.

I went off the second semester of my last year of college because the hormones were just getting to me. I had been on 3 types of BC. For the first year and a half I was on ortho cyclen and that worked well until it was making me really short tempered and extremely depressed, switched off to Yaz and it made me gain some extra weight & changed my personality. I went onto using the generic of Yaz and the pharmacy kept changing the generic brands and my body was super sensitive to the change, I would get headaches from one of the generics and severe anxiety for the other. So basically each month, my body after adjusting to one generic version of pills would have to readjust to another because the pharmacy could not gauruntee me the same generic.

My body had finally just had enough stress and so had I. I hated adjusting to BC pills because it made me feel like I was slowly becoming someone else everytime I took it. I took bc mainly for birth control and for a predictable period. My choices going off were for the benefit of my body being hormone free and helping me feel more clear, more "me".

I knew going off my body would have to adjust to a normal cycle and I anticipated missing periods or even being more irregular than I had been off of BC in the first place. It's been over a year and a half now since I've been off the pill and it has not regulated itself.

Ive talked to my gyno and she pushes BC soley because she doesnt want me to get pregnant. I'm an adult, I'm engaged and in a serious relationship.

So basically my period today is at 39 days since my last period. I took a test and it was negative. I've felt like I was going to get my period like a week and a half ago. I always get pms symptoms 1-2 weeks early and my periods have been ranging from 29-36 days. The longest it's ever been between periods is 56 days. It's just really frustrating and I'm wondering why sometimes it's so outrageously late! I did have a really bad case of the flu the last week of march? Which happened a few weeks after my last period.

I'm just wondering if anyone else's takes a natural approach to their life and also has gone off the BC train for health reasons?
What they do about irregular periods/cycles?

Have you talked to your gyno about maybe seeing if there is a health issue that is effecting your periods like that because if you have an issue health wise you do need specific birth controls. I would even tell the gyno about the way the bcs are making you feel and how they keep switching them at the pharmacies. Because these are things they need to know to help you otherwise they don\'t know much more than you do. I really would just talk to them about that and maybe about different things you could use instead of B.C. because I know a lot of people who used Yaz actually recommended getting the nuvaring afterwards.

Q: I am 17 f and am the fattest in my year, I know for most teenagers being thinner is just a part of anxiety and hormones however I have been told by doctors that if I don't start losing weight soon I am going to have to deal with several health problems when I am older like heart attacks and diabeties. I have been given diet plans by doctors but I just can't stick to them, it's starting to affect my confidence because people are so judgemental. I need a way to convince the rest if my body that it is a time for a change. I need diets that are easy and effective. Because it is not just my physical health that it will be affecting, please help. Thanks

Here\'s the thing when it comes to losing weight and dieting it\'s not suppose to be easy. That\'s the truth the media and all the celebs you see just dropping pounds don\'t tell you. I would start simple. For me I have PCOS which is very hard to lose weight with and very easy to gain weight with. So one thing you should do is go to the doctors and see if anything could be causing your weight issue. It could even be a thyroid problem. But that\'s a big thing because if you have a health issue holding you back, you\'re going to have to work ten times harder to lose weight or at least reach a healthy balance. Once you find out if there is an issue you can take it from there. If there is a problem a doctor might put you on pills or tell you what kind of foods you need to digest. Whether there is a problem or not you need to tell your family that you want to eat healthier and to put healthier things for you in the fridge and cut down your proportions. Drink Tea in the morning and before sleep. Green tea with a lemon wedge always curves my hungers and drink plenty of water throughout the day I have these two gigantic bottles of water I refill over and over and everyone thinks it\'s hilarious that I drink these but drinking that water keeps your body clean and helps a lot with digestion and hunger. don\'t skip breakfast. don\'t skip meals in general. Keep small things around if you think you might. Like a granola bar and a fruit for breakfast because that\'s easy if you have school. Exercise has to happen. it\'s a huge part of losing weight. you need at least 40 mins of exercise per day to really see an impact. and you have 24 hours a day to do that. even if it\'s dancing for an hour. Since you\'re at risk for diabetes, it\'s a huge thing for you to work on sweets intake. if you drink soda, it\'s got to go. Soda not even diet is not good for you. infact diet soda is worse. as a dr pepper lover I can tell you cutting out soda will be the worst. (*cries a little \"I LOVE YOU DR PEPPER\") no reallly it sucked a lot.

Q: Hello i am a 17 year old girl who is having a relationship crisis. I am really good friends with a girl who is one year older than me. We have been friend for quite a while now. I am very nice, loyal and trustworthy. I consider myself a people pleaser because I worry about other peoples happiness then me being happy my self. We are such good friends the we can literally predict on how we will react and what we will say. We care allot about each other that we will call ourselves sisters.

But a few months into our friendship She told me a small lie about her being friends with a spirit named Atem. Even though I did not buy it I told her I believed it just to be nice and for the sake of getting into an argument. I also began to see another side of her... I got to see her need and craving to constantly date someone. If she is single she will be depressed and very emotional. And since I am the phone with her all the time I end up hearing it. i began getting stressed and sad that i could not do anything to help her.

She than said that Atem her (her spirit friend)made a new friend named Nightmare, and she told me he loved me. She would talk to me about how much he loved me. I started to get the idea that she liked me, and began to like her a little.

Later on she made a Facebook and Gaiaonline for him. I ended up seeing him on the internet. I did not know what to think or do about him loving on me on the internet. I then started to have feelings for her. But at the same time i was confused, because she would tell me how much she hated bi/and les people. She would rant about it allot.

She began acting romantic towards me at her house. She would lick, pin and touch me (not in a very sexual way) she told me on the later that "Nightmare" was possessing her. She would do this every single time i visit her. I began to really like her.

I then started to get depressed. It started to hurt seeing her sad about not being with someone, and i am not able to help her. It hurt even worse when i watched her dating someone and hearing how much she loved him. I feel like i am not good enough for her, and it's very hard to hold in all my emotions so she wont know how i feel.

I sometimes consider just stop hanging out with her, but a part of me just cant let go of her because i am horrible at making friends and I don't think I will ever find a good friend like her. I really want to tell her i knew the spirit thing was all a lie and how i feel about her. But I am afraid that she will get mad at me or even worse, hate me.

Its all my fault for believing her little lie. I was just trying to be nice, and I get myself all into this mess. I get so depressed every day to the point were i want to cry and I sometimes wish that I could just sleep my whole life. I cant take it anymore. I am hurting so bad on the inside. I am tired of living a lie. :(

Well for one thing it sounds like your friend has some issues and uses those \"spirits\" as outlets to act on impulses or to tell things that she has buried inside. And even though she says she hates bi/les whatever a lot of homophobics are actually gay. or even bi curious. If you like her say something. See where it goes from there. But you should be careful because it\'s very obvious she has some issues she still needs to work on and when I say that could lead to a bad path, I mean that.

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Hi, thanks for coming to my column.

The name is Diamond but Dia is fine.

20, female, jersey girl at heart. mixed race taurus natured woman.

So...the reason I made this was during the start of my senior year of high school I had reached a point in my life where I didn't want to live anymore. I was tired of fighting and didn't see the reasons to fight. It was a random stranger that made me realize I would be stupid to take my life and to stop fighting.

So if you think I'm going to tell you life gets easier, I'm not. Let's face it, it doesn't get easier. Through pain you get stronger and learn to open your eyes to those things that give you strength to live.

Mine happen to be music, writing, dr. pepper, anime, the color black, the way rain sounds, and an amazing boyfriend. What gives you strength to live?