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Drug Abuse Desesperation
So I will be right to the point of this. A really close friend of mine is becoming a drug addict. It started with marijuana which is not considered necessarily dangerous in the environment we are in, it is legal in the country, but now because of the partying and drinking he's doing every day to forget about his problems , it is turning to cocaine, ecstasy, etc all party drugs because he has thrown himself into the scene.
To him, he's just having fun, his friends do it, he is in denial that there's a problem.
This started from a bad marriage, he married a girl because she was pregnant, which is never a good reason, they have a beautiful two year old together. But because of his smoking MJ his wife began doing all the things you shouldn't do. Nag, attack him, try to control him. In turn he turned to partying to get away, that caused more problems and he lost his job, started eating into savings until they had to separate, now they are getting a divorce. She is asking for money. All the time, she has become very nasty telling all their friends he's a drug addict turning people against him. It's a big mess. He started partying more and using more drugs.
Now his parents are very worried because he has used up in the last year that this has been getting worse all of his savings. They invested to help him start a business, it did not work out. They are helping him financially but he has a horrible attitude of complete denial and snapping back at anyone that tries to tel him he might have a problem.
Now his parents have even become as desperate as to call me to ask for advice. My own opinion is that one has to hit rock bottom before they start realizing they have a problem. When everyone has tried to help and they keep in denial it's extremely difficult to reach them. The parents have passed that point. I haven't. Not once have I treated him like he has a problem because I know once the person has a block against what you are going to say to them they stop listening. So I don't know what to tell his parents. What can they do, if he refuses to awknowledge that hes not well.
Anybody have experience with this? How do we help him? I am out of ideas. The good thing is I think he is open to what I have to say to him, but not if I start with the fact he has a problem.
Help!!
- Concerned Friend
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Your friend needs help and the truth is no matter how much you support and be there for this person, it isn't going to change. Addiction is more than just the drug, it's a part of the mind that makes you crave these things. An empty space you try to fill. A brokenness that makes you feel whole. The truth is, you and his parents can't help. He needs to go to some sort of rehab or be cut completely off. My mother was addict, my sister is an addict, and my ex-best friend was an addict. And I can tell you there was always a reason for it, mentally. So rehab can help especially if therapy is involved too. If he isn't willing to go. There are other options. Put his ass in jail, to be honest, they can MAKE him go.
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