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how do you leave a bad guy that thinks your an option ?
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Another fear in leaving someone like this is because you may deep inside fear that you wont find anything better. You don't owe him any explanations because even if you gave him an explanation, he wouldn't believe that he is the problem or has a problem. The F@$%ked up people are never going to get it. If you get a text or FB message from him, don't answer. If you get a phone call from him, don't answer. He might try hard for quite some time but eventually he will give up.
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It's really hard to leave someone who you really care about. You already realize that he's not a good guy, or at least not a good match for you.
I mean in all honesty, you just have to walk away. But that's easier said than done.
To leave someone, you need to have your mind made up. Realize that this is something you want and something that needs to be done. Stop hesitate or procrastinate because it will make you feel worse about yourself. You don't ever want to feel like an option in a relationship. You deserve to be a priority.
You should probably plan ahead. Don't just jump up and leave him on impulse because of a fight and don't decide to stay with him just because he is acting sweet. Plan it and stick to it.
Then cut the communication and don't let him talk you out of it.
Once it's over, go out and have some fun. Don't go sit alone and cry because you'll probably end up calling him. So go and make yourself feel good.
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First off, identify the whys. There must be a reason why it's hard to let a bad guy go. You're still making him a priority and a quote by Maya Angelou clatifies this "Never make someone your priority when all you are to them is an option." You're going to shatter your own fragile heart in days to come if you keep on reminiscing the sweet memories or hold on to certain promises. This one is hard and excruciatingly painful, but do try stepping into the reality.
What happens next depends on your current option. If you've decided to leave him and you're real about it, your mind will then try to label him as a part of your history but it will take time. No matter how long it takes, if you keep firm to your decision, you will eventually heal. It may take weeks or months but trust yourself, you can go through this. Acknowledge the fact that you've to move on. Neglecting it is no longer an option. Of course there will be some moments where your brain starts to play 'memories' of him or you guys thus weakening you bit by bit but only if you allow it.
Remember, regardless of who you are, your age, your school or background, you're still you. You deserve a better life without anyone destroying it especially someone who takes you for granted.
Good things come to those who wait, and there is always a reason why he's not for you. There are things in life for you to pursue, so pursue them.
Peace be upon you :)
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