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Are my dreams unrealistic?
I know this sounds superficial and snotty have this dream of being wealthy. I don't want to be super rich but I want to have enough money to buy what I want when I want it. I'm also not talking about jets or mansions but things like purses that are a couple hundred dollars or lots of small things like multiple pairs of $6o jeans in one purchase.
It's just like my whole life my dad was really poor and never bought me much of anything to the point that he hasn't seen me in months because he doesn't want to spend the money on gas. He didn't even see me on my 18th birthday and it's been months since then and he's only even called twice.
My mom is okay. She buys me things when I really need them and I give her props for paying for a lot of the work clothes I needed (even if she expects me to pay her back).
I'm just really tired of going to a store and seeing multiple things I like and having to pick just one. For example I went to Bealls and I saw a purse for $30, wallet for $27,necklace for $22,bracelet for $15 and perfume for $30. Well I wound up not getting a single thing because I just couldn't deal with the idea of buying just one thing and I was scared of giving up even $15 at the time. My aunt gave me a $30 gift card for there and I thanked her and acted super happy about it but I got there and realized that wasn't even enough for a single pair of jeans so I still have it unspent because I'm afraid of not having that little bit of money on that giftcard anymore.
It's not like I'm poor but I'm sick of having to save for everything and really stressing over medial amounts of money. Like I saved up money from graduation and other money on the side and bought myself an iPad for a birthday present for myself. I love love love my iPad but now I keep wishing I had that money back (though I would never give up my iPad).
I had $130 from a smartphone I sold and I spent it on a replica chanel purse because I couldn't afford a real one but even the $50 for the replica is hurting because I keep seeing more things I want. Like replica Louis Vuitton sunglasses for $27, a $40 leather Louis Vuitton iPad case, $20 for a replica chanel wallet,$25 for replica Chanel sunglasses. I want to be able to know what it's like to be able to buy things like that and not feel scared about it.
I'm not saying I just want the money given to me. I would do anything to be able to be wealthy but I keep thinking the only way to be wealthy is to marry a wealthy man but wealthy men want sex toys with double D's and I just want a husband that I can truly love and cook for (I love cooking) and take care of the house and such.
Right now I have a job I start Monday making $800 every two weeks but that's not enough to ever get me anywhere in life. I understand I'm only 18 but I'm already tired of feeling the burn of money. It's just so stressful.
My friends say just to forget about meeting a wealthy man who loves me and that I can love back because they only want sex and I'm still a virgin looking to save my first time for somebody special.
Do you think my dreams of being wealthy are stupid and out of line? I don't think it's a bad thing to want to strive for...
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Hi. I live in the UK. The economic climate's as bleak as most have ever known. I gather it's similar in the US? We're all having trouble saving, mainly because the governments can't let us save right now, they need all the money ploughed straight back into the economy to keep us (just about!) afloat. Many are seeing their savings and investments badly eaten away too. At your age, well I don't want to be depressing but it will be a long time before young people get all the advantages of living in a 'well-off' country again. So hey, welcome to the club my friend! You've got a job. More than some can say. So you're on the ladder. Keep at it. Now the REAL things you're talking about. A man who loves you and wants to acquire & maintain a nice home with you. Sitting down to a lovely meal you've cooked together. Sharing laughter, good conversation and love. They're still within our reach. They always will be. You can't buy stuff like that. And treating yourself some lovely designer items, some cool gadgets? You will too from time to time, I'm sure. But the days of easy credit, big salaries plus plenty of prospects and job security? I'm afraid they're gone for a while. You are striving for good things, it's not stupid or out of line. Keep those goals in front of you, keep aiming for them day to day. If you think of your happiness as something in the future, that's where it will always stay. Start now! It is tough right now. But your dream is within reach. Money isn't going to just drop in your lap. Noticed a lot of 'name-dropping' in your wish-list by the way...remember they're supposed to be a bit elitist...that's what makes them desirable. If you're looking fill your home with LV & Chanel WITHOUT a bit of saving-up and then worrying about how much you've spent, you'd better have that DD boob-job and start looking for that lecherous old fat-cat with a Swiss bank account...wave to me from your Ferrari as you pass me by!!
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Becoming wealthy is a very very real possiblity for anyone who is willing to work hard and delay gratification. If you will put off purchasing things that you just want in order to impress others or to "Keep up with the Joneses" you will be able to save more money and pay off all your bills. Sure fire ways to hinder your success at achieving your dream is to have credit cards or to start overdrawing your checkings account which will eat you alive in fees. Check out Dave Ramseys "Baby Steps" or "Money Makeover" He teaches you how to pay off your smallest bills first, then snowball all the money toward your next larger bill and pay them all off. I've been doing following his plan for just over a month now and I've already managed to pay of several old debts and I'm now working on paying off my car. No more credit cards left. I'll never have another credit card and I now have over $2,000 in the bank.... It's not much but it's the most I've had in a savings account since my divorce so I feel really good about it. Good luck!! You can do it!!
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Realistic indeed :-) It's never wrong ! Even someone who was an orphan is now being very rich ! But you need to work for your own dream . There's no shortcut to success ! In the beginning , you might suffer a lot pains and setbacks but in the end , it'll be worth it . Being wealthy and rich is not impossible , in fact nothing is impossible and you need to remember that always ! Don't let yourself down , and trust yourself because it's your life and you are capable to accomplish anything i promise you ^_^
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