I have dealt with many emotional and psychological issues both personally and in my career. I've gone thru emotional, verbal and sexual abuse, severe depression, therapy, emotional hospitalization, sexual addiction diagnosis, divorce and suicidal ideations. So I've been there, I'm a healthy person now and in a healthy relationship. But I've definately learned from the School of Experience and I'd love to be able to help others with the knowledge that all that has brought me. I'm not judgemental but I will be very frank if with my OPINIONS.
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well i have been searching and searching for psychaitrist but i still did not got anything i dont know it is so hard now to get help from anybody cause they taking them time and they dont feel what you feeling plz anyone who no i doctor let me know a professional whos dealing with agrophobia panic disorder plz let me know asap
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www.online-therapy.com Choose agrophobia.
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Hello,
I wanna hv sex wit my virgin g/f how to i convince hr to hv sex with me, Coz i really want it. (link)
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Never ever ever CONVIENCE anyone to have sex with you. If they aren't just as open and willing to participate as you then wait. They will regret it and possibly end up hating you causing you to regret it. If they are ready and willing.... trust me you will know!!!
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Hello! My Name Is Maci And I Recently Started Junior High.
In My Elementary Years, I Played An Instrument And My Family Has Been Really Proud Of My Success. I'm Not Planning (And Never Was) To Go On In My Life Playing That Instrument (Like A Proffesional) And My Family Knows That. But There's A LITTLE Problem..
I Love Singing Even More.
In The Beginning Of The Year, I Did Both (Sang AND Played The Instrument) But I Got Tired Of Doing My P.E. After School So I Just Quit Choir. And I Was In Advanced Chorus, Too!
Well Anyways.. I Want To Go Into Choir Instead Of Me Playing My Instrument. I Enjoy Playing That Instrument, But Honestly I'm Getting Bored Of It And I Love Singing Even More. I Don't Want To Let My Family Down. What Do I Do? Help Me! (link)
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Sing your heart out honey....
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I know this sounds superficial and snotty have this dream of being wealthy. I don't want to be super rich but I want to have enough money to buy what I want when I want it. I'm also not talking about jets or mansions but things like purses that are a couple hundred dollars or lots of small things like multiple pairs of $6o jeans in one purchase.
It's just like my whole life my dad was really poor and never bought me much of anything to the point that he hasn't seen me in months because he doesn't want to spend the money on gas. He didn't even see me on my 18th birthday and it's been months since then and he's only even called twice.
My mom is okay. She buys me things when I really need them and I give her props for paying for a lot of the work clothes I needed (even if she expects me to pay her back).
I'm just really tired of going to a store and seeing multiple things I like and having to pick just one. For example I went to Bealls and I saw a purse for $30, wallet for $27,necklace for $22,bracelet for $15 and perfume for $30. Well I wound up not getting a single thing because I just couldn't deal with the idea of buying just one thing and I was scared of giving up even $15 at the time. My aunt gave me a $30 gift card for there and I thanked her and acted super happy about it but I got there and realized that wasn't even enough for a single pair of jeans so I still have it unspent because I'm afraid of not having that little bit of money on that giftcard anymore.
It's not like I'm poor but I'm sick of having to save for everything and really stressing over medial amounts of money. Like I saved up money from graduation and other money on the side and bought myself an iPad for a birthday present for myself. I love love love my iPad but now I keep wishing I had that money back (though I would never give up my iPad).
I had $130 from a smartphone I sold and I spent it on a replica chanel purse because I couldn't afford a real one but even the $50 for the replica is hurting because I keep seeing more things I want. Like replica Louis Vuitton sunglasses for $27, a $40 leather Louis Vuitton iPad case, $20 for a replica chanel wallet,$25 for replica Chanel sunglasses. I want to be able to know what it's like to be able to buy things like that and not feel scared about it.
I'm not saying I just want the money given to me. I would do anything to be able to be wealthy but I keep thinking the only way to be wealthy is to marry a wealthy man but wealthy men want sex toys with double D's and I just want a husband that I can truly love and cook for (I love cooking) and take care of the house and such.
Right now I have a job I start Monday making $800 every two weeks but that's not enough to ever get me anywhere in life. I understand I'm only 18 but I'm already tired of feeling the burn of money. It's just so stressful.
My friends say just to forget about meeting a wealthy man who loves me and that I can love back because they only want sex and I'm still a virgin looking to save my first time for somebody special.
Do you think my dreams of being wealthy are stupid and out of line? I don't think it's a bad thing to want to strive for...
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Becoming wealthy is a very very real possiblity for anyone who is willing to work hard and delay gratification. If you will put off purchasing things that you just want in order to impress others or to "Keep up with the Joneses" you will be able to save more money and pay off all your bills. Sure fire ways to hinder your success at achieving your dream is to have credit cards or to start overdrawing your checkings account which will eat you alive in fees. Check out Dave Ramseys "Baby Steps" or "Money Makeover" He teaches you how to pay off your smallest bills first, then snowball all the money toward your next larger bill and pay them all off. I've been doing following his plan for just over a month now and I've already managed to pay of several old debts and I'm now working on paying off my car. No more credit cards left. I'll never have another credit card and I now have over $2,000 in the bank.... It's not much but it's the most I've had in a savings account since my divorce so I feel really good about it. Good luck!! You can do it!!
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I know it's really hard to deal with this thing for me and to be honest I lost all my hopes what I had (link)
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Honey, please don't do anything drastic. Get help. Call the help hotline the number is 1-800-273-8255. I know what it's like to be hopeless and the future look so grimm that you want to curl up in the fetal position and stop breathing or disappear. Please call the number. I am here for you and I am an RN but I'm not a psych nurse and I'm not trained in coaching people thru this sort of crisis. Please call. Let me know if you need to talk.
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20/F.
I've dated two guys. One was a strong relationship, the other one wasn't much of anything. But I have learned valuable lessons from both and I feel like I am lot wiser from the two. Anyway, I'm a junior in college and I am a pre-med student. ( I know it's not really a major but just to give you an idea ) Well, in two years from now, I don't know where I will end up. I know I will either to go a pre-professional or medcial school, but depending where I go, I might have to leave town for possibly 4 years, maybe more, to continue my education. The thing is, I'm worried that this is a peak in life where I will either find someone or I won't. I know it sounds like an unreal ultimatum, but there are quite a few couples I know, that are my age, that are in strong relationships and I really admire them for that. The thing is, I want a strong relationship too, but I'm not sure it's very wise to have one now, assuming I do find someone. I also, don't want to date someone and have it fall apart easily. I told myself, the next relationship I have, I will make sure the guy is worth it, all through out, in almost every way possible. I know, I cannot find out if he is worth it, in the beginning, but I wouldn't attempt to date someone who I knew for sure, I couldn't see myself with. Anyway, I just moved into a new town, far away from where I orginally lived, so I'm the newbie placed where no one knows me. Most kids my age, have been living here for a long time and they've all grown up together and are really close with one another. Back where I came from, I had that with the people I was surrounded with. Now, I don't have that and I feel like the loner. The people here, my age, are so much nicer and better, and people I can learn from and whatnot. There are even guys can I potentially see myself getting to know. Problem is, if I'm gone in a short while, then no one truly gets to know me, and I feel like they would all be taken, and I'd be left to live alone, love-wise. Sure, I might have a good career and interact with people at my job, but as for friendship and on-the-side fun, I'd be the person that everyone says hi, what's up? to and that's it. Do you think it's wise to try to become involved in a relationship now? I don't really want to test the waters or anything and flirt around, I just really want one person. I think it would help me feel like I fit in more, but I don't really know anyone. But if I did get to know someone, do you think it's wise considering there is a chance I might not be living here in a few years for up to maybe 4+ years? (link)
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Lighten up on yourself a little bit. You are only 20 years old. Go out and get to know as many people as you can (I don't mean sleep with them) just hang out. There are so many advantages of this when you're young. #1 It helps you to be able to have friends #2 You stay busy, going places and doing fun and exciting things #3 You start to develop as sense of what you want in a mate by being around more people, you see traits in some that you love and in others that you detest #4 It takes the pressure off that's there when you're in a relationship, if you want to go out you can, if you don't, don't. This time period in your life should be filled with friends and making memories. Good luck in school and get out and let your hair down a little from time to time.
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Hello, my name is Laken. I am 16 years old, female, and consider myself above average in looks. I am 5"9' and blond hair brown eyed; I also model from time to time. When I was young and naive I fell in love with a man I truly believe to be my soul mate. He is 6"2' brown hair, tan, and his eyes are the color of the loveliest sea foam. He makes my heart stop, something no one ever does, but sometimes he hates me. Another thing no one else ever does. He can hate me from the very center of his core, but the moment I am in danger hes the first one there. How can he hate me so much but want to protect me more than anyone else? He has called me mean things and tries to knock me down a notch every chance he can get. Earning himself the nickname "The Devil". I don't know why I fell in love with him, but it's as if my feelings are going to rip apart my body. He acknowledged my feelings some time ago and as a result I lost my virginity to him. I have dated 2 men since him and its just not the same, the guys were sweet, but I wont settle for anyone I don't have feelings for. Shameful as it is to say he and I slept together last night. And I have a boyfriend. I feel terrible, but at the same time I don't feel like I should. My boyfriend cheated on his girlfriend with my best friend before we ever started dating, so i know hes a cheated and I don't trust him for it. I was in love with this man long before i ever met my boyfriend. I want to be with him forever. I am telling you all this because i am desperately in love with a man. And it hurts more than death. So my question is this, what should i do with my love for The Devil? (link)
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Honey you are very young and you seem so serious. You are being manipulated by this man. He has you convienced that he's superior to you. Like you should feel honored that he'd even notice you. Honey that's not love, that mental abuse. When someone loves you they want to help you be all that you can be. They support you and they have your back at all times, not just when there's danger and they'll come out looking to you like some hero (which will only make you feel more in-debted to them.) Nothing good can come of a relationship where you know already that he is mean and hates you at times and his name is "The Devil." Get away from him. Destroy all ways to contact him and don't let him make you feel unworthy or unlovable. IT'S NOT LOVE, IT'S MENTAL ABUSE!!
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So I just moved to a new town about 2 months ago, I still haven't really made friends I've only met 2 new people. One person I hung out with once and he came over for an hour or so and we just hung out and talked I'll call him Dave. Well Dave came over again when nobody else was here and we started making out and stuff and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him we needed to stop because I didn't know him well at all, he tried to talk me into but said he wouldn't force me so we stopped. I didn't tell him the main reason i said no was because I'm still a virgin, which he doesn't know. As much as I'd love to have sex I dont want to do it with someone who may just wanna hit it and quit it, (not sure If that's the case) and that seems like a whorish thing to do to sleep with someone the second time weve hungout, yes i do realize how crazy all this probably sounds. I haven't been in a relationship in 2 years and I want to Lose my virginity soon, but I want to be dating the person and know them an be comfortable with them because I'm still not even comfortable with my body or anything. I don't want to be an item or a whore. I still didn't tell him why, and I'm not sure what I should say to him or if I should even explain myself. Because I do feel bad that we madeout and started gettin frisky and he had a boner and I just made him stop all the sudden but I didn't wanna do anything stupid. Any advice helps..thanks
18/f he's also 18 (link)
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So happy to know that you're still a virgin at 18 years old. In my experience.... Guys know two different kind of girls.... The ones they have exclusive relationships with and the ones that they hit and quit as you said. Once you've given yourself to a man for the first time you can't go back and undo it. If you have intercourse, anal sex, oral sex or mutual masterbation on a casual level, that man will never see you as serious relationship material. It seems that you are the sort of person who values your sexuality as something to be honored and as such I would recommend that you NEVER let any man talk you into having any form of sexual relation until you are ready. Good Luck Love
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Well I'm 12 ok and my older friend(17)once talked to this girl I sed to be friends with(16)and at that time that girl was 14 and they were talking about modeling and stuff and my friend said that her boyfriend was taking pictures of her in langeray and then he got all touchy touchy and he forced himself on her and stuff and then she changed the subject when she asked if she's ok. And the same guy told her he's gonna give her a hell of a smack. And I was just wondering do you think he raped her? I don't know why I'm worried though but I was just wondering.
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Anytime a person FORCES themself on another for sexual gratification it is a violation, whether it is classified as molestation, rape, etc. The problem is, the victims usually harbor a large amount of guilt for what happened thinking they done something to cause it or could've prevented it if they'd just done something different. The fact that she was showing him pix of herself in lingerie for instance, she may feel that she caused him to get so turned on that he couldn't control himself. He may have even told her that it was her fault or called her some derogatory name making her carry the shame for the abuse. Your friend needs help from a trained professional. If you can get her to speak to an adult that she trusts. She will probably need counseling because any form of sexual abuse is very very very difficult to overcome and it leaves a psychological scar for life. Trust me, I was the victim of sexual abuse from a cousin who was 4 years older than me from the time I was in second grade until I was 13 years old. The cousin was being abused at the same time by their father. I never told anyone until I was 30 years old and it had already caused major problems in my own mind and life. The earlier we deal with this sort of issue the more control we can get over it. So please encourage her to talk to someone that she trusts.
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Me and my boyfriend is thinking of having sex and im kinda scared cuz I've seen his penis before.im just soo scared. He's 15 im 13 (link)
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Dear me and my bf is planning to have sex.... You are very young to be considering having sexual intercoarse. You need to understand the concept of sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and protection. You also need to understand the emotional aspect connected to giving yourself to someone in this most intimate way.
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Hi I'm 27 yerrs old female who is suffering from agrophobia panic attacks. Disorder for 4months now. Every thing started 7years ago so I start taking paxil 20mg and it was worked great for me. Till 7years after 4months it came back and I increase my dose up to 30 mg but is not seem to. Work it got worse for me because I even. Scared to live the house and sometimes even home don't feel safe I don't know what to do but even my relationship is going not well because of this I do want to get better as soon as possible but this fear what I. Feel....I can't do this anymore pleasesomeone help me I do not want to loose control of my life but I feel like I will if this is not going to stop what should I do? (link)
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Dear Agrophobia, Medications are good for controling the symptoms but the actual problem is still there. I recommend that you seek help in the form of a psychologist who specializes in panic attacks and unrealistic fears. There are ways to unlearn these fears so they no longer control your life and keep you from being able to have healthy relationships. It takes a lot of self work and determination but you can get to a healthy state of mind and only have to use the medications for breakthrough anxiety.
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What is the best diet to follow to loose 10 pounds in like 3 weeks.
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Look up Dr Oz. Green Coffee Bean diet. It supposed to help you loose up to 21 pounds in a month. I don't recommend loosing weight that quickly. You're results will only be temporary and you will probably loose more water weight and muscle mass than actual fat.
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i was texting my friend and she started talking about how annoying her family was then she said she was gonna run away and i tried and tried to talk her out of it but she just yelled at me and told me i didnt know her and i told her i was only trying to help and things got out of control so i told her mom and now shes blaming everything on me what should i do? (link)
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Dear "im being accused for nothing" It sounds to me like you were trying to protect your friend. She would've done the same if the tables were turned. She's probably just going thru a really tough time and can't think logically just now. Her emotions drive her thought process. When she gets back to herself she'll come around. Just don't give up on her and be there for her and stay in touch with her as much as you can and tell her that you were only trying to protect her and meant her no ill will. You sound like a very caring friend and intellegent person to speak to this girls mom and not let anything bad happen to her.
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so basically i had a boyfriend for a year, and we split up recently. i constantly felt like he was trying to make me jealous, but would brush it off because i was blinded by love. we broke up because i lied to him, because i felt threatened by other women. i know what i did was wrong, but now i want to know if there is a good way to apologize and keep our friendship? either that or make him want me again? im so confused, and either need ways to get him back...or ways to move on....please help me... (link)
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After a break up we go thru a grieving process similar to that of loosing a loved one in death. We tend to think of all the wonderful things that we remember about them and shared. I wonder if he really was trying to make you jealous. Some guys get a rush from getting a girl jealous and some guys are blatant flirts who think it should be ok for them to flirt with other women even tho they're in a committed relationship with you. So try to think logically--not emotionally. Did he ever actually give you real reason to be jealous? If he ever did, then don't go crawling back to him. If he didn't then you probably owe him an apology but don't beg/plead or grovel. If he want to forgive you, then he needs to forgive you and that needs to be the end of it. He doesn't need to punish you, I'm sure he's probably told you little white lies too. Girls sometimes get alittle dramatic when we try to get guys to take us back, I'd caution you to avoid taunting, stalking, calling repetitively, texting more than once, begging, blaming, cutting him down, or justifying your actions. Simply apologize, accept responsibility for your actions and let him know that you still care for him and if he ever can forgive you, you'd like a second chance. Good Luck.
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So a couple months ago (June) my oldest brother (I have two that I'm very close to) was in the passenger side of a car when some idiot teen girl was speeding,ran a red light,weaved through traffic and directly hit his side totaling both cars beyond repair and she was driving a large Dodge Charger while he was in a small car sort of like a sonata. I was the first person to find out as I picked up the phone when his coworker called telling us what happened. He lived in a county two hours away from us with his roommate/girlfriend who was out of town. When my mom called the hospital the doctors told us he wasn't going to make it and that he might not even still be here by the time we got there (driving).
His skull had been broken in so many places they had to take an entire day fixing it and his brain was very swollen and had been bruised and was bleeding with what they described as having shavings "off the top" from pieces of his skull shattering. The whole thing was incredibly traumatic as we weren't sure if he'd make it or ever be the same but he came out of his coma in late July after several brain surgeries,skull repairment and other repairs on broken bones around his body (his pelvis had been shattered and his femur was split in half as well has having ocular [eye socket] fractures).
There were a lot of days I just stayed by his hospital bed 24/7 alone praying that he'd come around that everything would be alright while his doctors told us not to get our hopes up but he had so many friends that we had entire churches revolving their Sunday services around him with prayer.
Today he's doing SO much better and his surgeons told us they'd NEVER in 50 years of practicing seen a recovery like his and that it was truly a miracle. He's at home with his father and his step mom (their house is very close to the rehab center which he had to be within a certain number of miles of) still recovering but he's himself again,talking just fine like a normal person would,doing things for himself,behaving himself, he's walking around (sometimes for up to a mile) and doing exercises. The only physical thing that's still needs fixing is one of his eyes that was cut by a piece of his skull and in result is out of place and gives him double vision (though the double vision is going away). Mentally he's so close to back up to his pre-accident capacity that we're thankful for it just as he is but he still has breaks in his memory and gets confused with deep conversation or more difficult math problems but then again he was never good at math and I don't know very many people who can do long division off the top of their head. They said it could take another couple months for his brain to recover fully but that it would happen.
Anyways last week after looking for months I got a job with the company he used to work for before the crash but with their corporate division as a tech support person (he worked in sales). It didn't have anything to do with him though I never mentioned who he was in any of the interviews or paperwork and we live in different counties so nobody would know him anyways especially since we have different last names. I just didn't want people hiring me out of pity...
I've been really nervous about it since it's my first job and it's rare that they hire somebody into corporate at such a young age but I had a lot of experience with IT and two certifications in it.
I was really tired today after not getting much sleep last night due to feeling sick and my last dream that I could vividly remember was myself and my grandmother's/mother's/brother's bird in that order in the library of my old school that I graduated from a few weeks before the accident and at graduation was the last time he saw me, I was sitting on the floor with the bird in my hand. The importance of this being the bird died the night before my brother woke up out of his coma and some people said that he needed the extra life from the bird to wake up and that there was a connection between them.
I walked out of the school into the parking lot and there he was standing. He took my hand and led me out to my car and told me not to worry about anything, that I was going to be just fine and that he'd be there with me in spirit on the first day of work making sure I was okay. My other brother was leaning against the car and my mom was standing by it and he told me not to worry about her either as she often tries to keep me from doing things and doesn't want me moving out anytime soon for fear of being alone (shes always had children or a husband or somebody with her). I think my other brother was there because he's the one helping me to buy my first car in a few weeks and these are all big steps for me in moving on with life.
What do you think? I know this was super long but thank you for any serious answers. :) (link)
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I believe in dreams sending messages. It sounds like a very nice dream with a very positive message. Thank you for sharing it.
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I'm a 17 years old male
My question is what is the difference between dating, boyfriend and girlfriend, and when a girl says she is together with you. I have met this girl of the same age as me and we started to get to know for about nine months. In that time I admitted I liked her, which caught her by surprise, but she started to begin to like me. I asked her out but she didn't respond because she didn't want to lose me as a friend or something ,but at the same time wanted to. So i asked her to the dance and she said yes in a flash despite the bunch of guys that asked her. Were both awkward people so we decided to learn to be closer to each-other for the dance, like holding hands and stuff. After the dance we continued this but started to kiss and stuff so i asked her if we were dating and she said no but that we were together. She told me it was too complicated with everything in her life that was happening to be dating but she said we were together. She then explained that being together had everything that a boyfriend and girlfriend could do just a different title, so she said we are indirectly dating. My question still remains what is the difference, because being together is like were dating but when people asks her if were are dating she says were not dating but that we are together. (link)
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Hmmmm, I'm older and Idk much about kids lingo but to me it would seem that what she's saying is... She wants you all to be casual friends who are not committed to each other and there are no rules about your relationship. I would call that "casual dating," meaning she can go out with you and hang out with you and have fun tonight but hang out with a different guy tomorrow night, and you can do the same with other girls, without breaking any rules. It's not an exclusive relationship like "boyfriend/girlfriend" it's just hangin out and getting to know each other better and keeping it light and having fun. It's actually a great idea. It gives you an opportunity to get to know a lot of different people. You are only 17 so you probably have very limited experience so it's a good way to learn what kinds of traits you find attractive in girls and what kinds of traits turn you off. It helps you to develop skills in communicating with the opposite sex too. Also, girls who aren't in a relationship with you will often be more open with you about what they would be attracted to as a mate and it's sort of like you get to be "in-the-loop" about what women want. It's an amazing opportunity to educate yourself about females. It also gives you freedom so when you find someone special that you want to be exclusive with, then you can still be friends with all the people that you've gotten to know and it's not awkward because they aren't past girlfriends. It's a win/win. Good Luck!!
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hi dear!!am 20 years old female(India). one boy loves me sincerely.even i do..he is so much possessive.. he will not let me to talk with any other boys because of his possessiveness..but sometimes i hate him because of this attitude because i will not be able to talk to any other boys even though i think they are my good friend.... he always cares for my proper dressings..always he warns me to dress up neatly..i assure you i always dress up neatly..sometimes without my knowledge my shawl can move aside.. but he never forgive me for that.. always he scolds me in public that i wanted to adjust my shawl..even he has bet me once in our bus-stop before all because of this shawl matter.. i was so much hurt when i asked for the reason crying he said i bet you because your shawl was not proper and so happy that i have full rites to beat you since you are my wife like that he said...also if i put mobile in silent mode then if he is not able to contact me he will get more tension and scolds me like a hell... all these silly matters hurts me a lot.. but still he loves me he cares for me like heaven..he is in true love with me... whenever he scolds me i feel like hating him and i feel like i lost my life totally..Even though i think to leave him my heart is not allowing me..am suffering to see him lonely..because he has no friends in college...what should i do???is this kind of love important??always it ends up with a fight whenever i think to be happy with him... i cant lead a good life..he is the person who can do anything for me.he is my family friend too..am the girl always wanted to be happy..always i should feel free..i hate anyone who comple me to do something..but in this love am happening to sacrifice many things..if i change my character and sacrifice all the things for my guy,wil i be able to be happy?? if i decide to leave him,there will be no one for me who cares for me but at the same time i wanted to be happy..what should i do??please help and advice me.... (link)
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Honey, You're not happy now. You're sad, Just look at the opening statement "to get out of sadness." Your desperate heart is crying out to be free, to fly away and be loved and appreciated and to be beautiful. I don't know much about your traditions but I grew up in a very strict home where the man owns his wife and is very dominant so I watched my mother all my life live in depression and ultimate loneliness because she wasn't allowed to have friends. She suffer much depression and pain from this lifestyle but divorce was unacceptable in our culture so she is stayed with him. He is my father and I love him but to this day I have feelings of animosity toward him for all the things I saw him do to my mama my whole life. Trust me you don't want to bring daughters into that environment. They will grow up never understanding that they are able to think for themselves, feel for themselves, form their own opinions and that they don't have to be inferior to men. The cycle will continue until you break it.
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Sorry didn't know in what category to put this.well I'm 12 and I do modeling and this 16 year old girl doesn't it with me. I really like this guy and he's dating this 16 year old girl and me and her fight a lot and well yeah. Anyway that's not the point she's my role model and I want to be exactly like her!she dies her hair a lot but I'm not allowed she has the best body ever! She takes laxitives tho should I take that or is there any other ways to get a body like that?(I'm not fat I have a nice body but I want her body!)I'm even trying to talk and act like her! This isn't just to get the guy its also because I think if I'm more like her then maybe me and her can talk and stuff and then she won't hate me:( we used to talk but then I lied to her and then she got worried and told on and stuff but this was when I was 10/11 anyway how can I be more like her? Please don't just say be yourself I really need advice here! She's actually a brat but still and she says sorry like soraay and ok like okaay and stuff and yeah (link)
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Honey, it's normal to have someone a few years older than you that you look up to and sort of idolize. Her body is more mature than yours and even if you took laxatives (which is very stupid and will cause you serious medical problems if done too extremely) you couldn't have the same figure as she does. You are 12, your body has baby fat still stored for your maturation and you are just beginning to go thru puberty so your breasts and hips wouldn't be proportioned like hers either. If you are pretty enough to model, I'd say there's a ton of girls your own age who'd love to look just exactly like you do right now. You are seeking her approval because she is someone you look up to and idolize but because she is older than you she probably just sees you as a sweet, pretty, 12 year old and her focus is on impressing boys and outdoing girls her own age. I PROMISE YOU, THERE IS SOMEONE THAT SHE LOOKS/LOOKED UP TO JUST LIKE YOU LOOK AT HER. AND WHEN YOU GET HER AGE, THERE'LL BE A 12 YEAR OLD LOOKING AT YOU THE SAME WAY, THERE'S MANY 8,9,10 AND 11 YEAR OLDS WHO DO ALREADY.
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Hey guys Im in high school went through a lot of depression/confusions but that was back in middle school and elementary. I went through a lot with making friends and family issues that always got me to the point to having anger issues and even bad adititude. Now I am free from the old worries, guess I could say my life is going well I mean I got a bf which cares a lot but I forgot to mention that ever sense I was little it was always about me until my bro and sis come I learned i wasn't alone although I sorta was alone cause I was the oldest an they were young I basically learned on my own how life was. Well like I said I was so used to doing everything on my own I have this problem I I worry to much like right now don't even know if I should break up with my bf hes really nice an I love him I mean me and him went through the same childhood with depression an all but hes too good for me. What mean is that hes too nice. Yea you probably think is stupid but hes
Everything to me but I feel it shouldn't feel like I have to choose between him an friends. I'm not breaking up with him because I promised myself I wouldn't. I just hate how akward Of a person I am an how my bf is the same way he worries I worry hes like a reflection oh me in guy form.
Thanks for reading(: any advice always helps! (link)
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Dear "I wory too much" Your question is a little vague. I'm not sure what you're asking but I assure you no one is too good for you, he may not be right for you or enjoy the same things as you, he may be a little clingy and it gets on your nerves and you don't know how to tell him so because you don't want to hurt his feelings but he's definately not too good for you.
Now, about worrying, you're at an age where everything seems like a life crisis. Later you'll be able to look back on these days and you'll ask yourself "Why didn't I just lighten up and enjoy life a little bit before I had all this responsibility?" Don't get too bogged down with life, let your hair down, be carefree and happy-go-lucky. Enjoy your friends and if your man is holding you back, cut him loose, not because he's too good for you, just because you need to have fun, you've dealt with enough in your life with the depression at a very young age and then the adjustment of not being an only child when you were already settled into being the center of everyones world, so lighten up.
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Hello everyone, i'm 19 and i've been with my boyfriend for about a year and 7 months straight, haven't broke up once. Well i've been taking birth control for about 2 years never had problems. This last month I started my period on Aug 14- the 19. What was weird was that period was about a month and 4 days late. This time I was suppose to have my period on the 14. Always been the same day besides the last month, since I started late. Anywho, this month I was 11 days late till I was suppose to start. I've never had unusual bleeding, it has always been the same. That day it was a brownish reddish, more brown. So I decided to put a pad on, and noticed i didn't bleed at all after. So I removed the pad, & continued on with my day, on Sep 27 I had practice at 7 in the morning. I woke up went pee when I wiped there was blood. So I decided I would put a pad, Then AGAIN that was the last time I bleed. Haven'y actually started my period. I've been discharging. And the last time I had intercourse with my boyfriend was Sep 1, 8. What do you think? Has this happened to you, if so what was the outcome? PLEASE HELP ME. (link)
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Are your breasts sore? Have you had any severe headaches? Have you noticed any heartburn? All of these can be early signs of pregnancy because of the surge in hormones. This may be nothing, it's not really uncommon for a cycle that is usually very regular to get a little wacked up. The best way to answer your question is to go out and buy a pregnancy test. Take the test with the first urine in the morning when the HCG levels are the highest. Good Luck Love
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