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He tried to have sex with me..
So I just moved to a new town about 2 months ago, I still haven't really made friends I've only met 2 new people. One person I hung out with once and he came over for an hour or so and we just hung out and talked I'll call him Dave. Well Dave came over again when nobody else was here and we started making out and stuff and he wanted to have sex with me. I told him we needed to stop because I didn't know him well at all, he tried to talk me into but said he wouldn't force me so we stopped. I didn't tell him the main reason i said no was because I'm still a virgin, which he doesn't know. As much as I'd love to have sex I dont want to do it with someone who may just wanna hit it and quit it, (not sure If that's the case) and that seems like a whorish thing to do to sleep with someone the second time weve hungout, yes i do realize how crazy all this probably sounds. I haven't been in a relationship in 2 years and I want to Lose my virginity soon, but I want to be dating the person and know them an be comfortable with them because I'm still not even comfortable with my body or anything. I don't want to be an item or a whore. I still didn't tell him why, and I'm not sure what I should say to him or if I should even explain myself. Because I do feel bad that we madeout and started gettin frisky and he had a boner and I just made him stop all the sudden but I didn't wanna do anything stupid. Any advice helps..thanks
18/f he's also 18
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So happy to know that you're still a virgin at 18 years old. In my experience.... Guys know two different kind of girls.... The ones they have exclusive relationships with and the ones that they hit and quit as you said. Once you've given yourself to a man for the first time you can't go back and undo it. If you have intercourse, anal sex, oral sex or mutual masterbation on a casual level, that man will never see you as serious relationship material. It seems that you are the sort of person who values your sexuality as something to be honored and as such I would recommend that you NEVER let any man talk you into having any form of sexual relation until you are ready. Good Luck Love
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I'm known to be very liberal in my views on sex. I am also old fashion enough to believe that a girls virginity is a very precious gift that should not be wasted on someone you don't know well, are not comfortable with and are not planning on being in a loving long term relationship with. This does not mean that you two will eventually marry though that would be nice.
My advice is to stick to your guns so to speak as what you have expressed is exactly the right thought. Your virginity should not just be given away just for the sake of getting rid of it. It is far to precious a gift to do that. Make sure the man you give it to understands how precious it is and takes his time to make it a memorable event for you.Until then know has to know you are a virgin unless you want them to know. There is no same in being a virgin.
As to not being comfortable with your body. I assume you are not ready for a man to see you naked for you perceive some flaw in your body. Relax if you chose the right man to give your virginity to he will be making love to you, your body is the vehicle. He will not see the flaws you may perceive.
Men have the same body flaw perceptions. They worry they are too big, too small, to long or to short; will they satisfy the women they are sleeping with and so on. It matters not how many women they may have slept with this problem bothers them every time they have a new partner.
Below is a link to a website I found sometime ago when answering a question for another young lady with questions about first time sex. I think it will answer many of the questions you may be asking yourself.
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