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What do you feel is best?
20/F.
I've dated two guys. One was a strong relationship, the other one wasn't much of anything. But I have learned valuable lessons from both and I feel like I am lot wiser from the two. Anyway, I'm a junior in college and I am a pre-med student. ( I know it's not really a major but just to give you an idea ) Well, in two years from now, I don't know where I will end up. I know I will either to go a pre-professional or medcial school, but depending where I go, I might have to leave town for possibly 4 years, maybe more, to continue my education. The thing is, I'm worried that this is a peak in life where I will either find someone or I won't. I know it sounds like an unreal ultimatum, but there are quite a few couples I know, that are my age, that are in strong relationships and I really admire them for that. The thing is, I want a strong relationship too, but I'm not sure it's very wise to have one now, assuming I do find someone. I also, don't want to date someone and have it fall apart easily. I told myself, the next relationship I have, I will make sure the guy is worth it, all through out, in almost every way possible. I know, I cannot find out if he is worth it, in the beginning, but I wouldn't attempt to date someone who I knew for sure, I couldn't see myself with. Anyway, I just moved into a new town, far away from where I orginally lived, so I'm the newbie placed where no one knows me. Most kids my age, have been living here for a long time and they've all grown up together and are really close with one another. Back where I came from, I had that with the people I was surrounded with. Now, I don't have that and I feel like the loner. The people here, my age, are so much nicer and better, and people I can learn from and whatnot. There are even guys can I potentially see myself getting to know. Problem is, if I'm gone in a short while, then no one truly gets to know me, and I feel like they would all be taken, and I'd be left to live alone, love-wise. Sure, I might have a good career and interact with people at my job, but as for friendship and on-the-side fun, I'd be the person that everyone says hi, what's up? to and that's it. Do you think it's wise to try to become involved in a relationship now? I don't really want to test the waters or anything and flirt around, I just really want one person. I think it would help me feel like I fit in more, but I don't really know anyone. But if I did get to know someone, do you think it's wise considering there is a chance I might not be living here in a few years for up to maybe 4+ years?
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Lighten up on yourself a little bit. You are only 20 years old. Go out and get to know as many people as you can (I don't mean sleep with them) just hang out. There are so many advantages of this when you're young. #1 It helps you to be able to have friends #2 You stay busy, going places and doing fun and exciting things #3 You start to develop as sense of what you want in a mate by being around more people, you see traits in some that you love and in others that you detest #4 It takes the pressure off that's there when you're in a relationship, if you want to go out you can, if you don't, don't. This time period in your life should be filled with friends and making memories. Good luck in school and get out and let your hair down a little from time to time.
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