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I Think My Best Friend May Commit Suicide?!?!
Hey Everyone! My best friend was dating this guy...
He ended up cheating on her and she told me "I'm going to commit suicide. I'm done."
When she said that, I just wanted to beat that boy with a hammer.
Anyways, he really hurt her and i'm scared she'll commit suicide. I really don't know what to do. She hasn't smiled at all today after this happened (I wasn't there when this happened because I had to talk with my math teacher). What do I do?! If she goes down, I go down with her.
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Right just take her out and do stuff... Get her back into a routine and do stuff that wont make her think about it... NEVER bring up the subject ... It will trigger her... she will get better in time... Like i said get her used to a routine and do stuff that makes her happy, stuff that will take her mind off it.. she will say "no i don't want to go" but belive me ... if you take her to do something SHE LOVES she will be happy at that point because she ont think about it... need to ask me or amswer this question... email me? oocorbyoo@gmail.com
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i know how it feels..my best friend always ends up with the wrong guy and one day she cut herself :( she's okay now but she was so depressed and i know that you feel bad too because you don't want to see her cry..you should not let her alone any moment!talk to her 24/7.you girls should go out together do stuff you love so that she feels better.and the most important thing is to raise her self confidence right now...:/ talk to her and tell her that everything happens for a reason..some things fall apart so better things can fall together :) maybe she will find her perfect guy soon,you never know :)
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Suicide NEVER solves anything. It only leaves the hurt and mental anguish to rest upon those that care for you. Tell her that time heals all wounds and that even though she hurts now she'll smile again! Try to cheer her up. Make her feel comfortable and allow her to open up to you. Tell her that love will come again and that he's not the only guy on the planet, someone will come along and appreciate what he is missing out on. Just make her feel good about herself :)
Hope this helps you
-A.B
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We say a lot of things, things we don't mean, in the heat of the moment. I doubt your friend will actually try to commit suicide as it is not as easy to do as one might think for a normally rational person. We all have a self preservation mode built into us that will prevent us from doing really stupid things that could do us real harm.
Just in case she has gone beyond the point of normal rationalization what you can do for her is to be with her. Help her back to the point of normal rationalization. You do this by simply being her friend and letting her talk things out. Try to get her to talk in the direction of understanding that she was too good for him. That he is the one not her that lost. Which is true.
We all have our destinies, just what those are we don't know; that's part of life. Since you did not give your ages I will assume you are somewhere in middle school or high school.
Teenage romances are just that teenage romances. Few if any turn out to be the real thing. The one you end up making a life mate with. These romances are really a learning tool. To learn about different people and just what you want in mate. You will find that your life partner will be a mix of all the people you have dated in your teenage years.
Teenage romances are kind of a use them and loose them type of thing. They are designed to have fun with but not to take so seriously that when the inevitable break up comes and it does come. That you are so hurt that you want to hurt yourself. Remember the goal of high school is to be able to go off to college. In a few years you will all go off to different colleges. Most likely you will never see any of these friends again except for high school reunions if you attend them.
Of all the friends I had in High School I stay in touch with about four and I haven't seen them in 20 years. If it wasn't for the Internet I probably would not be in touch with them or they with me. All of us have gone our different ways and to all points on the compass and even the globe.
These are the points you need to get through to her. That he is not worth one tear. If he cheated on her now; what would he be like when he is older and an adult. He would still be a cheater for he has little or no respect for women.
If you can't get these points through to her. Then you may need to tell a teacher or her parents that she is in a bad way over this and they need to help her.
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Tell her suicide is never the answer. It doesnt do anything but make people miserable for there loss. All she's doing is running away from the pain, she needs to face it because this is reality shes always gonna end up gettin her heart broken. Be really supportive of her. Tell her she has a purpose in life and its not her time to go. If she commits suicide shes going straight to hell and imagin how she felt there. I've helped alot of people not commit suicide its all about you saying the right things and her having supporting people who will help her get through it.
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