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boyfriend problem: i only want passionate kissing and he wants sex
Its been a week that i am in a relationship. i think its not working because my guy wants to make out with me for which i am not ready. i have tried to make him understand but he is not. i really love him. i told him i can't go beyond a passionate kiss with you. please help me, its been very distracting i really want to spend time with him, being naughty but i am not interested in being fucked or blow jobs . i don't know with me its like butterflies in stomach and i really need him
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If he loved you, he would respect your decision not to have sex. You're in control of your own body, and what is done to it. If you say no sex, then it's no sex. He needs to respect that. If he doesn't, then it shows that he doesn't really love you or care about you, all he cares about is satisfying his own personal desires.
If there's no respect in the relationship, and your partner doesn't care about your feelings, then the relationship is doomed to fail, and you're only gonna get your heart broken. There are better guys out there, who do deserve to be with you.
I've been in a bad relationship in the past, where I really felt I needed this guy, and even though he wasn't treating me right, I didn't want to let him go. I understand what you're feeling. But the truth is, you deserve to be loved and respected and well cared for by your boyfriend, and this jerk isn't worth another minute of your time.
I'm so happy I got out of the bad relationship, because my current boyfriend is so much better than him, and I realize now how much I was sacrificing for a relationship that was doomed to fail, when I could've had so much more.
You could have your own fairy tale, but you need to stand up for yourself and what you want out of your relationships.
Good luck :)
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I might be old fashion in my answer but I am also very liberal in most of my views on sex and young people. So give me the benefit of the doubt in what I have to say.
If you are not ready to go beyond hand holding and passionate kissing stage then that is all there is to it. It matters not if your 16 or 61, your not ready. If your boyfriend is not accepting of this than he is not in love with you, and has no respect for you as a women. He sees you simply as a sexual object. This is not an acceptable situation in which to build a romance from.
In any sexual situation regardless of how old you are "NO" must mean "NO" no matter which partner says it, the other partner must stop. To continue is either rape or sexual harassment. It really does not get any plainer than that.
This is not a matter of who is the boss. This is the matter of right and wrong. Right now your boyfriend is being very, very wrong. I understand you have feelings for him. Unfortunately I don't see him having anything but sexual interest in you.
My advice therefore is to tell him if he can't restrain his hormones and respect you as a women. Then you no longer wish to date him. I wish there was better advise to give you but there is not. It is in fact the best advise for it is better to send him away before he actually does physical harm to you.
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If I were you, I would show him who's boss. I know it's not so easy to do so but girl, you need to show him you got the guts to be in control of your relationship too and he should respect your answer of having it yet or not, the decision should be agreed by both first in order to do so. If he's too stupid to agree to that, then he's just another whore.
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