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Does he like me?
Does he like me?
So.... I have a crush on this guy, and I am not sure if he likes me back. It is a little hard to tell. People tell me it s because of his Aspergers. That doesn t bother me at all, if anything it makes like him more. I have spent hours researching and trying to find ways to talk to him, but I am afraid because I don t want to bother him or anything.
I met him last year, and we were hanging out with someone friends. When he first saw me, he stared at me and wouldn t look away from me. He helped me carry things and even leaned on me ( I am 5 0" and he is 6 3") he was very close to me and didnt mind being like that.
Another time he hung out with our mutual friends, they played around and said we should go into a closet (we were in school) and he grabbed me and kinda play pulled me toward the closet and was laughing.
There were a few moments like that and he had even said he was interested in dating me. But that was a few months ago.
I saw him again in school and kinda developed feelings for him. He doesn t talk to me and seems to purposely avoid me. If this means he doesnt like me, I wish I could take a hint...
My friends told him to hug me, and he did, which was surprising since he HATES being touched...
Any advice???
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Maybe he is afraid to get close to you or he may just want to be friends.
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fIRST thing that needs to happen is that both you and he do something because you want to do it, not because friends told you to or coerced you to do so for any reason. Just because someone else thinks someone is perfect for you doesnt make it so. Theres a lot of history to prove it with arranged marriages by the sets of parents for their children. Some turned out but many were awful and perhaps abusive and very unhappy at the least. You need to decide for yourself if YOU want to get a chance to get to know him better and see if you still like him. You do need to give signs of response or take action to show that you have an interest in him. People can't read minds. SO he may be waitng for some response. I had a buddy, girlfriend in highschool who had aspergers. It seems the worst I saw was her doing all the talking rarely giving me a chance to talk and repeating stories to me often. She loved to spend time with me which we did often away from school doing all sorts of crafty things. My favorite was when we decided to create sugar eggs for Easter. As a female I've always liked crafty things and it was fun. So you have to think of things that are fun for you that he might like. Ask if you can hang out with him as a friend. The best of relationships starts with friendship and soon after works into romance if the chemistry is there. So make the move and ask him to hang out with you. He'll know this means you are intereested in him and most likely will respond because he has shown signs of interest in you with the staring and coming up to stand near you and find reasons or excuses to be touching you in any way....classic examples of young peoples interest. Don't wait for him to make a move first as you;ve likely confused him but no response to him. Guys are actually pretty scared, unsure of themselves and fragile to getting hurt from what they perceive as rejection or real rejection. they can be even more scared than a girl would be in the same case. So really, dating and getting somewhere in dating is really a world of opportunity for females. We need to simply make the moves first, say things to encourage the guy we like. They like to know they are wanted, needed and admired. So complement him, tell him something you like about him, bring up something he's done that you liked or admire. And if you may have something that you could use a little help with, ask for his help. All of that will make him feel special around you and know you like him. go for it!
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sounds like he DOES infact like you. I have an older brother and a friend with a young son with the same disorder.
They have their own way of making their feelings known and your friend sounds like he did and because you didnt respond back to those verbal ques from him he might be hurt and thats why he could be avoiding you now.
no one just SAYS they would date you....thats not normal for a guy to say usually.
i would go for it, try to befriend him again and ask him.
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