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My boyfriend is coming to my house tomarrow!
My bf is coming over tomarrow and just a while ago he asked me if we could have sex i was gonna hang up but then i startled and said yes! He got happy and said he loves me and wont try to hurt me then he said he was coming over tomarrow! should i trust him ? Should i have sex with him? Im a 13 yr old girl and my bf is 16...and plz no hurtful words i just need advice! :3 thnxs
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if you want to wait then you shoud wait your are soo young and if he doesint feel like the one then you should just tell him that you need more time.
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All of the advise given here is true.. He should know that you jumped to your answer of "Yes" out of shock and that you have reconsidered. I promise you sex is best when shared by two mature loving adults who understand the changes that will occur by engaging in such an act. It WILL NOT be the passionate love-making scene portrayed by Hollywood. It will be scary, uncomfortable, and overwhelming. EVERYTHING will suddenly change about you, about him and about your relationship. I urge you to wait. He will TELL ALL HIS FRIENDS and you will wish you had refrained!! There is no taking it back.
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You're not emotionally ready for sex at your age. Just tell him that you panicked when he asked you that question and you're having second thoughts. Just remember that it is your life and only you can live it. And when the shit hits the fan your onetime friends will scatter. So do what is right for you and don't allow yourself to be sabotaged or used by others.
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You shouldn't do it. You're only 13. You can wait to have sex. Just because you two have sex doesn't mean he really loves you. You could end up getting really hurt by him or end up pregnant if something goes wrong. Plus, you are questioning whether or not you want to do it. You're scared and you're not ready. It can leave a huge emotional impact on you too, and at 13, you can't be ready to handle that alone. Just wait till you're older with someone you truly love and can fully trust. If you do it now, you'll probably end up regretting it.
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listen to the 2 advices!! please!! Sex is NOT LOVE!!! its just another bodily function to MAKE KIDS!!!!
ask him if thats what he wanted- to make and raise kids with you!
THe fact that you are asking is a good sign that you are unsure and when you are not sure you are better off NOT DOING ANYTHING BECAUSE YOURE STILL VERY YOUNG!!!!!
do not give him the satisfaction!!
my advice, go somewhere there are LOTS OF PEOPLE< tell him, you DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX because you wnt it to be special when youre married and ready to raise kids, see his reaction and decide if he is worth keeping as a friend! DO NOT BE ALONE WITH HIM IN A ROOM EVER!!!! EVER!!!!! PROMISE????
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I don't want to sound too dramatic, but you only get to experience your first time once. I'm not a prude saying you should wait until you're married, but you should at least wait until you feel more comfortable. This guy is 16, so it's probably not his first time...it just won't mean as much to him as it does to you. Since it will be your first time, not his, it should be all about you, but he's kind of making it all about him. He knows you really don't want to do it, but that doesn't matter. He's thinking more about what he wants. I know alot about relationships and boys and I can promise you one thing...having sex just to keep a guy will never work-ever. You end up feeling used and he ends up talking alot of crap about you to cover up for the fact he was a jerk. You think your relationship is confusing now? Wait until after you have sex! Then you'll need reassurance and he will call it clingy...immature. Trust me, it is so much better to stand up for yourself and tell him you're not ready. You will be able to tell alot by his reaction. If he really cares about you he will be understanding and reassuring, and if he doesn't care he will pester you and try to change your mind. Honestly, sex changes everything, not only in this relationship, but every relationship. Other guys down the line will expect you to have sex because you already have...If you have sex tomorrow you will wish you didn't.
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I'm going to be blunt because you obviously aren't getting it from your last post.
You are too young, You know you are too young so why are you letting your boyfriend pressure you? You are falling for what every typical teenager your age does today. Are you ready to raise a baby on your own? Can you financially support a baby? Do you have a full time steady job? No I'm not lecturing you, I'm asking you these questions because these are things you SHOULD think about before you go and even attempt to have sex. If your boyfriend threatens to break up with you because you won't have sex with him then clearly he wants nothing but sex in the first place. Seriously, Start using your head. In most states a 16 year old having sex with someone your age is considered ILLEGAL. You are too young to be having sex!
Start using your common sense, You may actually get somewhere in this world.
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