I am a regular girl who likes making people happy.
I wanna help as much people even if just to give a second opinion or to remind and open the mind to new possibilities. Sometimes we know the answer deep inside of us, we just want to confirm it through others' advice. I am here to listen and help.
I love baking and doing crafts and am easily bored thats why I love this website!
Let us all make this world a better place- be a good example for others and lets empower ourselves by keeping informed and please stop judging!
Big hugs to you all!!! Have a good day!
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So i am 15 Years old, and people in my year have started becoming more sexual. There is a guy i know and like who wants to do more than kissing but i am too insecure about my vagina to do anything. It hangs down alot and im worried he will be grossed out. Help:( (link)
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Dont do anything you will regret later.
Dont get pressured. Youre not supposed to show your intimate parts until after you get married.its so much special that way. you will know if a guy loves you or just needs you physically. He wont respect youbelieve me if you get more close. Good luckyou will l be fine in time someone special will deserve you.
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I've been searching the internet and cannot find an article that will tell me which months you should where mosquito repellent.
I haven't been bitten by mosquitoes in a while but I woke up with two large-ish red bumps on my leg that I think are from mosquitoes.
I live in Arizona. During what months is it best to wear mosquito repellent?
Thank you. (link)
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Hi!
Due to global warming etc... the wet and dry season have been changing.
As long as there is rain, or you have stagnant water around (pots, vases, puddles etc) these are breeding grounds for mosquitoes. Get rid of them and start putting on your mosquito repellant. Make sure it has DEET.
Wear long clothing (pants and sleeved tops) and keep your area well ventilated.
There are a lot of options too like the plug in with a blue replaceable mat, that is really effective if you don't want to keep on rubbing your skin with products...
Take care!
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I live in New South Wales Australia. I am 16 and wanted to move out of home for 3 years now. I have run away from home once when I was 15 but was taken home by police.
They told me I could move out when I was 16 but many people have told me I can't.
I live with 2 Alcoholic parents and can't stand the fighting.
I would really like to know if I can move out at 16 without parents consent and NOT be taken home by police.
Thank you! (link)
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you might want to check the website on Australia Rights etc.
How do you see yourself living alone? how will you manage your living expenses and what if you get sick and stuff?
Please make sure you got all bases covered before you make a really major decision that will change your life.
I think you are better off telling your parents (when they are sober) how you feel and your plans. (they will think you are very mature if you have it all figured out) so that they know where you are etc and you wont feel too bad when you (somehow) miss them. what i am trying to say is i hope you can be independent without the guilt feeling...
Im sorry, i just wanted to share my thoughts.
Think very well and never make a decision when youre mad. Always be on the safe side..
Take care!
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As most schools, my school has some nasty tasting food. My mom told me that it's a waste of her money if I don't even like it. She said to look for some ideas of food to put in my lunch bag because I'm very picky and don't really like ham and turkey sandwiches that much(I'll eat it sometimes though). Any ideas of what she can put in my lunch box??? (link)
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You got a great selection from the 2. Here s just some additional stuff:
if you can come across some energy bars- or make some, that would really be awesome.. search recipes on rice crispy treats and make your own with ingredients you want.
You can also make a hearty soup the night before and bring it to school in an airtight container.
There are lots of websites on easy to opack lunches!
Good luck and dont ever scrimp on food because it will keep your brain functioning the whole day.
Eat healthy!
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Ok so 13 f and dont get me wrong here because people my age where i live are super mature and have good relationships even at this age so do not judge. Ive liked this guy named sam (12m) since the beginning on summer. He and i have had our ups and downs and in august we just stopped talking for no reason. Then in october he asked me to hang out with him and another of his friends and i brought one of my friends. We acted as a couple and hugged and held hands ect. The next day we also hung out again at his house while his parents were working and watched a movie and he put his arm around me. After that weekend of october 5, we stopped talking again for no reason. On december 24th, i got a bunch of questions about him on my qooh.me wall. Then about 2 min after i answered the last one, sam messaged me on facebook. I asked him a question and said " we havent talked since october. Why all of a sudden have u decided to msg me?" he answered and said that he had no reason to stop talking to me. Then after about a week of flirting through text but not talking in person, we stopped talking yet again. Then at the end of january, i founs out that he had a girlfriend. I have notjing against her bc shes suh a nice girl and shes so lucky to be with him but i was kinda hurt. All of our flirting and all oof the thought about him and i was gone and i felt nothing for him anymore. I started cutting because my life had gone downhill in february. I cut and cut and cut. Only 2 of my best friends knew i cut and tried to stop me but i was in a bad stage of depresion. I got over my depression in march and yesterday sam put a status on fb for tbhs. I liked it to see what he would say. He told me that weve been through so much and he misses talking to me and that he really did want to ask me out at one point because he used to love me as a friend and like like me too. He said that he wants us to talk more because he has missed the part of his life he had thrown away. After readig that tbh, i felt numb. I didnt know wbat to say because it brought me to tears. Im starting to care alot for him now and i really like him and i have all along. It hurts me to know that hes dating a great girl but i still really like him and i never stopped liking him. He left for myrtle beach yesterday and ive been trying to txt him but i cant bring myself to doing so. Please help me! All i want is input on all of this and some advice on what to say. Should i do a tbh status and hope that he likes it? (link)
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Hi there!!!
"tbh" i think you are just in love with the idea of being in love.
seriously, IF you do get together, wont you have doubts and get sick of when he pulls again the "he is not talking again" and "he has a girlfriend" thing to you? I mean its all about TRUST in relationships. I find it hard to find that in you because i "think" that this guy wants the best of both worlds, a girlfriend and the flirting with you. Im sure he is nice and all, but he should be a whole lot nicer to treat you as special as if you are the most precious thing in the world, not just pop up when he wants to...
You are still young, you will get to meet other guys, dont waste your time on this one or just be friends, but i am telling you, if you do get together you will just be miserable thinking at the back of your mind every single moment if this guy is being truthful with you or if he will cheat on you (because you know that he already did and is capable to treating you again as bad)
Sorry for being blunt and all.. but this is just what i feel...
I know it sucks but life goes on and there is a perfect guy made for you- as you are also the perfect girl made for him.. you will both find each other- i just feel its not this one.
Pray and you will be guided accordingly.
Good luck and dont worry to much, focus on school and hobbies and other friends... be the best you can be.. you will be alright! Let this one regret NOT HAVING you because you definitely deserve someone better!
:)
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Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things??? (link)
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Hey there!
Bad news is, everywhere around the world there are fake so called friends... believe me, different ages, race, its all over.
Good news is.. there are also a whole lot of honest to goodness, sincere people!
We just have to fill the world with our positive spirit. Let us live a life of being a good example. When we are good friends, when we are honest, hopefully the people around us will learn from that. If not, then just leave them, they are no good for you!
THey will realize soon that its better to be honest and sincere.
Remember your manners, common courtesies and dont try to offend people and you will be fine.
THe people youre talking about are insecure. So try to be the best that you can be. Do your own thing. Am sure you will find someone with the same values as you have.
Good luck. Dont give up. We need more honest people like you! Smile always!
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For almost 2 years now i have been suffering with sever abdominal pain and have almost lived in the hospital.The pain can reach the point where i pass out.I hsve had a lot of tests done but none have come back with a proper diagnosis.I have even been psychologically tested on 2 occassions.I have had my appendix out and they found cancer in it but it had not spread and they told me i was depressed which im not.The pain is in my lower right side and out through my back and sometimes in to my rib cage.During the summer my bowels bled severely.I vomit at least 3 times a week and faint at least once.I am so sick of it that i wont go to a hospital anymore.I dont know what to do anymore and I am feeling so ill.Any advice?? (link)
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Hi !!
Im not a doctor, I just read your situation and I am just wishing you feel better soon and they find out ways to make you back to the road to recovery.
Try to keep your hopes up.
Try to think what is your purpose why you are here.
Maybe it is to be an inspiration for others, maybe it is to be a friend to others.. i dont know just try to keep busy so you will not focus on the pain.
Imagine the more people you help, the more pain will go away!
Or write and draw on a journal..Write a book!
I really hope you get better soon!
We are never given anything we cant handle anyway, so am sure you can beat this! Because you are definitely stronger than pain!
SMILE!
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I go to a uniform school and I want to change my look for next year I like pants but I want to try some skirts and stuff I want acceseries and stuff. I also want to kno were I can get these clothes from in my size cuz I'm tall and slim. (plz name as many stores as possible). Here's the dress code Srry it's long
Pants: Navy or Khaki twill. (stretch or cord fabrics are not allowed) Full length, straight leg only
Unacceptable -- logos; hip huggers/low riders, etc.; pant legs tucked into socks or shoes; rolled up pant legs; cargo pockets; carpenter loops; blue jean look-a-likes with or without rivets; pajamas; denim or stretch or corduroy fabrics. (Rivet -- a silver or copper headed pin or bolt of metal used for uniting the fabric)
Belts: Plain black, brown, navy or khaki with plain buckles and without embellishments or decorations of any kind -- if there are belt loops on the clothing, then belts must be worn.
Walking Shorts/Skorts/Capris: Navy or Khaki twill. (stretch fabrics are not allowed) Knee length or longer (Top of knee) Same style and conditions as listed for pants
Skirts: Navy or Khaki twill. (stretch fabrics are not allowed) Knee length or longer (top of knee)
Same style and conditions as listed for pants.
Shirts: Shirts with collars may be long or short sleeved.
Traditional polo shirts: Button-placket, flat knit fabric (no snaps). If short sleeved, length should cover one-half of the upper arm. Solid colors without trim: True Red, Navy Blue, White, Powder Blue, Dark Green, Light Pink and Toano School Spirit colors of: Royal Blue and Orange.
Shirt color/shade variations are not allowed, for example: wine, maroon, turquoise, salmon, tan, beige, gold, lime, olive, etc.
Oxford cloth dress shirts: button-down collar, white or light blue. Denim is not an approved fabric.
Must be tucked in. If an undershirt is worn, as underwear,
it must be plain white and may not show at the shirtsleeves.
Unacceptable -- logos; monograms; tied up shirtsleeves; tee shirts; ribbed or denim fabrics; capped or cropped sleeves; Johnny collars.
Cardigans/Pullover Sweaters/Sweater Vests: Solid Navy or White only, without trim. Approved uniform shirts must be worn with these items with the collars out.
Sweatshirts: Crewneck sweatshirts and plain hooded sweatshirts that have zippers or are pullovers are allowed in the same colors as polo shirts: True Red, Navy Blue, White, Powder Blue, Dark Green, Light Pink, Royal Blue and Orange. Also allowed are TMS-approved spirit hooded sweatshirts in navy/orange/royal blue. Sweatshirts should fit the child, however, one size increase for growth is permissible.
Approved uniform shirts must be worn with these items with the collars out. No logos
Shirt color/shade variations are not allowed, for example: wine, maroon, turquoise, salmon, tan, beige, gold, lime, olive, etc.
Socks/Tights/Pantyhose: Matching solid colors, White, Navy, Khaki or Beige. Shoes: If shoes have laces, they must be laced up and tied.
Shoes with heels higher than two inches are not allowed.
Sandals and clogs must have a strap.
Flip-flops, bedroom shoes, fuzzy boots or beach sandals are not allowed.
Jewelry and Hair Accessories: Should be modest and not present a potential safety hazard to any student. Heavy chains with or without medallions, spikes, or any jewelry with inappropriate wording are not allowed.
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WOw,, seriously? alright, well, just try to conform, meanwhile, focus on stuff you can personalize like bags, hair accessories, and even notebooks or pens...cell phone cases.. this is just toooo long list.. i can imagine though the navy colors are nice.. maybe change hairstyles.. ?
I also come from a uniform school from pre school till uni and i just focused on cool stationery and bags....
sorry this i sjust what i can think of..
google cool stuff under "images" and maybe you will get some more ideas...
good luck! dont worry i am sure you will be able to rock the look!
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I'm 17/f
So my mum has always been like really overprotective of me and things, as in she barely lets me walk out of the house alone and when I do I have to bring my phone and text her, and she also tells me what coat to wear and things, despite me saying I'm old enough blah blah blah to decided.
Also, we always get in arguments. Like she woke me up today, just by coughing in the small hours on the landing but really loudly, so I jsut, you know groaned. And she went BALISTIC.
All day she's been going on how I shouted at her in the night and things, and I feel like saying well I'm just a teenager, and occaisonally I do get moody. But she doesn't understand!
I am going to Uni inSeptember, but want to solve this now.
What should I do to solve this? (link)
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Hi there!!
Guess what, Im 35 and my mom is STILL like that!!!
over, OVER protective...
ok, lets just think why they are acting this way..
1) there are so many terribe news about really bad happenings going on around us. they just want to keep us safe a spossible
2) Imgine if you were a mom and you had a precious daughter, im sure you would act the same (imagine your new phone or stuff, you want it with you all the time, what more a daughter)
3) on times when it really irritates you, just imagine how many times you must have been so irritating when you were a little baby, crying and so hard to feed etc etc, she was there for you and nurtured you and taught you what you are now.... she was patient with you and Im pretty sure it was hard for her too.. maybe its time now for us to be patient with them...
4) laugh it off, its hard, i know, but seriously, you HAVE a mom, imagine other kids with no mom, or no one caring for them, no text messages, no concern...
5) maybe understand she might be going through some emotional or physical stresses herself.. our mom's arent perfect.. sometimes they feel stuff too...
Reassure her all the time, and prove her wrong when she is worried.. be patient and im sure you will be back to having a healthy relationship again.
Hope i was able to help, youre not alone.. youre LUCKY! :)
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13/F
Everytime someone says something unusual, I always find something bad from if. Example: If someone says "Knife", I'll automatically think that person HAS one or will end up having one.
I get paranoid a lot and I can't get medication for it. What can I do? :( (link)
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seems youre always on survival mode, like you protect yourself all the time, not trusting others.
Since you are asking for help, that is the first step in realising that this is not acceptable behavior since we live in a society of people trusting each other.
Now, i think you can overcome this day by day taking baby steps.
Only mingle with people who are trust worthy. For example your parents. or children (who will not lie), teachers, people from the church, OR total strangers who would not lie to you like the baker, the pharmacist who are trustworthy to tell you everyday simple truths.
You have to reinforce the fact that people are not out to get you or deceive you or threaten you in any way.
Try to be a good example by not lying also... so others will treat you equally good.
avoid jokes and pranks.
Try to find the good in everyone.
Try to understand the motives in everyones actions. Its hard to judge (it is Wrong actually) and we dont know where they are coming from thats why they act that way but just trust them and trust in a higher being that you will be alright and nothing will harm you.
Believe that good attracts good. so be good and everything will be alright!
Dont worry too much!
Write in a journal!
Am sure you will get better soon!
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apathy.i think thats whats happening with me,i really dont care and i dont like that,any ideas how to get over it,im feel so emotionless,how did i even get here??? (link)
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Hello!! You know, sometimes i feel the same.. actually this advice column has helped me "reach out" to thers and care for others, try to read and give advice to others, it can help!
Secondly, try to start eating your favorite food, this will brightne up your mood! candy is good too! or an iced coffee!!
THird, you might wanna get into a creative hobby like journaling, drawing, or go cycling and sketch the landscape.. just try to get out of where you are and plan a picnic day!
Fourth, look at cute photos.. pets, food, or whatever youre interested in (google images has lots) it will brighten your mood.
Lastly, find your purpose... you HAVE a purpose in life (we all do) were usefull and we should try to find why we are here... maybe were here to support others, to inspire others, whatever you do, be a good example for others and you will feel better.
GOOD LUCK! i know you will get out of this soon!
I dont know if you are a boy or girl, or if my examples are not suited for you, but im sure you get what i mean! just go out! :) count your blessings!
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Okay, so I want to be a writer.
I have severe chronic depression... I have several medications for different issues (none of which I take...) but lately I've been getting really bad... So I guess I have to at least go back on one of my medications....
The problem is I FEEL so different on them... No one else can tell, but I can and I hate it. It's worse when I try to write, it's like the pills erase my creativity and my emotions which fuel my work.
So I need help, because I may have my boyfriend make me take my medication daily (because I'm obviously not doing it by myself) so what my issue is is I need help being able to do the only thing I actually feel passionate about, and care about doing, while the pills I have to take restrict my ability to do them...
Please help!! I don't want to choose between my writing and feeling okay... Because I'll probably choose my writing.. (link)
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Hello there!
You can actually write about THIS! about this issue about the creative and the plain you on meds... that would be a good book!
anyway.. you MIGHT want to ask your doctor why you feel different on the meds.. there are a whole lot of different brands out there, might be better for you.
keep on writing.. and even add drawings and also dont let the meds stop your creativity.
it will always be inside of you, whether you got meds or not!
this is actually a good topic to start your writing on!
GOOD LUCK!
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ok im 16 years old and im from Australia my question is why does my mum not listen to me or remember any thing i say
today i asked my mum when i woke up if she could take me to the shops so i could get a couple of things coz i was running out of toiletries and she said yea sure give me 5 minutes. so i gave her 5 minutes like she said and by the time i got to her room she was out and ready to go in to town and so was i and then she says to me can you watch the boys while i go and get some things from n town and then she walks out the door and takes my little sister with her. when she got back i asked her if she could take me into town and she said why didn't you ask me before i left and i said i already asked you before when you where in your room and she says no i didn't hear you. so i went back to my room and started to cry coz she never listens to me. i feel like she doesn't want me to do any thing except sit around and do nothing all weekend which is really boring.
i would just like to know what can i do to get her t start listening to me ???
i really want to fix the bad relationship between me and my mom (link)
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How's it goin?
Well, it can be a lot of things really.
Memory loss (like the previous reply)
Hearing loss (like what you said)
Distraction
Figure out why she is distracted.
Maybe she is too busy and you can help her with some chores.
Maybe you should have a big calendar and write down the things to do and up coming activities.
Just keep your cool and get into the habit of reminding her stuff.
Create a schedule or a routine. Like shoppping every saturday, bills every thursday.etc..
Keep things simple for everyone.
As soon as you understand what is going on with her, you will be able to address the problem properly.
Take it easy and keep on thinking of ways to make life easier for you all!
Cheers!
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I had this very important exam at university a couple of days ago and didn't pass it. Anytime something like this happens to me,I get really down and sad since I get really frustrated. Since that day I've been feeling really confused and hard to put up with. I've had lots of arguments with my boyfriend and the last straw was that I got a cold. Last night was our last argument since I sent him to hell because I was too irritated. All he was trying to do was help me out. I'm the worst and I don't know what to do. Because I want to respect him and I don't wanna call him again because I might do it again. I love him a lot but I'm so moody and immature that I'm pretty sure that I'm toxic to his life. Thanks for reading this. (link)
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Hi there!!
I do that too!
I know its terrible.
But Ive learned now how to control it.
DO NOT press the SEND button when you feel like you will write an unpleasant message.
DO NOT open your mouth if you will just make the other person feel / share your misery.
DO NOT think evil thoughts.
DO NOT blame others.
IN OTHER WORDS> WORK ON BEING AS NICE AS POSSIBLE.
you will actually gain others swympathy this way. NOt sharhing the pain and misery.
Stop worrying too much. Take it easy . remember its not the end of the world, so you have another chance to do your best and keep on imporving yourself next time.
an italian saying goes like this:
Si pigliano piu mosche in una gocciola di miele che in un barile d'aceto
You catch more flies with honey than a barrel of vinegar
Meaning be nice... people like it more!
Last thing: it adds age to our face and stress to our body when we are at our worst...so
Brighten up and try to be a better person / girlfriend...
good luck and smile!!! :)
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I need to get my life together. I have all the tools...just a little push. The next year and a half is going to make or break me. I'm a junior in college and I'm trying to get into graduate school. If i don't get my act together, get straight A's, and make my resume as amazing as possible...I don't see that happening...and my lifeplan will be shot to hell..
SO....this is where you come in...
ANYONE
its not much i would appreciate ANYTHING from ANYONE.
I just need some motivation...
It could be a movie that really inspires you...a song...a book..a quote....something your grandma said last week.
I need a trigger to get me started
I have been so depressed lately that I can barely get myself out of bed. Mostly because I've been very lonely... but I can't whine about being alone forever I need to DO SOMETHING.
HELP A GIRL OUT! (link)
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go to a nice art supply shop and get a really nice journal and cool pens and write write write what you feel!! be creative and it will be helpful in letting things out, discovering about yourself, get artisitc, and a good distraction, and it will keep you going!
Good luck on your goals and also take it easy!
WHAT THE MIND CAN CONCIEVE THE BODY CAN ACHIEVE!!!
All the best!!!
Prove everyone wrong!!
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So I think I'm in love with my best friend, but I'm not 100% sure. I want to talk to him most of the time, be with him in some way when I get older, hug him, hold his hand, laugh with him, cry with him, etc. I don't want to be with him 24/7 though, and again, I'm not quite sure if I'm actually in love or not. But he's asked me out 2 times now and both times I've said no. Does this mean I don't really love him or am I just not ready for a relationship? I don't know, I'm just confused. (link)
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Hi there!
A priest once said, being in love is not focusing on the other person.. its BOTH of you focused on one direction!
you should both feel the same and have a common goal , a higher purpose..
its really good that youre best friends and you know each other and just want to get to know each other more. Figure out what your friend wants and if it is the same as yours why dont you give it a try?
You can go out with your friend and set limits like, go out and meet other friends too, or meet at a common place like a coffee shop, or set time limit like after class but not for dinner... just take it easy and set some boundaries first and see the reaction of your best friend.
it should all be alright!
Its a nice feeling, right? savor the moment!
Good luck and focus on your wonderful self in the process!
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i dont know me anymore.my people ,the ones i care about ,i no longer feel they care for me.it really really hurts me n then i try to make them feel bad and hurt them in return,and then things get more complicated.they begin to think of me as the one who hurts them whereas i did whatever i did to make them care for me. (link)
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Stop right there....
Feel the beauty of your surroundings...
Celebrate life ...
LOVE IS IN THE AIR...
care by being nice, NO MNATTER WHAT they say, or think...even if you dont get it back...
It will, i promnise, one day .. all the good you give will go back at ya...!
Just do not get tired of loving and doing good and being a good example!
take it easy and count your blessings!
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Every year my boyfriend goes to The Vibes. For those of you who aren't familiar with it, its a annual four-day music, camping and arts festival thing. well last year I didn't go with him because we weren't dating at the time, although last year he texted me saying "i wish you were here, that'd be cool" (this is when we first starting talking).
Anyway.. last night I was over his house and he was telling me funny stories about his time at the vibes last year, and I said "I want to go with you this year!" and I was excited because I never went, and I invited myself because I figured he wanted me there since he said he wished I was there last year. Anyway, when I said that, he hesitated sort of and didn't sound as enthusiastic as I'd hoped. So I became immediately offended and I was just like "Okay... if you don't want me to go then just say so." ANd he's like "thats not the case at all" and Im like "so.. what is it then?" and hes like "Well I just dont want you to be uncomfortable.. because I'm gonna be doing stuff" and IM like "okay.... what stuff?" and hes like "well there are a lot of drugs going on there. and im like "yeah, i know you smoke a lot of weed. big deal" and hes like "well I may do shrooms too" and i was a little ehhh about that because i just dont really like more than weed but I sucked it up and didnt want to be controlling so I said "okay. thats fine." If thats what he likes to do to have a good time there every year then i cant really make him not do that. but then hes like "and i take some percocet" when he said that my mood immediately changed, and he noticed. and we ended up sitting down and talking about it and I told him that really makes me uncomfortable because its just not natural. and hes like "its my body (blah blah blah)... and all that. ANd my brother used to be addicted to Oxycontin, and he knows this. and idk.. the point I'm trying to get at here before i completely bore you guys, is that I want to go with him but 1. i dont want him taking pills he has NO prescription for. and 2. i feel wrong being around that after what my brother went through. And my boyfriend has no addictions gto anything. this is something he just does once a year at the vibes. But I really wanted to share this with him and go and its like he'd rather pop a few pills then to go with me. Thats how it feels and when i explained this to him hes like "thats not the case. and i only take 10mg at a time. and i dont drink with it." i know it wont turn into a problem for him but thats not the point. the point is hes pushing me to the side, and instead of just saying "you know what? forget it i wont take the pills id rather just be with you. if it makes you that uncomfortable its okay"... he just is stubborn and its making me feel really left out. I want to go but its like he doesnt wnat me to even if he says he does. hes very honest to the point its blunt sometimes so I know hes not LYING to me by saying he wants me to go. but its the point that hes willing to leave me out just to take some pills. What do I do? should i be offended? should i talk to him again even though i already did? should i be worried about him? should ijust let it go? is 10mg really that big of a deal? please share your stories! I'm really worried and cant stop obsessing over this...... (link)
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Hi there!
Follow your gut, girl!
We really cant change what is going on in his mind (all boys).
We just gotta be the best we can be THAT will make him love us.. like love us and treat us properly.
Youre right, why does he prefer the drugs than you? well he just does...
Its a bitter pill, my dear... but there is someguy out there special for you and will treat you like you want and like what you dream of. I dont think its this one, because at the start, he is acting like what he wants- his way- and not sensitive or thoughtful about you. SO there might be some trouble at the end...
Dont worry too much... just remain friends but save some dignity and go be the best you can be... the right guy will eventually find you!
(sorry if i am too blunt? just my opinion here)
Smile!
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I'm a sophomore in college and I'm having a really hard time with stress and motivation. I'm not lazy, I don't lay around and watch tv all day; I just focus on unimportant things and can't motivate myself to do necessary things. In high school, I developed depression very badly and I had trouble motivating myself to do things that needed to get done. I went to therapy and got a lot better and was fine for a while. But now I'm starting to have the motivation problems again. I didn't feel depressed like I was but I started going back to therapy just to talk to her about it in hopes to prevent my depression from coming back. Well, from the things I was struggling with, she concluded that I must have ADHD, and after doing some tests, she diagnosed me with it. I started taking Adderall 2 months ago and at first, it helped a lot. I would take it and get things done that I needed to. I was able to focus in school. But now when I take it, I can't bring myself to do things I NEED to do, even though I have the ability to focus and actually get it done. What do I do to MOTIVATE myself? I don't want to use my ADHD as a crutch but no matter how hard I try, my lack of motivation overpowers me. I can't just "do it" and get something over with. It is actually HARD to will myself. (link)
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Hi there!!
I admire you that you do not want ADHD to be your "crutch" and you are reallly finding ways to make yourself do what is important. Bravo!
I am not a doctor so i cant help you with the meds.
Can you recall what made you get by during the first therapy sessions, you said you got better and was fine for a while....try to recall what made you turn around then...
Maybe you need to write down things to do, put numbers (priorities) and time duration for each. You will have to check or tick off what you have done and it will give you a sense of satisfaction to see lots of checks at the end of the day!
( i even do this to remind me to drink 8 glasses of water a day!)
You can also "reward" yourself after doing those important things. SImple pleasures like a nice cold milk tea (or a hot chocolate) whatever you like when you get things done.
Another thing also is to tell someone about the things you have to do. This way you will be accountable to this person. Just tell them what you "plan" to do and report when you have done it.
THese are some things i have just thought of.
Good luck and dont be to hard on yourself too, just prioritize!! ALl the best!
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I really like this guy but I dont know if he does. How can I know if he likes me? (link)
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Hi there!
Lucky girl!
well its kinda simple...
1- he seems to be always there (text messages, or calls, or visits, or just generally making his presence felt where as before he was a nobody...)
2- he cares and asks your whereabouts and what your up to...
3- he replies quickly on text messages
4- he goes out of your way for you
5- he is the first "good morning" and the "last goodnight"
6- he plans stuff for you two together
7- he makes an effort to know your likes, hobbies, sports and interests (and sometimes becomes his interests too or at least gives it a try..)
well these are some that i can think of. ALSO dont forget there are different kinds of like too.. he might like you as a sister, as a friend, as a girlfriend, as a shoulder to cry on, as a work mate, as a confidante...
and its always good to know which kind of like this is so that you wont expect or he wont get the wrong impression as well..
Good luck hope i was able to help somehow!!
have a wonderful day!
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