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Everyone is fake....
Im really tired of people being so fake. And I try to be cool about but but it's pissing me off. I want to ditch my friends who are fake without any drama or any fighting. If u have any ideas I would love that. Also I feel like sometimes I'm not being myself either. But I don't know how to be myself sometimes when I'm around people, like friends and stuff. I also I'm scared to be myself cause there are this kids that say their my friend( I didn't believe them) but never talk to me or anything and they talk behind my back. What should I do about theses things???
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If you want to stop hanging out with your friends then just stop talking to them as much and stop hanging out with them as much. If they start drama when they start to notice, don't bother with it. Don't fight with them or anything, just be like whatever and move along.
Everybody is different around different people. I'm shy around people I don't really know because I'm not comfortable around them. I'm different completely comfortable around my boyfriend and my friends because they know me, I trust them and I feel like I can do whatever. I'm kinda blah at home and don't say or do much because it's just who I am at home.
So honestly, the reason why you're scared to be more of yourself around people is because you don't trust them and they aren't really your friends. I can say you just shouldn't care what they think, which would be really good but everyone always cares, even just a little bit. So just become comfortable with yourself first. Learn to love yourself and make some new friends who won't talk behind your back and act like jerks.
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Just stop talking to them less and less and slowly and quietly drift away from them. If they do notice and make a big deal out of it then just refuse to be bothered with it. Don't answer their texts , and just ignore them. Don't even say anything, just stay out of it and eventually theyll take the hint and go away. I had to do this last year with a fake friend, the closer u were to them the hard it probably will be. However itll work, just cut them off completely. And if u HAVE to talk or work with them then don't seem overfriendly. Just make it vague and er..businesslike I guess, so they don't get the impression you guys are still friends. Just continue to ignore them and eventually they wont bother you anymore. As for being yourself..well you shouldn't be afraid to be yourself. If you be someone your not then youre just wasting time and trying to impress people that arent even good enough to get the real you. If they make you feel uncomfortable about you being yourself then maybe you should look for other friends. You don't deserve to be bothered with fakeness and people stabbing you in the back. Just get away from all that. Get to know other people who seem genuine and accepting. But be careful people could be deceiving. Just try making new friends, being yourself and all that and see how they react or if theyre fake and talk behind your back..and if they do, go on to someone else. And don't ever feel lonely, just because these people are fake doesnt mean everyone is and it doesnt mean you wont find a true friend. Just keep trying, be yourself and dont settle for less than a good friend who accepts you for you. Hope that helped
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Hey there!
Bad news is, everywhere around the world there are fake so called friends... believe me, different ages, race, its all over.
Good news is.. there are also a whole lot of honest to goodness, sincere people!
We just have to fill the world with our positive spirit. Let us live a life of being a good example. When we are good friends, when we are honest, hopefully the people around us will learn from that. If not, then just leave them, they are no good for you!
THey will realize soon that its better to be honest and sincere.
Remember your manners, common courtesies and dont try to offend people and you will be fine.
THe people youre talking about are insecure. So try to be the best that you can be. Do your own thing. Am sure you will find someone with the same values as you have.
Good luck. Dont give up. We need more honest people like you! Smile always!
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Lot of points here!
Its hard without knowing your age...
But if you are in the middle of your teenage years, then self identity is very hard to find.
To be yourself, you need a goal. A career goal for example. Then work towards it, do extra activities. Take up new interesting hobbies. Create a life for yourself, and its the first step to being yourself.
You need to have confidence. Be comfortable sitting alone sometimes, and don't rely on friends or others too much.
Being yourself is about stepping outside of your comfort zone-you wont want to as your scared of being judge, but the more you do it, the more you'll be accepted for being you.
You need to become less anxious too. Accept people talk behind your back. No matter who you are, this happens to everyone. You may not think it, but thats because some people deal with it better than others. Acept it, but don't jump to judge it, because what they say 9 x out of 10 wont be rational or backed up by evidence anyway.
Once you learn to hush the negative comments and replace them with positive things, and have ambitious goals and work towards them, being yourself will come naturally. The best thing to do is to forget about being yourself!
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