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i like him again..
Ok so 13 f and dont get me wrong here because people my age where i live are super mature and have good relationships even at this age so do not judge. Ive liked this guy named sam (12m) since the beginning on summer. He and i have had our ups and downs and in august we just stopped talking for no reason. Then in october he asked me to hang out with him and another of his friends and i brought one of my friends. We acted as a couple and hugged and held hands ect. The next day we also hung out again at his house while his parents were working and watched a movie and he put his arm around me. After that weekend of october 5, we stopped talking again for no reason. On december 24th, i got a bunch of questions about him on my qooh.me wall. Then about 2 min after i answered the last one, sam messaged me on facebook. I asked him a question and said " we havent talked since october. Why all of a sudden have u decided to msg me?" he answered and said that he had no reason to stop talking to me. Then after about a week of flirting through text but not talking in person, we stopped talking yet again. Then at the end of january, i founs out that he had a girlfriend. I have notjing against her bc shes suh a nice girl and shes so lucky to be with him but i was kinda hurt. All of our flirting and all oof the thought about him and i was gone and i felt nothing for him anymore. I started cutting because my life had gone downhill in february. I cut and cut and cut. Only 2 of my best friends knew i cut and tried to stop me but i was in a bad stage of depresion. I got over my depression in march and yesterday sam put a status on fb for tbhs. I liked it to see what he would say. He told me that weve been through so much and he misses talking to me and that he really did want to ask me out at one point because he used to love me as a friend and like like me too. He said that he wants us to talk more because he has missed the part of his life he had thrown away. After readig that tbh, i felt numb. I didnt know wbat to say because it brought me to tears. Im starting to care alot for him now and i really like him and i have all along. It hurts me to know that hes dating a great girl but i still really like him and i never stopped liking him. He left for myrtle beach yesterday and ive been trying to txt him but i cant bring myself to doing so. Please help me! All i want is input on all of this and some advice on what to say. Should i do a tbh status and hope that he likes it?
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screw him>. i went through the exact same thing. its not like you dont want to just let him be and laeve him alone and walk away, but just thinking that gets you scared. you think : "but what about all the time we had together." ; "what if i'll always love him" ; "it couldn't have all been a lie"
then you start telling yourself it was all i lie and start getting pissed at him. just when you think you hate him enough and dont feel the pain, he come back around. and that after feeling numb, obsessing, crying, feeling your heart break, staring, some desperation and try to talk to him.
well, dont be scared. youre frnds are there :) if you needed a guy like him, maybe some years later you guys might meet again n things will be better. but for now, just ignore him. and guys like him? he'll get a blow to his ego. then, you think about it, yourself : is it all worth it?
honestly, im 15. i've been going through the exact same thing for 2 yrs! hell, i even went out with aguy just get over him just last year! but all i got was a bad ex.
he's not worth it. it took me 2yrs to realize that. it drives you insane! but once he's out of your life, things will get better. sure, just once in a while you might miss him. so, when i say ignore, i mean start with just being aquantices. sure, that sucks, right? just how you started. and how can you forget a person you know so damn well!
well, you wont forget him. you'll know him. but in sometime, you'll learn from him. and after some time, you will be over him.
maybe it sounds too...impossible... but i know just how it is. i have kickass 2yr experience on this. please, unlike me, dont waste 2 yyrs of your life when you lfe ahead of you :) maybe yrs from now, you might meet agn, n things will be better, but fr now he's jst a jackass that you need to leave.
its not going to be very easy. but nor was knowing him so well. maybe knowing him just came to you, but it wasnt easy. things got mixed up at times. you know favourite colour, but you also know just how he'll react in situation...or how he feels in situation. he mightve even told you tht you know him better thn he knows himself.
i'm just saying theres nothing you can do. if he's come back again, dont treat him like he's your life. beleive me. its you who needs to be saved. and its only you who can save you. he's fine. and even if he isnt, its all his fault. ya, you promised urself, youll help him no matter what...but you cant help him. he's...just...way below your standards. i know thats hard to belive, but its true. if you really love him and he really loves you, let it be later...not now :)
everything's gonna be okay. i promise. just be polite to him, thts it. dont get too close. even when you keep a distance, he'll walk away again...and trust me, it wasnt your fault. he was there when you needed him. god wanted you to be okay. right now, you just need to learn that true can wait...all your life...which is why help was provided to you in this way :) your special. god took care of when you needed caring and gave a lesson when you needed one. just be grateful that he's paying attention to you out of those billions out there :) you dont need a guy. you need yourself. i know you feel you arent pretty enough or smart enough...especially compared to tht gf...and the worst is she used to hate you, but randomly shes nice to you now. so you cant say shes a bitch. correct me if im wrong there.
but i do think, you have to leave him...and lean on frnds if you need to for a while. things will be okay :) <3
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I completely understand your situation. The thing is, he doesn't seem like a stable guy.
Like, he randomly stop talking to you. He can't keep it up.
He flirts, holds your hand, but doesn't ask you out.
He stops talking and then gets a girlfriend.
He currently has a girlfriend but he's telling you he misses you.
For one thing, he doesn't treat his current girlfriend very good. He is talking to another girl (you) and saying he misses her. It's not good, which on the other hand, he's doing the same thing to her.
I dated a guy like this and it was terrible.
Wondering if he's talking to another girl, wondering if he's going to talk to me.
He needs to realize he can't keep doing that, he can't keep you guessing and he can't keep coming back knowing you will be there. You like him a lot, he knows that and you know that. So he knows he can leave, go get a girlfriend but then come back and talk to you. It's not right.
I think you shouldn't text him, I think you should start keeping him guessing and give yourself some time.
You said his girlfriend is a nice girl and I'm sure she doesn't deserve this either.
Anyways, don't let him get to you like this. I believe you really like him but I think he thinks he can get away with jumping back and forth.
Good luck, everything will turn out fine.
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Hi there!!!
"tbh" i think you are just in love with the idea of being in love.
seriously, IF you do get together, wont you have doubts and get sick of when he pulls again the "he is not talking again" and "he has a girlfriend" thing to you? I mean its all about TRUST in relationships. I find it hard to find that in you because i "think" that this guy wants the best of both worlds, a girlfriend and the flirting with you. Im sure he is nice and all, but he should be a whole lot nicer to treat you as special as if you are the most precious thing in the world, not just pop up when he wants to...
You are still young, you will get to meet other guys, dont waste your time on this one or just be friends, but i am telling you, if you do get together you will just be miserable thinking at the back of your mind every single moment if this guy is being truthful with you or if he will cheat on you (because you know that he already did and is capable to treating you again as bad)
Sorry for being blunt and all.. but this is just what i feel...
I know it sucks but life goes on and there is a perfect guy made for you- as you are also the perfect girl made for him.. you will both find each other- i just feel its not this one.
Pray and you will be guided accordingly.
Good luck and dont worry to much, focus on school and hobbies and other friends... be the best you can be.. you will be alright! Let this one regret NOT HAVING you because you definitely deserve someone better!
:)
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