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why are people always like "oh you shouldnt have sex you're too young, wait for marriage." just because one person believes you should wait til marriage doesnt mean everyone else does and has to abide by that. people shouldnt be judged on what age they want to have sex at. it is THEIR opinion. and if they regret it, at least they learned from it. everyone makes mistakes. it is their OWN lives and people shouldnt tell them how to live or what to do.
i know I HATE when people tell me what to do.
i can make my own decisions.
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I agree. It shouldnt matter what age someone has sex as long as they knew they were ready & they knew the risks. Sex is a respect thing. Just because you have sex at a young age doesn't mean you dont respect yourself. It bothers me too when people judge basied on age of sex. If you regret it, lean from it like you said. A mistake is a mistake no one is perfect. So basicly, I don't think you're taking this to seariously.. I agree.
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Well people are entitled to their own opinions. We're all diffrent people, and diffrent people have diffrent views, points, and opinions about something. In the US we are entitled to express our opinions, we're very fortunate to have that cause look in other countries they'll literally cut your head off just for expressing your own opinions.
Some people have diffrent beliefs, because of religion. Some people have the same beliefs , so when you're like say 12-19 yrs. old you're still a teenager you're most likely to hear grown-ups and their kids (which is why some of us say the same things because its learned from their parents and other people) that your to young to be having sex. Those ages in your life your still learning and are learning to become an adult. And most kids those ages 12-19 are still living with their parents so making a rational decision to have sex has MAJOR consequences; You just have to look at the outcomes.
JUST KNOW THIS:
1. There is always gonna be consequences for every decision or action you make, you just have to weigh them out and see which one has less.
2. Yes, EVERYONE is entitled to their own opinion, but there is ALWAYS going to be someone to tell you what to do.
Your going to have a job, if you don't already have one, you'll have one soon to support yourself. Your boss is going to tell you what to do, and you can't just throw that out cause he more than likley fire you.
3.If a person regretted a situation and learned from it thats okay but you just you want to be able to keep yourself from making these kind of mistakes, you can learn from other peoples mistakes, and prevent yourself from making that mistake.
4. Yes, you can make your own decisions but just think about the consequences and the outcomes.
If you are mature enough to think things through then I'm sure you're mature enough to make your own decisions.
5. There is ALWAYS going to be someone in your life who is going to tell you what to do, Thats all a part of life, you just have to deal with it.
Like when friends come and go, or someone is jealous of you, thats life. People have their opinions and they're diffrent, that's life.
Think things through before you get pissed off at someone telling you what to do, everyone has diffrent opinions and more than likely if you jsut listen to what people have to say, there is somewhere going to be a person that you'll likely to reason with.
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When you ask questions you get answers based on peoples experience and what they have learned or been taught themselves. Thats what asking is about.
When you decide to have sex is up to you.
However, a lot of times age is a big factor weather you believe that or not. If you just
go by the population of young people that use
this site you can see it.
Look at some of the questions we get....
'I just had sex we didn't use protection, could I be pregnant?'.
'We had sex the condom broke, could I be pregnant?'
'My boyfriend fingered me, could I be pregnant?'
'My period is late, could I be pregnant'
'What are the symptoms of pregnancy?'
None of these people have any business having sex.
They are immature. The time to ask these questions is BEFORE you have sex.
You are right, everyone makes mistakes. Some mistakes can be life altering mistakes though.
Get pregnant, or get AIDS and you life as you
know it is over.
Then of course when young people have children when they are 14 years old and have to get state
assistance they are a burden on all taxpayers.
So, their opinions, while not popular make a lot of sense should young people decide to listen.
My advice to my own daughter on this subject was always.. When you are able to care for a child
should you get pregnant, and if the guy you
are having sex with cares enough about you to marry you should you get pregnant, then you
think about having sex with them. Not a minute
before.
Anyway, long way to make a point. But there you
have it. :)
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Sex isnt a step that you can say oops that was a mistake, well i will just go back to being a virgin, you only have one first time, and you should not only love and trust who you are with, but you should also love yourself, and who you are, when you can do this you will be able to make the right decisions for yourself, please keep in mind that you will only hurt yourself, not the people telling you no. And think of all the diseases, and unplanned preg. I know you will calm down, stop yelling and take the mature rational road to your future. by the way the ave. life span is around 90 so you have plenty of time to think this over. just take a few deep breaths. Brie
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You really take opinions like that too seriously. When you ask for advice here, thats what you get, different opinionated people. And maybe some of those people who give advice to wait have learned that from a mistake of having sex young, so they are trying to help you, not boss you around.
Plus, nobody is trying to make you not have sex. And if people are trying to tell you what to do, then tell that to them, this really isn't a place to complain about what other people say.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hey there,
I do agree with you to a certain extent. I do agree with the part about people saying that others shouldn't have sex until they are married, not everything thinks the same!!
But about being judged on what age people have sex, now in my opinion I think that people who are 12, 13, 14, and maybe even 15 years old are a little bit too young to be having sex.
I honestly don't think that they are able to deal with the consequences of having sex (such as pregnancy)
I guess that is why people say wait don't have sex at that age because the consequences are huge! I know when I was that age I was hardly responsible of looking after myself let alone looking after me and a baby!
But it doesn't mean people are judging them, they just don't agree with what they are doing.
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ALL teenagers hate when people tell them what to do.
And ALL adults which they could teach teenagers some lessons from the stupid mistakes that they made as teenagers. LOL.
This is just a fact of life. Has always been like that, and probably always will be.
Some things just don't change.
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there are lots of morals people believe in, some are because of there religion and some people just believe that there right. people believe all sorts of crazy things lol but your right different people have different morals and it doesnt mean everyone has to go by them.
i believe everyone has the right to make up there own mind...and i think you shouldnt have sex unless you have a bf or gf and you have been together long enough to trust them and that your first time shouldnt be with some random but someone you completly trust or love. and that you dont have to wait until marriage being in a strong relationship is good enough.
everyone has different oppinions towards different things...
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This doesn't really qualify as a question simply because you're ranting about how people tell you what to do.
However, in most cases, you're wrong. Some people aren't like that so before you stereotype, please think everything out. It can cause you to sound horribly wrong & horribly idiotic at the same time.
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Well, dear. Not everyone says to wait until marriage. And really, if a person got replies of someone's opinions on when someone should have sex, that implies that the person asked some people, thus people in return gave them their opinions. Nothing to get mad about.
And some people may be speaking from their own experience and they know that they were like the questionaer when they were young or thought the way you did. and they would just like to inform. It's not like they're saying "You're too young. Don't have sex orI'll shoot you." They're simply expression their opinions on the age for sex because someone asked for them.
Also, it may just be they grew up old school and they're set in their own ways.
~Emily
15/f
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